Anonymous wrote:Yes- but it is very rare

It’s not that rare. Menopause babies are not uncommon in women who have already had babies. A friend was the ninth baby and born shorty after her mother’s 50th birthday in 1970.

Yep, my mom did.

When I was about to undergo a cardiac procedure in my mid-thirties, a nurse asked me if I could be pregnant. When I said no, she told me that they’d be doing a blood test to confirm that I wasn’t because it’s part of their standard protocol and that they’d once been about to perform a procedure on a 51 year old woman, but had to cancel it because the blood test revealed that she was pregnant, even though she didn’t know it yet. The nurse said that because of that case, they always perform the blood test until a woman is several years into menopause. She said she shares this anecdote with all female patients to explain why they have to have the pregnancy test before procedures. She told me that she was giving this spiel to a patient when the woman replied, “Yes, that was me. I had the baby and now I’m finally here to have the procedure.”

I had my first at 43 and at 45 trying for my second. I suffered from infertility for many years and finally got pregnant naturally after doin keto for three months.

As someone who is 42 and has been trying for a 4th for over a year without a single BFP, I'd say it is very difficult and emotionally depressing.

I had a surprise baby one week before I turned 44. He is now 11. I do have three older children, however.

I went to Catholic school in the 1970s/early 80s. While I was an only child because my mother was a widow, most of my classmates had multiple siblings. My high-school classmates often had infant siblings. Having a baby in your 40s was extremely common. Again, though, these mothers started having babies in their 20s.

My OB once told me that the latest spontaneous pregnancy he had seen was in a 49-year-old woman. She was healthy and fit, swam every day, baby was fine. I recall he said that the woman did have a much older child.

Anonymous wrote:49 year old friend pregnant with her surprise "menopause" baby.

Yep, my grandmother had her 7th 3 months after turning 49. Her 6th had been born shortly after she turned 45.

Anonymous wrote:49 year old friend pregnant with her surprise "menopause" baby.

Wow, how far along is she?

49 year old friend pregnant with her surprise "menopause" baby.

Yes and it's not rare but for various reasons (health, finances, stigma) a lot of women don't.

Anonymous wrote:I did. I’d call it more uncommon than rare.

what's the difference?

Uncommon, but that’s because most 44 year olds don’t want more kids and use protection. I have quite s few friends who have all ivf kids and never used protection in their marriages. Surprise babies in their 40d

Nope, ignore the stories about I know someone who did.

Anonymous wrote:I do my friends rest naturally at 43.

Yikes. That should be “I had my first naturally at 43.”

I do my friends rest naturally at 43.