Anonymous
Post 06/12/2019 16:13     Subject: Dating single moms?
Anonymous wrote:

I wouldn't tell any guy that because YES it will send the wrong impression. If you want to get married someday I'd really get to know the guy first. Let the sex come after you think he may be the one. Otherwise you're wasting your time imo. Not to mention putting your health at risk. Do you do health screenings with these guys before you sleep with them. Not a bad idea...especially if you want to get married in a few years.


You probably mean well, PP, but no, I will not wait to have sex until I know I want to marry him. I have been married before, don't need to do that again. Health wise, yes, valid point but not enough to refrain from it.


I mean't until you know him well and see a future. Sorry thought you said you wanted to get married again someday.
taketothebank
Post 06/12/2019 16:11     Subject: Re:Dating single moms?
I am 55-year-old single dad (empty nester).

Single moms (SM) are by far the best to date if you are looking for: great sex and a beautiful evening out (good conversation + fun to be around). A relationship where you can see her for these things seems to work quite well for most single moms older than 45 years old (the age range I most enjoy dating.)

Typically, the SM will write something in her online profile like "looking for that special someone to become part of our family" if they are looking for an LTR that would lead to marriage. This is not for me and, based on what is posted above, not for a number of SMs.


The majority of the SMs I have met (that are not looking for an LTR) are nice women looking for someone to treat them well during your time together (which often as easy as just listening to them and showing an interest in things they are interested in.) SMs often say their biggest complaint is that their XDH did not show that he cared about them (often, just taking the time to make sure they enjoy the sex is way more attention than they received post-divorce.) Providing oral sex, for example, can show a level of care they infrequently received while married.
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2019 16:07     Subject: Dating single moms?
Anonymous wrote:"My kids are My World!"


Single mom dating profile bingo:
- My kids are my world!
- Not looking for hookups
- Tired of boys, need a real man
- Strong and independent
- Don't need a father for my kids
- Curvy
- No time for games
- Love to laugh
- Love to travel
- Foodie
- Fluent in sarcasm
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2019 15:37     Subject: Dating single moms?


I wouldn't tell any guy that because YES it will send the wrong impression. If you want to get married someday I'd really get to know the guy first. Let the sex come after you think he may be the one. Otherwise you're wasting your time imo. Not to mention putting your health at risk. Do you do health screenings with these guys before you sleep with them. Not a bad idea...especially if you want to get married in a few years.


You probably mean well, PP, but no, I will not wait to have sex until I know I want to marry him. I have been married before, don't need to do that again. Health wise, yes, valid point but not enough to refrain from it.
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2019 15:36     Subject: Dating single moms?
Anonymous wrote:"My kids are My World!"


When I was helping my friend with her online profile I got a kick out of reading some profiles. A few said their kids must LIKE whoever they date...or end up with...LOL. Yeah right..
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2019 15:33     Subject: Dating single moms?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Single mom here with full custody. As a single parent yourself you know how hard it is to find time to date traditionally.

I met my current partner on a dating app so I don't think you should ignore that option. But You have to be very clear about what kind of relationship you want before you waste anyone's time (yours and theirs). Don't assume all single mothers are looking for a replacement daddy; you can find pretty much anything you want, you just have to be clear without being creepy. It's very doable.



This is very true. In my profile I was very honest about the type of relationship I was looking for and while it narrowed the playing field I know it was helpful. I wish more men did the same thing.


I did too and while I didn't write FWB that was what I was looking for. Someone like me with a limited amount of free time but the desire for good conversation, nice evenings out and great sex. The first guy lasted about six months before he started talking about our future together (not where I wanted to go) but I've been with the second guy for almost two years and things are great except we only get to be together once every two weeks or so. I'd like to get married again someday but it won't be for a few more years.


