Am I the only adult who was sweating every time I was outside yesterday because I chose to wear a sweater and long pants? (Although I was slightly chilly when at work because of the ridiculous AC)

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Anonymous wrote:We had kids wearing sweatpants and sweatshirts today and some even had coats on. It was nearly 90. The kids were sweating and red faced. They were so uncomfortable. If it’s hot, please dress them in a T-shirt at least, and shorts, if possible. The ac in the classroom may not be working.

Oh eff right off!

My DC insisted on wearing long sleeves. We went back and forth 3 times about that fact that the weather would he very hot today, like yesterday. DC said they are wearing the long sleeves.

Parenting is about letting kids learn by experiences some times.

Wow your character is really showing. You need to learn how to parent your kid instead of being defensive.

PP 9:26
Most of my school's parents are one extreme or another; hovering, controlling, nervous and over-bearing or completely hands-off, borderline neglectful, unavailable, absentee...

Front office staff here and PSA: dress your kid in layers. Hoodies are fine, but make sure there's a t shirt underneath it. Consider adding in a complete change of clothes.

Yesterday a student insisted upon calling home to change clothes because she got some mud and gravel on her shorts and shirt. Huge waste of time for all involved. Mom raced in with outfit change. Kid refused to wear the school's extra clothes (gym uniform).

Do you parents have an extra ten seconds to wipe the breakfast off of your kid's face? Or shirt? How about running a damp comb through your DC's hair? Bedhead and breakfast and the stink of skipped showers and shampoos make me gag. Act like you care.

Most all kids need deodorant by 4th grade if not way sooner.

Anonymous wrote:Parenting them doesn't mean controlling them. It means teaching them to make good decisions. If they insist on sweatpants, and are hot, they probably won't do it again.

Whereas telling them what to wear every day means kids who can't make good decisions because they've never been empowered to make any that matter.

So you go ahead and call people lazy. Good luck when your child rebels against all of your controlling ways.

Wondering if you live in such a black and white world on all issues? Or just this one.
Where is the gray in your life??? It's not a binary option here: dictator or chaos. You can help guide your kid by limiting choices and empowering them to choose wisely from 2-3 reasonable options. Doesn't have to be a sink or swim approach, PP.

Anonymous wrote:Thanks op! With out your message we totally would not have realized the temperature outside. Your guidance helps us as parents.

Also, you may realize some kids wear pants for religious and or medical reasons. So why don’t you focus on minding your own children. Or, if you are so worried, as your crappy school to fix its AC.

Wow. Are you always this self-centered, PP?
Or do you realize that even though YOU never do this, there actually may be parents who do send their kids to school without thinking about temperatures and whether their kids are appropriately dressed for the hot or cold weather? And it may have absolutely NOTHING to do with their religious or medical needs...at all.

BTW, the OP (and other teachers) have about as much influence over the AC system at the school as they do over getting parents to properly clothe their children. Which is to say (at least by looking at this board)...not much, sadly.

NP. I’m with OP. Parents should care that their children are appropriately dressed for the day. But it’s just not a priority for some of them.

Certainly by middle school children should be able to appropriately dress themselves, if they learned how to.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a teacher and instead of lecturing parents on clothes, I’d rather all of you buy deodorant for your kids. Many need it sooner than you think.

I understand. Kids are odd. They wore shorts all winter now they want to wear pants and long sleeves. My own DS insisted on summer clothes when it was freezing now he wants to wear his favorite hoodie every day. Fine, but he’s wearing deodorant. Yes, he’s in elementary school and needs it.

At what age re deodorant? Does 4th grade start to get stinky?

Starts in 3rd, honestly. For Boys AND girls!

This. After a hot day at recess, the difference between a 2nd grade classroom and a 3rd grade classroom can be easily sniffed out just from standing outside the classroom door in the hallway.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a teacher and instead of lecturing parents on clothes, I’d rather all of you buy deodorant for your kids. Many need it sooner than you think.

