Anonymous wrote:My aunt, a mother of three young kids, found out she was being cheated on during her dying days with cancer. She found out by finding a piece of scrap paper comparing her with the other woman!

Today, 20 years after her death (yikes it's been that long) the man is still with the other woman but he made a point to never marry her out of respect for his kids.

If he respected his kids, he wouldn’t have treated their mother like trash. He hasn’t married the OW because he doesn’t respect her either, and he knows she’s willing to put up with him.

Anonymous wrote:My aunt, a mother of three young kids, found out she was being cheated on during her dying days with cancer. She found out by finding a piece of scrap paper comparing her with the other woman!

Today, 20 years after her death (yikes it's been that long) the man is still with the other woman but he made a point to never marry her out of respect for his kids.

Right. Comparing his dying wife/mother of his kids and his mistress? Whatever his reasons for not marrying her, I guarantee they’re about his own selfishness, not “respect” since he doesn’t seem to understand what that word means. It’s probably so he gets all the benefits of the relationship and none of the responsibility. Let’s see what happens if she gets cancer. He’s an ass.

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Anonymous wrote:My best friends husband cheated on her. He left her for the OW (after begging forgiveness and her refusing).

Then he was diagnosed with a very horrible form of cancer. (He told my H and some other coworkers) He did not tell the OW... then proposed. He told her 9 months into the engagement. (Again, he bragged to his coworkers.)

He was bed ridden 1 year after the marriage and has been a burden ever since.

I see her all the time, she looks haggard.

This is not a good story. The punishment for cheating isn't cancer, or caring for a cancer patient.

Yes it is. Karma.

I pity you, living life so bitterly. (And no I am not an OW. I’ve been cheated on myself.)

My aunt, a mother of three young kids, found out she was being cheated on during her dying days with cancer. She found out by finding a piece of scrap paper comparing her with the other woman!

Today, 20 years after her death (yikes it's been that long) the man is still with the other woman but he made a point to never marry her out of respect for his kids.

*COURSE

Same thing happened to a friend of mine. His wife cheated on him with a man who was also married at the time. Fast forward a few years and they are divorced. Likely with no prospects - not many people are willing to date someone with two ex husbands/wives unless the person is very rich (they are not).

They destroyed two families, OP OF COURS they are going to get married and try to save face and try to make it work. That's the good news. The better news, h is not your problem any more. It hurts now, but be grateful. Soon you will see this is all worth it. Plus, it won't be hard to find someone nicer than him, given that he is a complete a-hole.

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Anonymous wrote:My best friends husband cheated on her. He left her for the OW (after begging forgiveness and her refusing).

Then he was diagnosed with a very horrible form of cancer. (He told my H and some other coworkers) He did not tell the OW... then proposed. He told her 9 months into the engagement. (Again, he bragged to his coworkers.)

He was bed ridden 1 year after the marriage and has been a burden ever since.

I see her all the time, she looks haggard.

This is not a good story. The punishment for cheating isn't cancer, or caring for a cancer patient.

Yes it is. Karma.

You don't understand karma.

Cancer is not karma.

Cancer isn't karma, but being such an emotionally stunted and/or dishonest person that you don't inform your partner about cancer until 9 months into the engagement, and then she feels likely boxed in to marrying him because she's a homewrecker, is a certain form of karma.

I'm so sorry. Even if it's for the best this is really painful and totally sucks.

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Anonymous wrote:My best friends husband cheated on her. He left her for the OW (after begging forgiveness and her refusing).

Then he was diagnosed with a very horrible form of cancer. (He told my H and some other coworkers) He did not tell the OW... then proposed. He told her 9 months into the engagement. (Again, he bragged to his coworkers.)

He was bed ridden 1 year after the marriage and has been a burden ever since.

I see her all the time, she looks haggard.

This is not a good story. The punishment for cheating isn't cancer, or caring for a cancer patient.

Yes it is. Karma.

You don't understand karma.

Cancer is not karma.

Anonymous wrote:If your marriage was so great, then why did he stray? Perhaps he and OW are a better match together like Charles and Camilla.

Hey OP, looks like the OW found this thread!

He did you a favor

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Anonymous wrote:My best friends husband cheated on her. He left her for the OW (after begging forgiveness and her refusing).

Then he was diagnosed with a very horrible form of cancer. (He told my H and some other coworkers) He did not tell the OW... then proposed. He told her 9 months into the engagement. (Again, he bragged to his coworkers.)

He was bed ridden 1 year after the marriage and has been a burden ever since.

I see her all the time, she looks haggard.

This is not a good story. The punishment for cheating isn't cancer, or caring for a cancer patient.

Yes it is. Karma.

I agree with moving on with your life, but not with the negative focus on him and the new woman.

He may or may not cheat on her. They may or may not stay together. They may or may not not be happier than the two of you were.

Nothing you can do about any of that, so all you can do is let it go and focus on making a good life for yourself. And honestly, do you really want something bad to happen to them? That’s really not going to make your life better, so why wish suffering on anyone?

Anonymous wrote:If your marriage was so great, then why did he stray? Perhaps he and OW are a better match together like Charles and Camilla.

Not OP. Because he’s an ahole, like all cheaters. I suspect you’re an ahole too. Now you know.