I also did not want to put in my profile that I am looking for sex, one, because I also want to go out dancing, movies, dinner, etc. and, two, I would tell the man in person if I liked him. So my profile reads something like "busy professional, mom; looking for a similar man" I had one guy message me he fits that what I am looking for and suggested that he come over with just his tool belt on
After that I wasn't sure if I am sending the wrong "code" with my profile


I wouldn't tell any guy that because YES it will send the wrong impression. If you want to get married someday I'd really get to know the guy first. Let the sex come after you think he may be the one. Otherwise you're wasting your time imo. Not to mention putting your health at risk. Do you do health screenings with these guys before you sleep with them. Not a bad idea...especially if you want to get married in a few years.
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2019 15:20     Subject: Dating single moms?
"My kids are My World!"
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2019 15:10     Subject: Dating single moms?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Single mom here with full custody. As a single parent yourself you know how hard it is to find time to date traditionally.

I met my current partner on a dating app so I don't think you should ignore that option. But You have to be very clear about what kind of relationship you want before you waste anyone's time (yours and theirs). Don't assume all single mothers are looking for a replacement daddy; you can find pretty much anything you want, you just have to be clear without being creepy. It's very doable.



This is very true. In my profile I was very honest about the type of relationship I was looking for and while it narrowed the playing field I know it was helpful. I wish more men did the same thing.


I did too and while I didn't write FWB that was what I was looking for. Someone like me with a limited amount of free time but the desire for good conversation, nice evenings out and great sex. The first guy lasted about six months before he started talking about our future together (not where I wanted to go) but I've been with the second guy for almost two years and things are great except we only get to be together once every two weeks or so. I'd like to get married again someday but it won't be for a few more years.


I also did not want to put in my profile that I am looking for sex, one, because I also want to go out dancing, movies, dinner, etc. and, two, I would tell the man in person if I liked him. So my profile reads something like "busy professional, mom; looking for a similar man" I had one guy message me he fits that what I am looking for and suggested that he come over with just his tool belt on
After that I wasn't sure if I am sending the wrong "code" with my profile


Guys like that likely show up with very small “screw drivers”.
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2019 15:01     Subject: Dating single moms?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Single mom here with full custody. As a single parent yourself you know how hard it is to find time to date traditionally.

I met my current partner on a dating app so I don't think you should ignore that option. But You have to be very clear about what kind of relationship you want before you waste anyone's time (yours and theirs). Don't assume all single mothers are looking for a replacement daddy; you can find pretty much anything you want, you just have to be clear without being creepy. It's very doable.



This is very true. In my profile I was very honest about the type of relationship I was looking for and while it narrowed the playing field I know it was helpful. I wish more men did the same thing.


I did too and while I didn't write FWB that was what I was looking for. Someone like me with a limited amount of free time but the desire for good conversation, nice evenings out and great sex. The first guy lasted about six months before he started talking about our future together (not where I wanted to go) but I've been with the second guy for almost two years and things are great except we only get to be together once every two weeks or so. I'd like to get married again someday but it won't be for a few more years.


I also did not want to put in my profile that I am looking for sex, one, because I also want to go out dancing, movies, dinner, etc. and, two, I would tell the man in person if I liked him. So my profile reads something like "busy professional, mom; looking for a similar man" I had one guy message me he fits that what I am looking for and suggested that he come over with just his tool belt on
After that I wasn't sure if I am sending the wrong "code" with my profile
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2019 14:56     Subject: Re:Dating single moms?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You get a 1 or 1.5 point boost in the Social Market Value of the woman you pull if you’re willing to date a single Mom.

Say the best you can pull is a 6. So if you go for a single Mom, you can now pull a 7.5. That’s without losing weight, getting fit, getting a promotion, or any of the other things you do to boost your own SMV. Just the instant decision to date single Moms has a +1.5 point impact in what you can bag.

Then consider this: you get this chick and wife her up. She knows what it’s like to be a single Mom, and she doesn’t want to go back. Once you’ve locked her in, have her go get new b***s. That would take her to an 8 or 8.5, a stone-cold MILF.

All because you opened yourself to dealing with a step kid.


This! With new boobs she’s be at least a Solid 8.

