Anonymous
Post 05/04/2019 23:02     Subject: Re:DS is a Magnet for Crazy
OP, the common denominator in all of those relationships is your son, so perhaps he needs to do a little self-reflection on why he’s so attracted to a particular type of woman.
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2019 22:57     Subject: DS is a Magnet for Crazy
If you believe Imago therapy we subconsciously find ourselves attracted to what was normal in our childhood. My mom has NPD and then I married one.

So it looks like your son is just accidentally repeating patterns and you are crazy, OP.
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2019 22:39     Subject: DS is a Magnet for Crazy
According to one of my male friends, “the hot ones are always crazy”
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2019 22:39     Subject: DS is a Magnet for Crazy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:DS is in his 20's and is once again trying to extract himself from a relationship with an attractive but very mentally troubled young woman. This women is having panic attacks, obsessive thoughts, threatening harm to herself, etc. She is under medical care but she is still unstable and is trying to get back together with DS. I am concerned about the stress and safety of both of them.

He has gotten involved with other women that struggled with sanity and mental health issues. In each case DS said he didn't realize they had severe mental problems until several months into it and then the break ups were scary.

What are the warning signs of mental illness that he us missing?? How do you detect crazy in the dating pool?



DS is lying if he says all these women are severely mentally ill but somehow he can’t tell for several months.

The alternative is that DS meets women with mild mental illness, then he makes them much, much worse through gaslighting and other behaviors. My sociopathic dad this to his first wife, my mom, and wife #3. All were mildly neurotic women that he manipulated.


Are you saying that someone can't hid their crazy for the first few months of a relationship?


No, someone can't hide their crazy for even a week, let alone a few. Inths, LOL!

I'd suggest you MYOB. You are way out of your swim lane.
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2019 22:36     Subject: DS is a Magnet for Crazy
Anonymous wrote:DS is in his 20's and is once again trying to extract himself from a relationship with an attractive but very mentally troubled young woman. This women is having panic attacks, obsessive thoughts, threatening harm to herself, etc. She is under medical care but she is still unstable and is trying to get back together with DS. I am concerned about the stress and safety of both of them.

He has gotten involved with other women that struggled with sanity and mental health issues. In each case DS said he didn't realize they had severe mental problems until several months into it and then the break ups were scary.

What are the warning signs of mental illness that he us missing?? How do you detect crazy in the dating pool?



Men love crazy chicks. Sad truth.
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2019 21:06     Subject: DS is a Magnet for Crazy
Stay out it, mom.
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2019 20:23     Subject: DS is a Magnet for Crazy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What is 'crazy sex'?? It doesn't sound appealing.


Generally speaking it’s sex with a woman who authentically and genuinely enjoys it. You hear guys in their 20s talk a lot about sleeping with women who act like it was a gift that they gave them and the men should be happy to have received it. That sex sucks. Good sex is a sex with a girl who is into it. Unfortunately, that’s usually relegated to the crazy ones. On the upside, they tend to be incredibly hot.


My theory is they have strong orgasms and the hormones make them nuts for the guy.


Wow! You cracked the secret. Only crazy women enjoy sex. The jig is up, Ladies! No more pretending we like anything better than cats.
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2019 20:21     Subject: DS is a Magnet for Crazy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What is 'crazy sex'?? It doesn't sound appealing.


Generally speaking it’s sex with a woman who authentically and genuinely enjoys it. You hear guys in their 20s talk a lot about sleeping with women who act like it was a gift that they gave them and the men should be happy to have received it. That sex sucks. Good sex is a sex with a girl who is into it. Unfortunately, that’s usually relegated to the crazy ones. On the upside, they tend to be incredibly hot.


My theory is they have strong orgasms and the hormones make them nuts for the guy.
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2019 20:15     Subject: DS is a Magnet for Crazy
Anonymous wrote:It's interesting that more women seem to be mentally challenged than men.


More depression and anxiety among women, but more sociopathy among men. Men are also less likely to seek treatment when they do have depression or anxiety. They self-medicate with alcohol/street drugs or suicide.
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2019 20:13     Subject: DS is a Magnet for Crazy
It's interesting that more women seem to be mentally challenged than men.
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2019 19:40     Subject: Re:DS is a Magnet for Crazy
If there's a pattern of your son dating multiple women who are like this, then he's the problem. It's probably white knight syndrome. It's sort of similar to women who chronically attracted to "bad boys." There's a high that comes from feeling like you can save or reform the other person.
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2019 18:46     Subject: Re:DS is a Magnet for Crazy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I got involved with a crazy woman in my 20s and married her. She got even crazier after marriage. The marriage was bad but the sex was top-notch.


This is the thing, he's a guy in his 20s who is probably deciding to date based on crazy sex.


This. It's not uncommon for promiscuity and mental illness to walk hand-in-hand. He's looking for sex and not bothering to vetthese women beforehand.


“Vette”? Pretty and fun: a guy doesn’t say no to that. “Vette”: ha!
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2019 18:32     Subject: Re:DS is a Magnet for Crazy
huh?
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2019 18:24     Subject: DS is a Magnet for Crazy
Anonymous wrote:When my son was 14 and in 8th Grade (in 10th now) he experienced crazy with a girl from school. They "dated" (spent more time together at school) and when she started getting upset that he wasn't texting her back right away he decided it would be best for them to be friends.

She didn't like that and you can guess where things went from there.

This girl is a master manipulator and was quite savvy for an 8th grader and my son was not (and still isn't) quite as savvy. The fallout for him was awful and he ended up leaving the school mid year.

Thankfully we documented everything.

Your son should probably not date for a while. He should be enjoying his 20's hanging out with friends and advancing his career.


Wow! Just like the OP’s situation. Except this isn’t one girl, but several women and OP’s son is not a 14 year old boy.
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2019 18:21     Subject: Re:DS is a Magnet for Crazy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I got involved with a crazy woman in my 20s and married her. She got even crazier after marriage. The marriage was bad but the sex was top-notch.


This is the thing, he's a guy in his 20s who is probably deciding to date based on crazy sex.


This. It's not uncommon for promiscuity and mental illness to walk hand-in-hand. He's looking for sex and not bothering to vetthese women beforehand.