I understand. Kids are odd. They wore shorts all winter now they want to wear pants and long sleeves. My own DS insisted on summer clothes when it was freezing now he wants to wear his favorite hoodie every day. Fine, but he’s wearing deodorant. Yes, he’s in elementary school and needs it.

At what age re deodorant? Does 4th grade start to get stinky?

Starts in 3rd, honestly. For Boys AND girls!

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Anonymous wrote:Elementary age children? I don’t battle my kids on clothes. If they insist on shorts when it’s 45 they can be cold.

So unless you are talking about pk3/4 kids...well, it’s not a battle I’m fighting.

This... as long as the clothes are clean and match I don't care.

NP. We had a few kids dressed in jeans and sweatshirts today who ended up in the health room after recess because they felt nauseated/dizzy from playing in the heat. Do you care if you get a call from the health room because your kid threw up and you have to come get them?

I won't battle my kid on clothes, but I will tell him what the guidelines are (shorts vs. pants, t shirt vs. long sleeve) and he can choose whatever he wants within those guidelines.

You may not care but your lack of caring becomes just one more thing we have to deal with at school because you won't deal with it at home. --NP (and teacher)

DP. My kid learns best through natural consequences. Being too warm at recess because she didn’t want to take my suggestion on what to wear will teach far more effectively than us going a few rounds every morning will.

Totally lazy parenting, PP.
Sounds like a completely nightmare of a power struggle at your house. When did completely abdicate your responsibility for parenting in your home to your kid?...when they were 2?
You know, there is actually a balance here that doesn't require your kid "learning" through heat stroke in the classroom.
it's possible to slowly give your child some "power" and responsibility without being ridiculous. You can say "here are three options. Tomorrow will be too hot to wear long sleeves, but here are three options..." And if child says "but I wanna wear my batman sweatshirt" and you absolutely can't see "going a few rounds" with him about it, then you say "Okay...you may wear your batman sweatshirt over a t-shirt so that when it gets too hot in the classroom you can pull it off."

Anonymous wrote:I’m a teacher and instead of lecturing parents on clothes, I’d rather all of you buy deodorant for your kids. Many need it sooner than you think.

I understand. Kids are odd. They wore shorts all winter now they want to wear pants and long sleeves. My own DS insisted on summer clothes when it was freezing now he wants to wear his favorite hoodie every day. Fine, but he’s wearing deodorant. Yes, he’s in elementary school and needs it.

At what age re deodorant? Does 4th grade start to get stinky?

It's fine for kids to wear pants in the summer. You know how I know? Because adults wear pants in the summer all the time, ESPECIALLY adults who are working outdoors in construction or other jobs where safety is an issue and long pants are *required.* What parent is sending a kid to school with a hoodie or a coat with nothing on underneath? Why can't the kids just take off the extra layer?

Also, A/C can be freezing, so some kids need a sweatshirt or something inside. It's all about layers!

The reasons I sent my kid to school with a sweatshirt/hoodie: It's not warm at 8 am when I dropped him off and the A/C at school is usually freezing cold (at least, that's what he told me).

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Anonymous wrote:You don't have to fight them, just put the winter clothes away. They can pick from anything that's in reach, and sweatpants are not it.

Natural consequences doesn't mean heat stroke.

That might work for summer, but the temps are still swinging too much for that. It will be in the 50s when DC leaves for the bus tomorrow.

This is the problem right here. The weather has been so wacky, it's been hard to judge. My kids refuse to wear coats and want to wear shorts even in the winter. I stopped with the battles and let them experience the consequence of their decision. Now they are usually good about checking the weather forecast or stepping outside before they get dressed, but they still choose to wear lighter clothes than I would (though honestly they don't complain about it).

Thanks op! With out your message we totally would not have realized the temperature outside. Your guidance helps us as parents.

Also, you may realize some kids wear pants for religious and or medical reasons. So why don’t you focus on minding your own children. Or, if you are so worried, as your crappy school to fix its AC.