Lol

Not sure why but this post cracked me up.


lol same here. Mainly because it's so absurd and juvenile.


+3 - I feel like an old ex boyfriend of mine could have written this. Wifing chicks up and assigning SMV. Mr. W, is that you?


I’ve found that the guys most obsessed with SMV are those who have very low SMV.
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2019 14:47     Subject: Dating single moms?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Actually I think that from the perspective of a new suitor, a single mom who has custody is a much easier option than a single dad who doesn't.


How is that so? She is available 25% of the time, he is available 75% of the time.


Assuming partners cohabit or get married, a single mother is easier than a single father whose child doesn't live with him.


Easier? How? For who?

Marrying/cohabiting a single mother who has custody is certainly not easier for the man. So much so, you wonder why he'd even want to do that.

Marrying/cohabiting a single father whose child doesn't live with him -- what's hard about it? His kids stay over every other weekend or whatever - why is that harder than marrying/cohabiting with a single mom whose kids live with you 75% of the time?


I have no interest in marrying or cohabitation with a single father. Not only is blending families difficult but dealing with different custody schedules presents a whole other set of complications.


I don't know if you're the bolded PP, but you're not answering the question I asked about the bolded statements.

(That said, I agree with you, and I would not marry/cohabit with a single mom for the same reason.)
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2019 14:34     Subject: Dating single moms?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Single mom here with full custody. As a single parent yourself you know how hard it is to find time to date traditionally.

I met my current partner on a dating app so I don't think you should ignore that option. But You have to be very clear about what kind of relationship you want before you waste anyone's time (yours and theirs). Don't assume all single mothers are looking for a replacement daddy; you can find pretty much anything you want, you just have to be clear without being creepy. It's very doable.



This is very true. In my profile I was very honest about the type of relationship I was looking for and while it narrowed the playing field I know it was helpful. I wish more men did the same thing.


I did too and while I didn't write FWB that was what I was looking for. Someone like me with a limited amount of free time but the desire for good conversation, nice evenings out and great sex. The first guy lasted about six months before he started talking about our future together (not where I wanted to go) but I've been with the second guy for almost two years and things are great except we only get to be together once every two weeks or so. I'd like to get married again someday but it won't be for a few more years.
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2019 13:51     Subject: Dating single moms?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Actually I think that from the perspective of a new suitor, a single mom who has custody is a much easier option than a single dad who doesn't.


How is that so? She is available 25% of the time, he is available 75% of the time.


Assuming partners cohabit or get married, a single mother is easier than a single father whose child doesn't live with him.


Easier? How? For who?

Marrying/cohabiting a single mother who has custody is certainly not easier for the man. So much so, you wonder why he'd even want to do that.

Marrying/cohabiting a single father whose child doesn't live with him -- what's hard about it? His kids stay over every other weekend or whatever - why is that harder than marrying/cohabiting with a single mom whose kids live with you 75% of the time?


I have no interest in marrying or cohabitation with a single father. Not only is blending families difficult but dealing with different custody schedules presents a whole other set of complications.
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2019 13:42     Subject: Dating single moms?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Actually I think that from the perspective of a new suitor, a single mom who has custody is a much easier option than a single dad who doesn't.


How is that so? She is available 25% of the time, he is available 75% of the time.


Assuming partners cohabit or get married, a single mother is easier than a single father whose child doesn't live with him.


Easier? How? For who?

Marrying/cohabiting a single mother who has custody is certainly not easier for the man. So much so, you wonder why he'd even want to do that.

Marrying/cohabiting a single father whose child doesn't live with him -- what's hard about it? His kids stay over every other weekend or whatever - why is that harder than marrying/cohabiting with a single mom whose kids live with you 75% of the time?
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2019 13:35     Subject: Re:Dating single moms?
I met the guy I'm dating at my fitness center where we both take our children to the babysitting service it provides. After a few brief chats he invited me out which surprised me because I pretty much don't care what I look like when I'm working out. I wasn't looking to date because of all the complications so it was just luck.