Anonymous wrote:

I think a parallel development to feminism and gender equality should be that men must be allowed to be emotional and vulnerable.

Men: if you do this, your wife will think you are a pussy and will despise you, so don't do it.

Also, feminism may insist that men should be more like women, but that is never going to work, although that won't stop deranged feminists from pushing it.

Man here. BINGO.

OP, as you saw, nothing good came out of you sharing your feelings. If you continued to do it, she would grow to become less attracted to you and even begin to resent you. Despite what women say, they do not really want you to open up and share your weaknesses. Do it a small bit, but that is it. She will never be your true confidant. She can't be.

Woman here, and for me, sharing emotions is crucial to having a healthy relationship. Otherwise, why be married?

The only real issue I've had is that my DH was not empathetic at all when it came to my problems, but then he'd come to me looking for empathy for his and it would piss me off.

There's also a difference between sharing emotions and habitually complaining. Complaining daily that your boss is an a-hole is one thing, sharing that you're afraid your boss dislikes you and that it will impact your career is another. One is negative, the other is positive.