Geezus you people sound pathetic.

Just be yourself. If you like her, spend time with her and treat her well.

Anonymous wrote:PP you helped me figure it out - my heart always wants to chat but my brain sometimes says no, and since the brain controls the speech I can't say nothing. Let's see what my brain says when I see her later today.

Are you the subway stalker?

PP you helped me figure it out - my heart always wants to chat but my brain sometimes says no, and since the brain controls the speech I can't say nothing. Let's see what my brain says when I see her later today.

Here's my take: I think you like her. I think you like her more than you have ever liked anyone. I think you can see yourself marrying her. This scares the crap out of you.you are scared and looking for reasons that this will fail. You are acting rudely to keep her at a distance because you are scared if how much you feel for her and how quickly you fell for her. It scares you because maybe you are young 22 or 25 and you thought you'd play the field until you turned 35 and then settle down. Or maybe you've been burned in the past and are scared of being hurt again. But this woman came into your life, and has thrown you for a loop.. You're at a crossroads. Only you can decide what you want to do. You have to be a man here. Pursue things with her or not. If you decide you don't want to you need to tell her the truth kindly

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Anonymous wrote:If you have little to say she will get bored with you and move on. Yes, women may speak thousands of more words a day then a man but you’d better save some for her.

I know! Plus it's just plain rude. A PP help established that I'm nervous and anxious so I'll try not be and just be myself. And hope she doesn't find me boring in the end.

And to a couple other PPs - really not playing any games or 'stringing her along' but I appreciate you sharing the perspectives from the other side.

Op, can you tell us about your background and your relationship with this woman? Maybe we can help you figure out a strategy to calm your nerves.

Op, can you clarify your relationship with this woman?

Are you dating?

Are you friends, but maybe would like to be more?

How do you know her?.

....I am the women in this situation. We have great sex and at times great convos and then the other times, nada from him. I do like him, but accept that he doesn’t like me like that.

Anonymous wrote:And feeling a bit socially awkward does NOT make you a loser! You’re in good company; a lot of people feel that way.

Bullshit! Op is not socially awkward or anxious. He has admits to knowingly being rude to this woman.

Look at his posts. He's not asking how to overcome nerves. No, instead he's looking for signs that it isn't going to work out so he's justified in being an ass towards her.

My guess is pp is right. He's using this woman until someone else becomes available. Meanwhile this poor woman really likes him, and is trying. I hope she figures out what a jerk op is before she gets blindsided.

You are nothing but a clown op.

Anonymous wrote:When I'm not with her I thought about all kinds of things I'd like to tell her but sometimes I'm not feeling it, even if I could've talked about topics I had in mind, instead I said nothing and let conversation died and turned onto awkward silence. She's usually very good at keeping the conversation going but can't do much when I don't (want to) engage. I don't like it when I do that and think it's rude but sometimes I'm just just like that. Still think and feel I'm madly attracted to her but is this a bad sign?

How do you know her?

Anonymous wrote:Just re-read my own post... am I bored of her without knowing? Is it possible to be bored of someone I'm attracted to?

It's not her job to entertain you.

… Quit playin' games with my heart

-Backstreet Boys

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Anonymous wrote:Are you a virgin op?

Ha no. And F off.

I'm really curious now. How old are you?

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Anonymous wrote:If you have little to say she will get bored with you and move on. Yes, women may speak thousands of more words a day then a man but you’d better save some for her.

I know! Plus it's just plain rude. A PP help established that I'm nervous and anxious so I'll try not be and just be myself. And hope she doesn't find me boring in the end.

And to a couple other PPs - really not playing any games or 'stringing her along' but I appreciate you sharing the perspectives from the other side.

You are definitely playing games.

Anonymous wrote:Are you a virgin op?

Ha no. And F off.