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Anonymous wrote:I feel great when everyone is paid a living wage.

I was about to say this. No one else find this post super icky and self-congratulatory?

No, because this is not the case and at least someone is doing their little part plus they get a good feeling.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not a tip per se, but I always bring a gift basket of store-bought treats and Starbucks gift cards into my pediatrician's office in early December. The receptionists and staff are always friendly, and both peds have always called me back/talked to me on the weekends and after hours, etc.

I once did this for the urgent care center near my house during a year when we were there frequently. I'm really grateful that they are there and have always been kind and helpful during semi-scares.

Actually if they prioritize your medical care because of these little gifts, that's not ok and an ethical code violation. In a little pediatrician office less noticeable to other patients, doubt the doctors care. However, as a nurse, it makes me horribly uncomfortable when patients have personalily offered me cash or anything other than a thank you note. I also could jeopardize my job accepting it as hospitals often have rules about it. If you give to a medical office or nursing unit, it should be to the whole office, such as bringing food that can be shared.

I never said they prioritized me because I bring some food treats and Starbucks gift cards. They're a small family practice and they're awesome. That's about it, buddy. Hope you have a better night.

I’ve brought gifts to my kids doctors office for the staff. I don’t expect them to give me something in exchange - they’re awesome to everyone without the gifts, but showing appreciation is never bad and to think I’m trying to get something in exchange is pretty cynical.

Anonymous wrote:You must be rich. I choose a service based on what I can afford. I often choose services based on whether I have to tip or not.

Exactly. I take this as OP bragging about how rich she is.

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Anonymous wrote:Tipping is like giving money to beggars
It makes me feel awkward, feel like I am humiliating someone

Trust me, no one you’ve ever tipped feels like a.beggar. They performed a service. They worked for the money.

And they should be paid by their employer.

Restaurant workers get over a $100 per evening shift. That is not low wages.
Compare that to what a teacher makes for same amount of time

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel great when everyone is paid a living wage.

I was about to say this. No one else find this post super icky and self-congratulatory?

OP here. You know what I, personally, can't do? Guarantee everyone a living wage.

Here's what I CAN do:
1) Vote in ways I feel is consistent with my social values.
2) Advocate for policies I feel are consistent with my social values.
3) Create jobs in my organization (CHECK)
4) Tip well when and where I can
5) Start feel-good threads

I've done good in the ways that I have the capacity to do good today. Have you?

Omg you’re insufferable.

No, she or he is quite entirely correct.

If you do not want to tip, eat at home, do not stay at hotels, and carry your own luggage. Saying that people should be paid a living wage and thus you’re off the hook is too often a cover for contempt for “menial” workers.

You are missing the lint. I think nearly everyone tips at sit down restaurants with waiters. I also think most people tip bellman, taxis, hairdressers and other people where tipping is generally understood to be part of accepting the service. Most people don’t tip housekeeping in a hotel. It is not generally accepted that that industry requires a tip of you use them. Im sure I encounter thousands of people annually who do something to help my life and they are making $10-$11 an hour and I don’t tip them. I can’t tip everyone and neither can you. It doesn’t make me a bad person or you a good one because you tip maids. You can’t give to every beggar, every gofundme, every sob story, etc. that’s fine that you tip maids but to have a thread like this is kinda sad.

Anonymous wrote:One time I went to a dumpy bar and left a Maker's Mark promotional "tip". It said something stupid like "Here's a tip, stock your bar with Maker's Mark!" I felt pretty great leaving that on the bar.

Irredeemable a*shole, right here for the win.

Anonymous wrote:We forgot to get change before a recent trip so we ended up tipping EVERYONE who got a cash tip $20 (porters, valets, etc - you know when three different people help you do one thing). At first we were going to get change at the resort but then we decided we liked being the big tippers. And in the grand scheme of the trip expenses it really was just a small fraction.

I travel weekly and end up doing this as a default when I don't plan for my tipping in cash. I hand out the 20s I get when I get the 200 in cash for weekly tipping right before my travel because I would rather way overtip than not tip at all.

I do believe in the living wage and think tipping is out of control, but as it is for now, I will tip (big if necessary).

