Do not throw away a good relationship just because of some artificial age line you've drawn. That's incredibly stupid.

I married someone 8 years older. Mature, sure. Aging faster than I am, yes. But he also started to have serious health problems, while our kids are still very young, so I shoulder a disproportionate share of child care duties. He has been talking about retiring soon, before our kids are through with college. That means I have to be the sole breadwinner for many years. I'm not happy about that prospect.

Be with the guy that you click with and that you can be yourself with. That's all that matters.

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Anonymous wrote:You might prefer an older man now, but will you want to take care of him when he’s 80 and you’re an active 65 year old? Think about it.

No 65yo woman is active if you read the DCUM threads. They're all complaining about postmenopausal middle age spread and bad knees.

I’m 67 and continue to be active as recently as last night with my DH. He wasn’t able to finish, which happens about 10% of the time, but he had worn me out by that time. I’m sure some of my friends are still active but we don’t talk about it.

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Anonymous wrote:Men hit the wall hard at 35. Beer guts, hair loss, increased health problem/autism for the baby when they father a child 40+, more and more younger men having sexual performance issues, mushy dad bods, etc. Cold hard facts, sorry.

Made-up bullshit, sorry. You just want it to be as bad for men as it is for women, and it simply isn't.

NP but it'a my situation with a guy 12 years older. He's not even "fat" but beer belly and arms like a teenage girl/ Hair is decent, but that't with help from propecia. That and antidepressants=ED.

I have none of this shit and wish I were with someone 4 years older...

I'm 55. Visible abs, as strong as I was at age 35, two healthy children under 10, no ED, sex 4x a week. Far as I'm concerned, for men "hitting the wall" at 35 is a choice not an inevitable outcome. Your guy is lazy. Tell him to get his skinnyfat ass to the gym.

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Anonymous wrote:Men hit the wall hard at 35. Beer guts, hair loss, increased health problem/autism for the baby when they father a child 40+, more and more younger men having sexual performance issues, mushy dad bods, etc. Cold hard facts, sorry.

Made-up bullshit, sorry. You just want it to be as bad for men as it is for women, and it simply isn't.

NP but it'a my situation with a guy 12 years older. He's not even "fat" but beer belly and arms like a teenage girl/ Hair is decent, but that't with help from propecia. That and antidepressants=ED.

I have none of this shit and wish I were with someone 4 years older...

Anonymous wrote:You might prefer an older man now, but will you want to take care of him when he’s 80 and you’re an active 65 year old? Think about it.

No 65yo woman is active if you read the DCUM threads. They're all complaining about postmenopausal middle age spread and bad knees.

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Anonymous wrote:Doesn’t matter. You like and connect with who you like and connect. Not the abstract what you think you like. And hey if it works out and he’s not 10-15 years older you won’t have to be a caretaker of a 70 year old man when you’re 55 and still in your prime.

This! Not to mention dealing with ED issues and a man who can’t perform when you’re still in your sexual prime.

LMAO at the idea a woman of 55 is "in her prime". Keep dreaming, grandma.

God you are dumb. I’m talking about when OP is in her early forties and enjoying sex and her old man husband is pushing 60 and can’t get it up.

LOL what is dumb is the idea that a woman in her 40s is "in her prime". Sorry, ladies, but your sexual prime is 18-22, and all the cougar fantasies that they are really in their prime in their 40s won't change that.

No one said anything about sex. 55 is a great age to still be healthy and active and interested in the world. My parents at 55 had an empty nest and lost of money (I got college scholarships) so they did 2 international trips a year and one ski trip, and a bunch of other hiking and exploring trips in the US. I look at my inlaws who ate also very active people but at 10-15 years older just can't enjoy that sort of lifestyle, but they are same age so it's ok. A 55 and 65/70 year old may be in very different place energy and interest wise (most just sex wise).

Uh, yeah, plenty of PPs said stuff about sex. In fact that is the most important aspect of it to those PPs.

Anonymous wrote:Men hit the wall hard at 35. Beer guts, hair loss, increased health problem/autism for the baby when they father a child 40+, more and more younger men having sexual performance issues, mushy dad bods, etc. Cold hard facts, sorry.

Made-up bullshit, sorry. You just want it to be as bad for men as it is for women, and it simply isn't.

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Anonymous wrote:Doesn’t matter. You like and connect with who you like and connect. Not the abstract what you think you like. And hey if it works out and he’s not 10-15 years older you won’t have to be a caretaker of a 70 year old man when you’re 55 and still in your prime.

This! Not to mention dealing with ED issues and a man who can’t perform when you’re still in your sexual prime.

LMAO at the idea a woman of 55 is "in her prime". Keep dreaming, grandma.

God you are dumb. I’m talking about when OP is in her early forties and enjoying sex and her old man husband is pushing 60 and can’t get it up.

