Anonymous
Post 04/08/2019 21:33     Subject: Kids went off the reservation at Costco tonight
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No shows, no dessert tonight for starters _ and I told the other one he wasn't going to be allowed to go to local income daycare this summer (where little brother goes and he wants to go) because his behavior wasn't good enough for that environment where she can't have big kids who act like babies. I don't even know what else an appropriate punishment is.

To the pp who said we should leave immediately most of this started as we were in the process to leave? How should I handle Then? I felt like I couldn't walk into parking lot befor3 things were under control but ultimately did.


Who has dessert on a Monday night?


I hope you're joking. Even if you live an entirely sugar free, dairy free, plant based life and bring your kids with you, please understand many have no issues with moderation and kids who can have a Hershey Kiss before bath without ill effect.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2019 21:25     Subject: Kids went off the reservation at Costco tonight
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is when you eat canned beans on toast for supper, and stale cereal without milk.

When they cross the line, you pack up and leave immediately. no "just one more chance," no negotiation. Every time, this is the immediate result.

They will stop very quickly.


This is bad advice. This works if you are somewhere that the kid thinks as fun. I'm not letting my kid derail grocery shopping. I imagine he would love it if all he had to do was act up a bit and get us to terminate every boring errand immediately.


+1 million.

I’ve always found this advice ridiculous. It’s impractical, and 9 times out of 10, my kid was acting up BECAUSE he wanted to leave. So that would literally be rewarding his bad behavior & punishing myself all at once.


I have made them sit in a corner for time outs in public. Actually, I’ve only had to do it once, now I just use it as a threat with a 1,2,3 count and the behavior ends
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2019 21:23     Subject: Kids went off the reservation at Costco tonight
Anonymous wrote:This is when you eat canned beans on toast for supper, and stale cereal without milk.

When they cross the line, you pack up and leave immediately. no "just one more chance," no negotiation. Every time, this is the immediate result.

They will stop very quickly.


Wait, what? In this case, that might very well be them winning. Kids get to go home and boring shopping trip aborted.

OP, my very well behaved twins once lost their g-damn minds during a 4 year old well visit. The ped. actually spoke to me about ADHD (which made their teachers later laugh as they have plenty of issues but not ADHD). They had been sitting with me reading books before she came in and when she left totally switched it off and were like, "can you finish the book before we go?" I really almost left them in that room and went home. Weird shit happens.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2019 21:23     Subject: Kids went off the reservation at Costco tonight
(From a CNN interview, when she was asked about Donald Trump’s attacks on her)
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2019 21:23     Subject: Kids went off the reservation at Costco tonight
Anonymous wrote:Damn you're taking away daycare from summer for this? That's crazy.


+1. This is not the route I’d take. You can use it as a motivator to improve behavior, but don’t use it as negative threats.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2019 21:22     Subject: Kids went off the reservation at Costco tonight
Ironically, Clinton’s use of the phrase was in the context of criticizing Trump’s behavior and word choices.

“I have a lot of experience dealing with men who sometimes get off the reservation in the way they behave and how they speak.”
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2019 21:16     Subject: Kids went off the reservation at Costco tonight
Anonymous wrote:No shows, no dessert tonight for starters _ and I told the other one he wasn't going to be allowed to go to local income daycare this summer (where little brother goes and he wants to go) because his behavior wasn't good enough for that environment where she can't have big kids who act like babies. I don't even know what else an appropriate punishment is.

To the pp who said we should leave immediately most of this started as we were in the process to leave? How should I handle Then? I felt like I couldn't walk into parking lot befor3 things were under control but ultimately did.


Who has dessert on a Monday night?
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2019 21:10     Subject: Kids went off the reservation at Costco tonight
All kids pull this stuff. When mine did years ago, I put them back in the car and we went home.

Oh, I had promised you both a Costco swirl ice cream to split and share for letting me shop? Too bad you couldn't behave. There's no way we would have even gone in the store if they couldn't make it through the parking lot, where it's even more important that they listen and behave so they don't get hit by a car.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2019 20:51     Subject: Kids went off the reservation at Costco tonight
(first time, but I guess you could write a tome about it)
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2019 20:50     Subject: Kids went off the reservation at Costco tonight
That might make sense if that was all of the post.

Do you usually finish halfway through, or is this one of those first tome things?
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2019 20:45     Subject: Kids went off the reservation at Costco tonight
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is when you eat canned beans on toast for supper, and stale cereal without milk.

When they cross the line, you pack up and leave immediately. no "just one more chance," no negotiation. Every time, this is the immediate result.

They will stop very quickly.


This is bad advice. This works if you are somewhere that the kid thinks as fun. I'm not letting my kid derail grocery shopping. I imagine he would love it if all he had to do was act up a bit and get us to terminate every boring errand immediately.


+1 million.

I’ve always found this advice ridiculous. It’s impractical, and 9 times out of 10, my kid was acting up BECAUSE he wanted to leave. So that would literally be rewarding his bad behavior & punishing myself all at once.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2019 20:33     Subject: Kids went off the reservation at Costco tonight
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP yep you're all right about that phrase, wow hadn't even thought about it before but will drop that one from my vocabulary. I see HRC made similar slip up in 2016 race, it's definitely not a good choice of words though somehow I had never even considered it's obvious roots before.




We get that you didn't know and now you do. I've learned things through the years too. I'm sorry you had a rough evening.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2019 20:33     Subject: Kids went off the reservation at Costco tonight
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:“Off the reservation” is offensive.



I thought it was just a random auto correct from "off the rails."


Same. Frankly, I learn a lot of racist sayings/theories from DCUM. I’ve never heard any of these in real life.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2019 20:32     Subject: Kids went off the reservation at Costco tonight
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So tired of the PC police. Really people??


Yes, really. I'm glad that people who hadn't thought of it before are realizing just how hurtful & offensive this is.


+1

OP used an insensitive and hurtful phrase, someone pointed it out and then OP agreed that it was offensive and she would drop its usage.

I think this got resolved respectfully.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2019 20:32     Subject: Kids went off the reservation at Costco tonight
OP, I think you are way overreacting.

Store runs at the end of the day with little kids are a fools errand.

Instacart will do a costco run for you just FYI.