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not a tip per se, but I always bring a gift basket of store-bought treats and Starbucks gift cards into my pediatrician's office in early December. The receptionists and staff are always friendly, and both peds have always called me back/talked to me on the weekends and after hours, etc.

I once did this for the urgent care center near my house during a year when we were there frequently. I'm really grateful that they are there and have always been kind and helpful during semi-scares.

Actually if they prioritize your medical care because of these little gifts, that's not ok and an ethical code violation. In a little pediatrician office less noticeable to other patients, doubt the doctors care. However, as a nurse, it makes me horribly uncomfortable when patients have personalily offered me cash or anything other than a thank you note. I also could jeopardize my job accepting it as hospitals often have rules about it. If you give to a medical office or nursing unit, it should be to the whole office, such as bringing food that can be shared.

I never said they prioritized me because I bring some food treats and Starbucks gift cards. They're a small family practice and they're awesome. That's about it, buddy. Hope you have a better night.

Anonymous wrote:It's not a tip per se, but I always bring a gift basket of store-bought treats and Starbucks gift cards into my pediatrician's office in early December. The receptionists and staff are always friendly, and both peds have always called me back/talked to me on the weekends and after hours, etc.

I once did this for the urgent care center near my house during a year when we were there frequently. I'm really grateful that they are there and have always been kind and helpful during semi-scares.

Actually if they prioritize your medical care because of these little gifts, that's not ok and an ethical code violation. In a little pediatrician office less noticeable to other patients, doubt the doctors care. However, as a nurse, it makes me horribly uncomfortable when patients have personalily offered me cash or anything other than a thank you note. I also could jeopardize my job accepting it as hospitals often have rules about it. If you give to a medical office or nursing unit, it should be to the whole office, such as bringing food that can be shared.

One time I went to a dumpy bar and left a Maker's Mark promotional "tip". It said something stupid like "Here's a tip, stock your bar with Maker's Mark!" I felt pretty great leaving that on the bar.

It's not a tip per se, but I always bring a gift basket of store-bought treats and Starbucks gift cards into my pediatrician's office in early December. The receptionists and staff are always friendly, and both peds have always called me back/talked to me on the weekends and after hours, etc.

I once did this for the urgent care center near my house during a year when we were there frequently. I'm really grateful that they are there and have always been kind and helpful during semi-scares.

Anonymous wrote:I feel great when everyone is paid a living wage.

And? That's not the reality we have right now. Yes, I vote for candidates who believe in living wages and such, but in the moment, when the server presents me with my bill, it's not like I have the power to magically give him/her a living wage. Thus, the tip.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel great when everyone is paid a living wage.

I was about to say this. No one else find this post super icky and self-congratulatory?

OP here. You know what I, personally, can't do? Guarantee everyone a living wage.

Here's what I CAN do:
1) Vote in ways I feel is consistent with my social values.
2) Advocate for policies I feel are consistent with my social values.
3) Create jobs in my organization (CHECK)
4) Tip well when and where I can
5) Start feel-good threads

I've done good in the ways that I have the capacity to do good today. Have you?

Omg you’re insufferable.

No, she or he is quite entirely correct.

If you do not want to tip, eat at home, do not stay at hotels, and carry your own luggage. Saying that people should be paid a living wage and thus you’re off the hook is too often a cover for contempt for “menial” workers.

This post is piggy backing off of the debate over whether you tip hotel maids and how much, which is not intuitive to many folks, hence not commonly done. Also not all tipping involves bringing somebody up to minimum wage as it does with the restaurant industry. When folks use the living wage argument, they do so inconsistently, such as for the hotel maid but not their grocery cashier, etc. Ultimately this ends up with posts shaming those who are more discretionary with tips or can't afford to tip excessively beyond basic norms (i.e. restaurant servers). The post is passive aggressively judgmental.

That's your opinion. You do realize that you don't have to participate in threads that don't make you feel good, right?

Anonymous wrote:You must be rich. I choose a service based on what I can afford. I often choose services based on whether I have to tip or not.

I never said to do otherwise. If you have a story about giving a receiving a tip, feel free to share it. If you don't, maybe this thread isn't for you.

Not every thread is required reading/required participation, guys.