I know many women who leave certain tasks for their husband to deal with. A dead mouse or a big insect or a loud noise or a tripped switch or a leaky pipe etc.

All things she could very easily handle on her own and deal with just like other women do but to many women, these are husband things.

I think it is perfectly normal to have certain things that are on one spouse or the other. If it is was an emergency, then I assume he could make a call but if not and you know it is something that really bothers him, why not do it.

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Anonymous wrote:Social anxiety, needs counseling. His lashing out at you was wrong, but it comes from embarrassment, shame, masked as anger. Forget this; it’s hurtful, but small potatoes. Ask him to seek counseling for the bigger problem.

Agree with the above. You can’t keep kicking this can down the road, it’s not fair to either of you. God forbid something happens to you and he has to act like a responsible adult all of a sudden. What type of work is he In? Must be some type of construction or manual work, most white collar type employments could never deal with this type of behavior.

Ditto. And do you have kids? He will need to handle all sorts of social situations and awkward conversations once kids come along and you can’t expect that burden to fall entirely on you.

And this is why people don't talk about mental health issues.

I'd have asked him to call the first, second and third times he asked, pointing out that he did in fact have a phone literally in his hand at all the times he asked. I then would have asked him what was wrong because he sounds like a toddler reminding you of the snack they need so badly that they will surely not eat/and will spill all over the place once they get it. Daft.

I am like this. DH would make the call for me but I do a ton of stuff for him so I definitely carry my weight in the family.

I use up all my anxiety management skills making work calls, at home DH lets me off the hook. But I would never speak to him the way your DH spoke to you. He was wrong but you were being passive aggressive back, it's not a healthy dynamic.