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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m disappointed but we have already decided to move clubs anyway. My son has no idea he was put on a lower team and since we won’t be back I don’t want to tell him. My concern right now is that he’s playing in a tournament this weekend and all the parents will ask me where he placed. I don’t want to say. Please tell me how I can avoid this question. What can I say?

It was his failure, not yours. If asked, be honest.

Just say we never looked at our offer we knew we are moving to a new club

That wouldn't be honest. I think the honest reply would be "the club determined my child wasn't ready enough to play at the A level and so they dropped him down, but we are going elsewhere anyway."

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m disappointed but we have already decided to move clubs anyway. My son has no idea he was put on a lower team and since we won’t be back I don’t want to tell him. My concern right now is that he’s playing in a tournament this weekend and all the parents will ask me where he placed. I don’t want to say. Please tell me how I can avoid this question. What can I say?

It was his failure, not yours. If asked, be honest.

Just say we never looked at our offer we knew we are moving to a new club

Anonymous wrote:I’m disappointed but we have already decided to move clubs anyway. My son has no idea he was put on a lower team and since we won’t be back I don’t want to tell him. My concern right now is that he’s playing in a tournament this weekend and all the parents will ask me where he placed. I don’t want to say. Please tell me how I can avoid this question. What can I say?

It was his failure, not yours. If asked, be honest.

that is crappy coaching.

seriously? didn't the coach at least try to give you advance notice, or give her some skills / drills to work on earlier in the year?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Since when is 'aggression' the key metric in evaluating a player? Only in garbage US soccer leagues and clubs.

Right, because you see lots of great athletes in any sport that aren't aggressive.
Troll somewhere else please.

DC’s coach said s/he didn’t make the top team because s/he wasn’t aggressive enough on 50-50 balls. Maybe there were other things but that’s what was communicated to us.

At least the coach told you something constructive. Many don’t even provide that courtesy. If you believe the coach is right in their assessment, talk to your kid about it. If they agree ask them why? Is it physical fear, fear of failure, or laziness? Fear of failure can be over come. Laziness is a matter of desire and that may indicate that for now they actually do belong on a less competitive team. Physical contact fear can also be overcome, although it is a little bit harder and teaching proper tackling techniques can help.

OP of the above post. I agree, coach showed class in communicating what DC needs to work on. Now it's on to the conversation with DC about the fact that soccer is intense and personal - you're 1v1 most of the game. Just not sure that's his/her cup of tea personality-wise.

Dropping to the B team, can also result in more play time, more touches, easier 1v1 to gain experience, and develop higher soccer IQ

Anonymous wrote:13:55 - that's kind of crappy. My daughter got cut from Travel entirely with two games left in the season. She was devastated, being the only one who was cut from her team, while many girls were moving up or staying.

We debated missing the last two games (especially since she was then stuck having two games AND tryouts for another team on one of the game days) but we decided to show. She got a ton of playing time and actually did really well, and I told myself, hey, maybe they'll regret not choosing her now. And we felt like we'd at least kept our commitment.

I’m sure you were very proud of your DD that she held her head high no matter the situation. I’m sure you taught her that.

Did you give her a similar speech Rocky gave his sine?

https://youtu.be/_J0Ahh3UxbM

13:55 - that's kind of crappy. My daughter got cut from Travel entirely with two games left in the season. She was devastated, being the only one who was cut from her team, while many girls were moving up or staying.

We debated missing the last two games (especially since she was then stuck having two games AND tryouts for another team on one of the game days) but we decided to show. She got a ton of playing time and actually did really well, and I told myself, hey, maybe they'll regret not choosing her now. And we felt like we'd at least kept our commitment.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Since when is 'aggression' the key metric in evaluating a player? Only in garbage US soccer leagues and clubs.

Right, because you see lots of great athletes in any sport that aren't aggressive.
Troll somewhere else please.

DC’s coach said s/he didn’t make the top team because s/he wasn’t aggressive enough on 50-50 balls. Maybe there were other things but that’s what was communicated to us.

