Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:By this thread, you’d think a lot of people sent out thank you notes, but I’ve received very few— and this is across a wide range of demographics (my kid’s preschool served a very different demographic than her ES). My BFF’s kids always do it. We always do them. Ummmm a couple of other random kids through the years. Maybe. And these are lovely people. I don’t judge them on a moral level, but it’s a little disappointing.

I think that's really good news. It's a stupid tradition that should go away. I am so glad to receive fewer of them every year. I still send them because if the gossiping harpies on this thread, but hate them.

+1. They’re silly. Who cares? Are you seriously giving/sending a $20 birthday gift to a freaking kid with the expectation of getting a 10 cent notecard back in return? Just save your postage and paper.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends on kid. Since age 3, I expect my kid to make some effort on thank you notes. Even if is just signing her name and drawing a pic. She is 6 now and is on her second order of personalized stationary. Im from the south so I think all cards should be monogrammed (and definitely don't have THANK YOU preprinted on them). Its sooooo tedious but my family really really loves to get them. They also send her tons of gifts so she better show some appreciation and make the effort. No excuses.

This sounds exhausting.

It is. But her grandparents put in a ton of effort to buy fun things for her, wrap every thing and then ship to her for every holiday. EVERY holiday including at pats day. Getting her to focus and write notes is tedious and I have told my parents they don’t need to do that but they seem to love it. So yes, my kid better show some damn effort and appreciation. It’s excruciating for me to push her to get through some of these notes. I told her she is welcome to call her grandparents and tel them not to send her anything else as an alternative. That doesn’t happen.I guess I’m a hard ass. Manners and home training matter.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends on kid. Since age 3, I expect my kid to make some effort on thank you notes. Even if is just signing her name and drawing a pic. She is 6 now and is on her second order of personalized stationary. Im from the south so I think all cards should be monogrammed (and definitely don't have THANK YOU preprinted on them). Its sooooo tedious but my family really really loves to get them. They also send her tons of gifts so she better show some appreciation and make the effort. No excuses.

Where do you order stationary from?

Minted

i think it's okay up until around age 4/5.

I think they are a great way to help little kids learn to write thank-you notes, without the mechanics of writing making it take forever and creating frustration. Anyone who wants to complain about getting the "wrong kind" of thank-you note has bigger issues. I'm just happy to get a note at all.

We sometimes get them, sometimes not.. don't care if they don't send one but do like reading the notes from the ones that are sent.

Anonymous wrote:By this thread, you’d think a lot of people sent out thank you notes, but I’ve received very few— and this is across a wide range of demographics (my kid’s preschool served a very different demographic than her ES). My BFF’s kids always do it. We always do them. Ummmm a couple of other random kids through the years. Maybe. And these are lovely people. I don’t judge them on a moral level, but it’s a little disappointing.

DD is only 3 but we go to about 7 birthday parties a year. I haven't ever NOT received a thank you card. Our birthday parties are with moms group and playgroup friends though, so I know the moms really well. Maybe it's different when you invite daycare classes and the parents don't know each other at all.

Anonymous wrote:By this thread, you’d think a lot of people sent out thank you notes, but I’ve received very few— and this is across a wide range of demographics (my kid’s preschool served a very different demographic than her ES). My BFF’s kids always do it. We always do them. Ummmm a couple of other random kids through the years. Maybe. And these are lovely people. I don’t judge them on a moral level, but it’s a little disappointing.

I think that's really good news. It's a stupid tradition that should go away. I am so glad to receive fewer of them every year. I still send them because if the gossiping harpies on this thread, but hate them.

My son is severely dyslexic. I mean could barely write his name at age 5 levels of dyslexia. Just doing the pre-printed ones was an arduous task, which we did (painfully and slowly) because I didn't want him to face nasty parents gossiping about him. I strongly believe people who care deeply about thank you notes and track whether they're sent, judge children, etc. are extraordinarily rude and unpleasant people, and you have all confirmed it. You are the nasty child-gossipers as well. Ugh. Disgusting people.

It is fine. Don't overthink this.

I had my Kindergarten use the fill in the blank thank you cards. It was still a lot of writing, he had to write who the gift was from what the gift was, what he liked about it and sign his name, and repeat that 15 times.. I thought was very appropriate for a 5yr old.

I think they are perfect for the K and under set and a good foundation for thank you writing.

By this thread, you’d think a lot of people sent out thank you notes, but I’ve received very few— and this is across a wide range of demographics (my kid’s preschool served a very different demographic than her ES). My BFF’s kids always do it. We always do them. Ummmm a couple of other random kids through the years. Maybe. And these are lovely people. I don’t judge them on a moral level, but it’s a little disappointing.

I don't think they are. Maybe for 5 and under though?

Anonymous wrote:Yes, but far better than no thank you card at all.

+1 Plus, a good way to get them in the habit.