Anonymous
Post 04/19/2019 09:32     Subject: My dad bought me a scale! UPDATE!!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My brother in law is fat and wants to lose weight. I ask him what he plans to do about it and oh yeah does he own a scale? No


Do you also ask him if he knows how to use a scale? Maybe you need to show him how?


once a week is good. Daily use is too often. "Never" is not enough.

And yes there is always the HAES crowd, who are in their 20s and 30s and their weight hasn't caught up with them yet. There are pretty much no obese 80 year olds.


There are actually a fair amount of obese 80 year olds. They aren't morbidly obese but they are more than merely overweight. You might be surprised.

There are also some 80 somethings who still drink alcohol and smoke cigarettes every day.


There are! So it is absolutely possible.
We also can get a sunny 65+ degree day in January. But are you going to plan an outdoor wedding based on that chance?


I'd say that about 1/3 of the elderly weigh in the obese range. Again, this is not morbidly obese. I know that when I'm 80 something I'm going to eat whatever I want to and not feel an ounce of guilt.

Take a look at some senior living Facebook pages and you'll see what I mean. You'll also see that most of the lightly obese are not the ones using walkers.
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2019 09:23     Subject: My dad bought me a scale! UPDATE!!
Thanks for the feedback—- OP
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2019 09:01     Subject: My dad bought me a scale! UPDATE!!
I actually would really like a scale. How is this different than him giving you a yoga mat, running shoes or a diet book for a gift?

Why are you being so passive aggressive? Yell back if you don’t like his gift. A thumbs up obviously isn’t getting your message across.
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2019 08:38     Subject: My dad bought me a scale! UPDATE!!
You and your dad are both jerks.
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2019 08:36     Subject: My dad bought me a scale! UPDATE!!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand. If it is gift wrapped, then how do you know what it is?


He told me when he gave it to me.

—- OP


Are you sure it's a scale of you haven't unwrapped it? Maybe that's how he knows?


It’s a scale! I tore off a piece of paper and I peeked inside.


There could be something other than a scale in the box itself.
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2019 08:32     Subject: My dad bought me a scale! UPDATE!!
Why don’t you just ask why he sent it? Send a text: Why did you send me a scale? That is a very weird gift.
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2019 08:32     Subject: Re:My dad bought me a scale! UPDATE!!
Anonymous wrote:Wait, how would amazon even know it wasn’t opened yet?


Makes me wonder about that vibrator I bought DW .... does amazon know how quickly she got into that?
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2019 08:30     Subject: My dad bought me a scale! UPDATE!!
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:If "you" say could lose 15 lbs that means its probably at leat 20.

Go ahead though, be "healthy at every size."

And blame your father whose motives are probably pure but whose tactics and communication skills are, like all dads, perhaps a bit wanting.

Just because you are seriously raising your risk of heart disease, diabetes, and cancer doesn't mean you will get any of those. Roll those dice!


It is abnormal to obsess about another grown (50+!) adult's weight. It's not like Op is so fat that she is having a hard time getting around and needs intervention. She's put on 15 pounds which is actually not that abnormal for a woman of her age. Her eating habits aren't off the rails and she is managing her own life thank you very much.

Her dad was out of line. Is it possible that he's getting senile?


Agree that his behavior is abnormal. It is tricky because in a lot of ways he is a fantastic father.


Three possibilities - 1) misplaced anxiety is causing him to fret and blow small things way out of proportion 2) he is needling you and trying to prompt an angry reaction in you 3) he is losing it.
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2019 08:30     Subject: My dad bought me a scale! UPDATE!!
Ugh, sorry op. That’s frustrating. I’d be pissed.
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2019 08:29     Subject: My dad bought me a scale! UPDATE!!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand. If it is gift wrapped, then how do you know what it is?


He told me when he gave it to me.

—- OP


Are you sure it's a scale of you haven't unwrapped it? Maybe that's how he knows?


It’s a scale! I tore off a piece of paper and I peeked inside.


Well, there goes my optimism that your dad's not a jerk. Sorry OP.
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2019 08:25     Subject: My dad bought me a scale! UPDATE!!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand. If it is gift wrapped, then how do you know what it is?


He told me when he gave it to me.

—- OP


Are you sure it's a scale of you haven't unwrapped it? Maybe that's how he knows?


It’s a scale! I tore off a piece of paper and I peeked inside.
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2019 08:24     Subject: My dad bought me a scale! UPDATE!!
I'm with the others who think maybe it's not a scale after all.
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2019 08:24     Subject: My dad bought me a scale! UPDATE!!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If "you" say could lose 15 lbs that means its probably at leat 20.

Go ahead though, be "healthy at every size."

And blame your father whose motives are probably pure but whose tactics and communication skills are, like all dads, perhaps a bit wanting.

Just because you are seriously raising your risk of heart disease, diabetes, and cancer doesn't mean you will get any of those. Roll those dice!


It is abnormal to obsess about another grown (50+!) adult's weight. It's not like Op is so fat that she is having a hard time getting around and needs intervention. She's put on 15 pounds which is actually not that abnormal for a woman of her age. Her eating habits aren't off the rails and she is managing her own life thank you very much.

Her dad was out of line. Is it possible that he's getting senile?


Agree that his behavior is abnormal. It is tricky because in a lot of ways he is a fantastic father.
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2019 08:19     Subject: Re:My dad bought me a scale! UPDATE!!
Anonymous wrote:OP, open it up, stand on it once and then give it away. This way you don't have to lie to him (yes, Dad, I did open it and use it but I've given it away) and then move on. Your dad is instigating and trying to push you into a fight. Deflate him by acknowledging the gift. You might also want to inform him that you (and your husband) like you just the way you are.


I am single w/ an adopted child.

—- OP
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2019 08:18     Subject: My dad bought me a scale! UPDATE!!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand. If it is gift wrapped, then how do you know what it is?


He told me when he gave it to me.

—- OP


Are you sure it's a scale of you haven't unwrapped it? Maybe that's how he knows?