LOL what is dumb is the idea that a woman in her 40s is "in her prime". Sorry, ladies, but your sexual prime is 18-22, and all the cougar fantasies that they are really in their prime in their 40s won't change that.

No one said anything about sex. 55 is a great age to still be healthy and active and interested in the world. My parents at 55 had an empty nest and lost of money (I got college scholarships) so they did 2 international trips a year and one ski trip, and a bunch of other hiking and exploring trips in the US. I look at my inlaws who ate also very active people but at 10-15 years older just can't enjoy that sort of lifestyle, but they are same age so it's ok. A 55 and 65/70 year old may be in very different place energy and interest wise (most just sex wise).

My parents retired in their early 60's and now are in their late 60's and continue to be very active - sports, travel etc. But I know their lives would be different if my father were 78-83 and my mother 67. Even assuming my Dad was in good health their travel would be more sedentary (cruises) and they would be much less active due to my father and not my mother. My grandparents aged rapidly once they reached 80 but being the same age they did it together.

If you’re that upset over him being a mere 4 years older, you’re just as bad as the men you are so terrified will reject you for not being 22.

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Anonymous wrote:Doesn’t matter. You like and connect with who you like and connect. Not the abstract what you think you like. And hey if it works out and he’s not 10-15 years older you won’t have to be a caretaker of a 70 year old man when you’re 55 and still in your prime.

This! Not to mention dealing with ED issues and a man who can’t perform when you’re still in your sexual prime.

LMAO at the idea a woman of 55 is "in her prime". Keep dreaming, grandma.

God you are dumb. I’m talking about when OP is in her early forties and enjoying sex and her old man husband is pushing 60 and can’t get it up.

LOL what is dumb is the idea that a woman in her 40s is "in her prime". Sorry, ladies, but your sexual prime is 18-22, and all the cougar fantasies that they are really in their prime in their 40s won't change that.

No one said anything about sex. 55 is a great age to still be healthy and active and interested in the world. My parents at 55 had an empty nest and lost of money (I got college scholarships) so they did 2 international trips a year and one ski trip, and a bunch of other hiking and exploring trips in the US. I look at my inlaws who ate also very active people but at 10-15 years older just can't enjoy that sort of lifestyle, but they are same age so it's ok. A 55 and 65/70 year old may be in very different place energy and interest wise (most just sex wise).

Op four years older is great. The thing with marrying someone too much older than yourself is that you are at different stages of your lives.

Someone 15 years older might be looking at wanting kids now, will retire before you, probably die many years before you. If those are happy great years then wonderful but I wouldn't plan for this just because you want to look younger. Crazy.

Someone younger will be more in tune to where you are at in life. You go through together which is nice.

If you choose a dud then it doesn't matter what age he is when you marry, he will lie, cheat and leave you for someone younger so marry someone with a kind heart above all else that you get along with really well.

Men hit the wall hard at 35. Beer guts, hair loss, increased health problem/autism for the baby when they father a child 40+, more and more younger men having sexual performance issues, mushy dad bods, etc. Cold hard facts, sorry.

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Anonymous wrote:Women do not age faster than men, lol.

Hatefact: yes, they do.

Women do not age “faster” than men. It’s just that their aging is not accepted by society as much as men’s is and they are considered “too old” earlier.

On the contrary. "Society" is desperately trying to convince everyone that older women are as beautiful, fertile, and desirable as younger women, which flies in the face of biology and common sense and will therefore never succeed.

The similarly crazed effort to convince everyone that fat women are as attractive as thin women is equally doomed to failure.

What if you're a thin older woman with good skin care?

Then you may be more attractive than a fat older woman with bad skin, but you'll still never be as attractive as yourself age 18-22.

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Anonymous wrote:Women do not age faster than men, lol.

Hatefact: yes, they do.

It depends on the person, but women age over time. With men, when they age, it is fast and unfortunate.

And that time when women age is roughly 28 to 32, but 35 at the latest.

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Anonymous wrote:Doesn’t matter. You like and connect with who you like and connect. Not the abstract what you think you like. And hey if it works out and he’s not 10-15 years older you won’t have to be a caretaker of a 70 year old man when you’re 55 and still in your prime.

This! Not to mention dealing with ED issues and a man who can’t perform when you’re still in your sexual prime.

LMAO at the idea a woman of 55 is "in her prime". Keep dreaming, grandma.

God you are dumb. I’m talking about when OP is in her early forties and enjoying sex and her old man husband is pushing 60 and can’t get it up.

LOL what is dumb is the idea that a woman in her 40s is "in her prime". Sorry, ladies, but your sexual prime is 18-22, and all the cougar fantasies that they are really in their prime in their 40s won't change that.