At least the coach told you something constructive. Many don’t even provide that courtesy. If you believe the coach is right in their assessment, talk to your kid about it. If they agree ask them why? Is it physical fear, fear of failure, or laziness? Fear of failure can be over come. Laziness is a matter of desire and that may indicate that for now they actually do belong on a less competitive team. Physical contact fear can also be overcome, although it is a little bit harder and teaching proper tackling techniques can help.

OP of the above post. I agree, coach showed class in communicating what DC needs to work on. Now it's on to the conversation with DC about the fact that soccer is intense and personal - you're 1v1 most of the game. Just not sure that's his/her cup of tea personality-wise.

its not the end of the world if your child dropped down.

How old? If under 13 then the questions would be:

1. How is the coach on the assigned team? Better? Worse? Unknown? Find out.
2. Where would your kid rank on the new team? Middle - Top? Middle to bottom? You want your kid to be middle to top.
3. What is your kid doing to improve outside of team practices and games? Does he/she want to do more?
4. What are the logistics for the current team in terms of your family committment? Good? Bad?
5. What are the costs? Reasonable? High? Low?

Your kid should not be directly involved in the last two but they obviously play a big impact.

My own kid moved to her club's then "B" team at 11. She blossomed along with several other girls who did the same. But, she also started outside training which is key to improvement. Everyone has their own areas that need improvement. Team practices are not really helpful for focusing on those areas. Everyone who moves ahead will spend a lot of time working on those individual issues. My own kid did about 3 hours a week of very small group training (we split the costs) and it made it more fun to have a friend.

Always, and everytime, you are looking for the best situation that works for your kid individually, and that works with what your family can accomodate. That may be simply to play with friends. That may be to find a team where they get more playing time as a forward. Etc. . .
What matters may well change over time.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Since when is 'aggression' the key metric in evaluating a player? Only in garbage US soccer leagues and clubs.

Right, because you see lots of great athletes in any sport that aren't aggressive.
Troll somewhere else please.

DC’s coach said s/he didn’t make the top team because s/he wasn’t aggressive enough on 50-50 balls. Maybe there were other things but that’s what was communicated to us.

At least the coach told you something constructive. Many don’t even provide that courtesy. If you believe the coach is right in their assessment, talk to your kid about it. If they agree ask them why? Is it physical fear, fear of failure, or laziness? Fear of failure can be over come. Laziness is a matter of desire and that may indicate that for now they actually do belong on a less competitive team. Physical contact fear can also be overcome, although it is a little bit harder and teaching proper tackling techniques can help.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Since when is 'aggression' the key metric in evaluating a player? Only in garbage US soccer leagues and clubs.

Right, because you see lots of great athletes in any sport that aren't aggressive.
Troll somewhere else please.

DC’s coach said s/he didn’t make the top team because s/he wasn’t aggressive enough on 50-50 balls. Maybe there were other things but that’s what was communicated to us.

You need to win back the ball as quickly as possible and you need to step up to the ball, not wait for the pass to come to your feet.

That would be a legitimate issue.

My kid left and found a better environment and had renewed confidence and looked like a completely different player on the field. Sometimes change is needed. It’s not always a parent upset or angry. Sometimes they kid just no longer plays with heart with the “same old, same old” at a Club they stuck with for awhile.

It is to an extent...but than people wonder why -'

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Since when is 'aggression' the key metric in evaluating a player? Only in garbage US soccer leagues and clubs.

Right, because you see lots of great athletes in any sport that aren't aggressive.
Troll somewhere else please.

DC’s coach said s/he didn’t make the top team because s/he wasn’t aggressive enough on 50-50 balls. Maybe there were other things but that’s what was communicated to us.

You need to win back the ball as quickly as possible and you need to step up to the ball, not wait for the pass to come to your feet.

That would be a legitimate issue.

My kid left and found a better environment and had renewed confidence and looked like a completely different player on the field. Sometimes change is needed. It’s not always a parent upset or angry. Sometimes they kid just no longer plays with heart with the “same old, same old” at a Club they stuck with for awhile.