I agree it's usually fake unless the couple dresses in matchy clothes, then it could be genuine, cringey but genuine.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't find it effeminate - I find it fake. And I don't think they're more likely to be cheated on - but more likely the ones doing the cheating.

People with healthy, loving, stable relationships, don't need public validation (and that's all social media is - seeking validation).

I completely agree with this. The couples that proclaim their love the loudest are in trouble.

Agree. It's a red flag that there is trouble. Just like renewing wedding vows- a divorce usually follows.

Anonymous wrote:I think those husbands are often putting on a show — and are cheating. I know a real-life example of this. They are often overcompensating.

Me, too.

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Anonymous wrote:I actually think it's pretty cool, in part because men aren't really thought to be the ones who say sappy things. I read that stuff (as long as it's not incredibly over the top) and think, "lucky girl!"

And I'm a pretty non-romantic person overall.

Don’t be naive. I am good friends with women whose husbands post that crap. I know the truth. The guy spend all his time at work or golfing and hasn’t driven a carpool in years. Couldn’t tell you the kids’ teachers names.

Not everyone is looking for a helpmeet. Some just want that hot, hot heat.

Anonymous wrote:Am I alone in finding this extremely effeminate? Perhaps I'm biased because my husband and I don't post much, but I'm not bothered by female friends who go on and on about their amazing husband. But when men do it, I do sort of cringe. It's just not manly, to me. Why are you telling the world these things? Just tell her. And this is a terrible thought, but I suspect the men who do this are more likely to be cheated on.

Agree it's not manly.
Probably not the type of men that chop wood and fix motorcycles.

The idea it makes men look "weak" or non-masculine is disgusting.
But gushing and plastering saccharine images are nauseating

I've seen two kinds of people post on FB about their affection--

loony drama junkies
decent people who genuinely want to declare their feelings and do it in a non-cringey way

Anonymous wrote:Ugh you need to examine yourself. I dislike sappy public displays of affection on social media but not due to gender.

^^^ This.

I think frequency matters. Gender doesn't. I have a few FB friends who post frequently memes or lovey dovey stuff on at least a weekly basis, and these also tend to be people who I know to be a bit more unstable if you were to know them personally. However, a rare sweet post to honor your significant other on a birthday, anniversary, or special occasion, or saying how they helped you through a difficult time comes across as more genuine.

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Anonymous wrote:I know one woman that had full back and forth sappy conversations on FB with her husband. Turns out she was logging into his account to post fake comments and basically talking to herself. Her little secret has spread and everybody in her social circle is now aware and laughing at every post.

This is sad. How did her secret come out?

The husband’s friend was giving him a hard time for all “his” sappy posts, so he ratted her out. Once the friend told his wife the news, it spread like wildfire.

It all made sense because the tone of the sappy posts was always a bit off.

Anonymous wrote:I know one woman that had full back and forth sappy conversations on FB with her husband. Turns out she was logging into his account to post fake comments and basically talking to herself. Her little secret has spread and everybody in her social circle is now aware and laughing at every post.

This is sad. How did her secret come out?

Anonymous wrote:I actually think it's pretty cool, in part because men aren't really thought to be the ones who say sappy things. I read that stuff (as long as it's not incredibly over the top) and think, "lucky girl!"

And I'm a pretty non-romantic person overall.

Don’t be naive. I am good friends with women whose husbands post that crap. I know the truth. The guy spend all his time at work or golfing and hasn’t driven a carpool in years. Couldn’t tell you the kids’ teachers names.

I know one woman that had full back and forth sappy conversations on FB with her husband. Turns out she was logging into his account to post fake comments and basically talking to herself. Her little secret has spread and everybody in her social circle is now aware and laughing at every post.

I actually think it's pretty cool, in part because men aren't really thought to be the ones who say sappy things. I read that stuff (as long as it's not incredibly over the top) and think, "lucky girl!"

And I'm a pretty non-romantic person overall.

My wife is absolutely amazing because even though she is not the biggest sports fan out there and even though she probably hasn't watched one minute of the NBA Playoffs thus far my wife CANNOT STAND the Celtics
I mean she hates them even more than I do which is seriously saying something and she is even more excited than me about Boston getting bounced out of the playoffs tonight on the road in Milwaukee.

Wow...my wife is amazing.

Phaggotry of the highest order.