Anonymous wrote:Yes at 5 he should know that is not polite to call people fat.

Try to take emotion out of it and tell him it’s not nice to call people that. Nbd

I'm not sure if my DSs (who are 5 and 7) know that. They're pretty oblivious and I'm not sure that it's come up before.

Use is as part of teaching your child about the circle of safety around each person: Your words touch other people's ears. Just like you don't touch other people's bodies in a not nice way, or let others touch you in a not nice way, you don't talk about people's bodies either.

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Anonymous wrote:My 4 year old loves to comment on my belly. Here are my responses.

"Yes, I wish it wasn't so big. That's why I have to go exercise." (aka, put her in gym childcare)

"That's true, but it hurts my feelings when you say that. We don't talk about other people's bodies."

"Yes, sometimes bellies get bigger after mommies have babies! You stretched it out!"

So you are telling your kid that she is to blame for you being overweight? Mom is fat because of you?! This is how being overweight is normalized in our society.
A. You caused it.
B. You are hurting my feelings!
Talk about guilt tripping a 4 year old!

I'm thin and in shape but my stomach is not like it used to be because my 9 lbs babies stretched it. So yes, they totally caused it and only a tummy tuck will fix it (expensive and risky because of general anesthesia).

Sounds like you caused it by choosing to get pregnant. They didn't have any say in it.

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Anonymous wrote:My 4 year old loves to comment on my belly. Here are my responses.

"Yes, I wish it wasn't so big. That's why I have to go exercise." (aka, put her in gym childcare)

"That's true, but it hurts my feelings when you say that. We don't talk about other people's bodies."

"Yes, sometimes bellies get bigger after mommies have babies! You stretched it out!"

So you are telling your kid that she is to blame for you being overweight? Mom is fat because of you?! This is how being overweight is normalized in our society.
A. You caused it.
B. You are hurting my feelings!
Talk about guilt tripping a 4 year old!

I'm thin and in shape but my stomach is not like it used to be because my 9 lbs babies stretched it. So yes, they totally caused it and only a tummy tuck will fix it (expensive and risky because of general anesthesia).

Make sure that you or your dh aren't making disparaging remarks about fat people around your kids.

Where do you think they are picking this up?

Anonymous wrote:"thank you, darling. What a lovely compliment.". Being fat is not a felony.

love this

I'm fat. My kid says Big Momma and hugs me. I just laugh and accept it. It is true after all.

Anonymous wrote:"thank you, darling. What a lovely compliment.". Being fat is not a felony.

Love this.

"thank you, darling. What a lovely compliment.". Being fat is not a felony.

PP above, sorry, I just saw you have a girl, I should have said her, not him. But now I think it’s even more important to show your daughter that you are comfortable in your own skin, and that you exercise to feel strong and healthy. My mother gave me horrible body image issues so this is a sensitive issue for me!

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Anonymous wrote:My 4 year old loves to comment on my belly. Here are my responses.

"Yes, I wish it wasn't so big. That's why I have to go exercise." (aka, put her in gym childcare)

"That's true, but it hurts my feelings when you say that. We don't talk about other people's bodies."

"Yes, sometimes bellies get bigger after mommies have babies! You stretched it out!"

So you are telling your kid that she is to blame for you being overweight? Mom is fat because of you?! This is how being overweight is normalized in our society.
A. You caused it.
B. You are hurting my feelings!
Talk about guilt tripping a 4 year old!

Totally agree. Personally I’d ignore it if my kid grabbed my belly, but if it becomes the topic of discussion, just say that people’s bodies are different. If more discussion is needed, you can tell him that you carried him in your belly, and you are so proud of your body for doing that! Always answer questions, but in a body positive way. And less is more, usually.

My kid does this and I just make my belly button respond, “that’s not a nice thing to say!” He laughs and so do I (have been trying to lose weight, too)

Yes at 5 he should know that is not polite to call people fat.

Try to take emotion out of it and tell him it’s not nice to call people that. Nbd

Your kid doesn’t (yet) have all the baggage wrapped up in the word “fat.” Either tell him it’s impolite to comment on people’s bodies, and/or tell him straightforwardly in a way that doesn’t suggest shame but does suggest responsibility that “fat” is considered an impolite word but it is true that mommy is still working on losing weight from pregnancy. DH and I talk about losing weight as part of conversations about healthy eating, balance, moderation.

So?

My kids say this regularly. Do I care? No.

You really need to be less sensitive.