Anonymous wrote:And then there was a bad night while we were planning the non-profit. Her husband texted her while we were out planning the org. And she cried. And she also told me I had made a me-too moment for her that she didn't mind because now we could be equal partners. And that she was committed to going forward, and we would be fine as partners as long as she stayed married. And that she regretted life choices in a way that implied her DH And the ride home is burned in my mind - it was clear her husband knew I had been inappropriate, she told him we were doing this anyway, he was angry, and she was sad. She has 2 DC. I felt tremendous regret over the me too moment, the consequences she was facing for starting the org, and my bad choices. And still had inappropriate feelings toward her that I knew I had to avoid ever pushing because her stuff was hard enough as was mine.
A “me too” moment means she felt you were inappropriate with her. She doesn’t want you hitting on her, and will only do this project with you if you stop behaving inappropriately.
Get some individual therapy. For real.