I have a HS Junior. She can sleep as late as she wants.

Anonymous wrote:I was a late sleeping teen. Now as an adult I am an early riser with good "sleep habits." No connection between the two phases of my life. Teens need a great deal of sleep.

Same here, although we weren't up all night with electronics as a PP mentioned, and that is a good point.

I do remember that when I first started sleeping in late as a young teen that my mom talked my pediatrician about it. He suggested that I wake up at the same time every day, and then go back to sleep on the weekends if I was still tired. But that didn't last long (my parents eventually just let me sleep).

I was a late sleeping teen. Now as an adult I am an early riser with good "sleep habits." No connection between the two phases of my life. Teens need a great deal of sleep.

I let mine sleep in unless we have something we need to do. For example, he has rec sports on Sundays in the winter.

He has an alarm. He meets his daily commitments. If he’s free, why not sleep?

Anonymous wrote:My 13 year old wakes up around 6 like he does every day. I wish he would sleep later!

Mine is sleeping in till 7 but that’s it! Nice to know i’m not the only one.

My HS freshman and especially my junior end up running sleep deficits at various times during the school year. Heavy academic loads. Lots of ECs. One commutes to and manages the workloads plus ECs at TJ. It is not unusual to have a kid still doing homework at midnight. Which happens if you don’t get home from school until 8, and then start 3-4 hours of homework.

Often they need to be up bright and early on weekends too for activities. But if they don’t? They can sleep as late as they want. I worry they don’t get enough sleep— especially the TJ kid.

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Anonymous wrote:Adult and I easily sleep that late or later.

Same here. Sleeping in is one of the greatest luxuries and I take advantage of it whenever I can. As do my children, with our encouragement.

Agree. As long as they are getting up fine for school, I let them self regulate.

Disagree. I think it’s important to instill good sleep habits. Ds14 and Ds11 we both up by 8 on weekends and in bed no later than 10 or 10:30

DS14 and 11, so not 16 and 18? You can disagree all you want, you don't have a 16 year old and you sound like a control freak. Examine why are you so rigid and my way or the highway. Good sleeping habits is only an excuse for you to power trip your kids. Plus you have an 11 year old. Much different than 16 year old. Rigid parents create children who go nuts once in college or faced with peer pressure.

And slack, "do whatever the heck you want" parents create kids who have no idea how to instill self discipline when they go to college, or are faced with peer pressure.

False. At all points. Letting your teen sleep in doesn't make you a slack parent. It means letting your kid sleep in, because we are not control freaks like you. My kids are great students, one is in college and studies non stop and on Dean's list, the other just got into a great college. They self discipline extremely well, because I didn't micro manage every minute of their lives. You sound controlling and looking for validation for your controlling behavior. Why?

Letting your teen sleep in occasionally doesn't make you a slack parent. If this is a habit on the weekends, though, I think you have a problem brewing, and yes, I would try to correct it at a young teen age.

Anonymous wrote:Does every single DCUM post have to devolve into personal attacks?

There is only RIGHT WAY, clearly.

Does every single DCUM post have to devolve into personal attacks?

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Anonymous wrote:Adult and I easily sleep that late or later.

Same here. Sleeping in is one of the greatest luxuries and I take advantage of it whenever I can. As do my children, with our encouragement.

Agree. As long as they are getting up fine for school, I let them self regulate.

Disagree. I think it’s important to instill good sleep habits. Ds14 and Ds11 we both up by 8 on weekends and in bed no later than 10 or 10:30

DS14 and 11, so not 16 and 18? You can disagree all you want, you don't have a 16 year old and you sound like a control freak. Examine why are you so rigid and my way or the highway. Good sleeping habits is only an excuse for you to power trip your kids. Plus you have an 11 year old. Much different than 16 year old. Rigid parents create children who go nuts once in college or faced with peer pressure.

And slack, "do whatever the heck you want" parents create kids who have no idea how to instill self discipline when they go to college, or are faced with peer pressure.

False. At all points. Letting your teen sleep in doesn't make you a slack parent. It means letting your kid sleep in, because we are not control freaks like you. My kids are great students, one is in college and studies non stop and on Dean's list, the other just got into a great college. They self discipline extremely well, because I didn't micro manage every minute of their lives. You sound controlling and looking for validation for your controlling behavior. Why?

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Anonymous wrote:Adult and I easily sleep that late or later.

Same here. Sleeping in is one of the greatest luxuries and I take advantage of it whenever I can. As do my children, with our encouragement.

Agree. As long as they are getting up fine for school, I let them self regulate.

Disagree. I think it’s important to instill good sleep habits. Ds14 and Ds11 we both up by 8 on weekends and in bed no later than 10 or 10:30

DS14 and 11, so not 16 and 18? You can disagree all you want, you don't have a 16 year old and you sound like a control freak. Examine why are you so rigid and my way or the highway. Good sleeping habits is only an excuse for you to power trip your kids. Plus you have an 11 year old. Much different than 16 year old. Rigid parents create children who go nuts once in college or faced with peer pressure.

And slack, "do whatever the heck you want" parents create kids who have no idea how to instill self discipline when they go to college, or are faced with peer pressure.

I generally agree with everyone, though I do wake my DS up by 10, primarily because we go out and do things as a family.

I personally love to sleep in.

Someone probably made this point, but it isn't always true that your child is getting tons of sleep by sleeping in. Isn't it more often the case that the teen has gone to bed really really late because of electronics? I know that is true for my kid. So I try to limit that somewhat by getting him up by 10. And because Mondays are a nightmare otherwise and he often feels sick because of it.

I'm the person who posted about having mixed feelings. These are great to read and it also brings me back to not being happy that my mom would force me to get up early on weekends. I guess as long as my kid gets his chores and homework done, I'll let him sleep in. Thanks for the opinions.

Anonymous wrote:I let them sleep if they are doing their homework and chores and getting to their activities. Otherwise no.

+1. Meet your commitments and behave responsibly, and your time is yours to manage because you've shown you can handle it. Don't, and you're showing that you need my help with scheduling and time management.

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Anonymous wrote:Adult and I easily sleep that late or later.

Same here. Sleeping in is one of the greatest luxuries and I take advantage of it whenever I can. As do my children, with our encouragement.

Agree. As long as they are getting up fine for school, I let them self regulate.

Disagree. I think it’s important to instill good sleep habits. Ds14 and Ds11 we both up by 8 on weekends and in bed no later than 10 or 10:30

DS14 and 11, so not 16 and 18? You can disagree all you want, you don't have a 16 year old and you sound like a control freak. Examine why are you so rigid and my way or the highway. Good sleeping habits is only an excuse for you to power trip your kids. Plus you have an 11 year old. Much different than 16 year old. Rigid parents create children who go nuts once in college or faced with peer pressure.

+1 How long do you think you can micromanage your kids for?