Anonymous wrote:New poster shocked that anyone would consider those welcome texts “needy and weird.” That sort of thing is completely normal in my circle...though I’m one of those “not in DC people” on this site. No wonder DC has a reputation as not so friendly.

OP here, thanks. I agree. We've actually moved away from DC. Because people find helpful texts needy and weird. LOL.

New poster shocked that anyone would consider those welcome texts “needy and weird.” That sort of thing is completely normal in my circle...though I’m one of those “not in DC people” on this site. No wonder DC has a reputation as not so friendly.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, it sounds like you were annoying her with all the texts in the beginning. Why would you text someone you don't know well more than once if you didn't get a response back the first time? She sounds like not a charming person, but you also maybe came off as a little intrusive.

It was a couple times: "So glad you're moving to the neighborhood, you'll love it!" and then "welcome! let me know if you need help watching Larlo as you move in!" both of those messages were about 3.5 weeks apart.

Needy and weird

No. Normal and kind. I'd be delighted if a new neighbor welcomed my family this way.

+1 Ignore the PP berating you for being nice. He/she is the weirdo.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, it sounds like you were annoying her with all the texts in the beginning. Why would you text someone you don't know well more than once if you didn't get a response back the first time? She sounds like not a charming person, but you also maybe came off as a little intrusive.

It was a couple times: "So glad you're moving to the neighborhood, you'll love it!" and then "welcome! let me know if you need help watching Larlo as you move in!" both of those messages were about 3.5 weeks apart.

Needy and weird

No. Normal and kind. I'd be delighted if a new neighbor welcomed my family this way.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, it sounds like you were annoying her with all the texts in the beginning. Why would you text someone you don't know well more than once if you didn't get a response back the first time? She sounds like not a charming person, but you also maybe came off as a little intrusive.

It was a couple times: "So glad you're moving to the neighborhood, you'll love it!" and then "welcome! let me know if you need help watching Larlo as you move in!" both of those messages were about 3.5 weeks apart.

Needy and weird

HOW?!? Seriously. How is that needy and weird?!? Do people not welcome new people to neighborhoods anymore?!?

Via text to an acquaintance? And you offered childcare too. That's strange. And then started including her is group texts. It over the top. If you want to welcome people go knock on their door and stop blowing up their phone weirdo.

The group text was already created a couple months ago. And how is showing up at someones house LESS weird than messaging?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, it sounds like you were annoying her with all the texts in the beginning. Why would you text someone you don't know well more than once if you didn't get a response back the first time? She sounds like not a charming person, but you also maybe came off as a little intrusive.

It was a couple times: "So glad you're moving to the neighborhood, you'll love it!" and then "welcome! let me know if you need help watching Larlo as you move in!" both of those messages were about 3.5 weeks apart.

Needy and weird

HOW?!? Seriously. How is that needy and weird?!? Do people not welcome new people to neighborhoods anymore?!?

Via text to an acquaintance? And you offered childcare too. That's strange. And then started including her is group texts. It over the top. If you want to welcome people go knock on their door and stop blowing up their phone weirdo.

It's possible that she values the 1:1 time with your MT friend, and she doesn't want to do a combined playdate.

Regardless, I would drop it. You've done more than your share to be welcoming...it's on her to avail herself of your kindness or not. Don't think too hard. Moving is stressful, and people are weird. Maybe it's about you...or maybe it has nothing to do with you. Either way, the ball is in her court.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you offended her in some way. Did you make a comment on anti-vaxxers in front of her? Did you say something political? Anything that could have touched a nerve?

LOL, no. We've only been together a couple times. That's why I was shocked by the shut down response!

Got any bumper stickers? It’s just gotta be something like that...

Oh, yeah, the back of my car is littered with these. https://www.cafepress.com/+intactivist+bumper-stickers

maybe she thought she saw you get into a car with a MAGA sticker...

It's rude, let's not beat about the bush.

Anonymous wrote:I don't see what's rude. Direct isn't rude. She didn't pad it out with a bunch of excuses or a vague offer for "another time," but she didn't say anything mean or unkind, she just said no. Maybe she's generally a very direct person, or a little socially awkward. I don't see why you'd take offense.

That is why I posted here. For insight.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, it sounds like you were annoying her with all the texts in the beginning. Why would you text someone you don't know well more than once if you didn't get a response back the first time? She sounds like not a charming person, but you also maybe came off as a little intrusive.

It was a couple times: "So glad you're moving to the neighborhood, you'll love it!" and then "welcome! let me know if you need help watching Larlo as you move in!" both of those messages were about 3.5 weeks apart.

Needy and weird

HOW?!? Seriously. How is that needy and weird?!? Do people not welcome new people to neighborhoods anymore?!?

I don't see what's rude. Direct isn't rude. She didn't pad it out with a bunch of excuses or a vague offer for "another time," but she didn't say anything mean or unkind, she just said no. Maybe she's generally a very direct person, or a little socially awkward. I don't see why you'd take offense.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you offended her in some way. Did you make a comment on anti-vaxxers in front of her? Did you say something political? Anything that could have touched a nerve?

LOL, no. We've only been together a couple times. That's why I was shocked by the shut down response!

Got any bumper stickers? It’s just gotta be something like that...

Oh, yeah, the back of my car is littered with these. https://www.cafepress.com/+intactivist+bumper-stickers

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Anonymous wrote:I think you offended her in some way. Did you make a comment on anti-vaxxers in front of her? Did you say something political? Anything that could have touched a nerve?

LOL, no. We've only been together a couple times. That's why I was shocked by the shut down response!

Got any bumper stickers? It’s just gotta be something like that...

I was thinking that too. It was a rude response so was the “we’re going to pass” response

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Anonymous wrote:OP, it sounds like you were annoying her with all the texts in the beginning. Why would you text someone you don't know well more than once if you didn't get a response back the first time? She sounds like not a charming person, but you also maybe came off as a little intrusive.

It was a couple times: "So glad you're moving to the neighborhood, you'll love it!" and then "welcome! let me know if you need help watching Larlo as you move in!" both of those messages were about 3.5 weeks apart.

Needy and weird