Oh the irony of starting this post judging someone else's maturity with "I can't even."

Anonymous wrote:What type of fish? It all really depends on the type of fish you are eating.

Lightly fried tuna, I'm sure.

Anonymous wrote:I just can’t even with her right now. I’m 28 and everyone I know is settling down and growing up. We are all beginning to eat healthy, fish a couple times a week, working out,going to bed at 10 pm. We are all getting engaged and married, buying apartments and homes and getting into decorating.

Meanwhile she keeps texting me to go to raves with her and hangout with potheads and drunks. All they do is dress in cropntops and hang out at concerts and clubs after work. She also has a group of international party girls that she fell into and expects me to join.

I’m already fading out on her as I feel we’ve grown to be different people. I will miss her but just can’t be around she and her new trashy friends. Am I wrong?

Your friend is frank the tank and you're the home depot girl?

OP, is English your first language?

Something about this post (beyond the typos) reminds me of some of my immigrant friends.

Anonymous wrote:Honestly OP, you sound like a child trying to play grownup. You can perform the acts and rituals of a grownup, while still being very immature in your mindset. The fact that you're so obsessed with what other adults are doing with their own lives, isn't indicative of maturity.

+1

Anonymous wrote:I don't think you're wrong, OP. Nor do I think you are the immature one either.

Friends come and go. Friends change over the years based on common interests. It sounds like you two are going into different directions with your lives and that's okay. Do a slow fade but maybe keep in touch periodically. Eventually, she will grow out of that life phase and you may want to reconnect with her.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:What type of fish? It all really depends on the type of fish you are eating.

And the side dish. That’s gotta be healthy too.

And your decorations should be mature word art, like "Eat Healthy Fish" and one over the bed that says "Zzzzzzzz 10:00 PM"

OP, I know you feel grown up, but you aren't. You'll realize that when you truly grow up.

Part of being grown up is learning that not everyone's world is like yours, and accepting that. Part of growing up is learning that your idea of how things should be, when they should happen, why they should happen, is only your idea and that does not make it correct.

If you don't want to hang out with this friend anymore because you don't find you have anything in common anymore, then don't. The grownup way to do that is to sit down with your friend and tell her that you don't feel like you have much in common anymore.

When I was 27, I was married with a kid and a house payment. Back then I thought I was grown up. Looking back, I was clueless about a lot of things.

Slow down. Aging is a fast process and you just seem bound and determined to speed it right up. You'll regret that.

Go out, have fun. There's plenty of time to be old.

Anonymous wrote:What type of fish? It all really depends on the type of fish you are eating.

And the side dish. That’s gotta be healthy too.

I don't think you're wrong, OP. Nor do I think you are the immature one either.

Friends come and go. Friends change over the years based on common interests. It sounds like you two are going into different directions with your lives and that's okay. Do a slow fade but maybe keep in touch periodically. Eventually, she will grow out of that life phase and you may want to reconnect with her.

What type of fish? It all really depends on the type of fish you are eating.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly OP, you sound like a child trying to play grownup. You can perform the acts and rituals of a grownup, while still being very immature in your mindset. The fact that you're so obsessed with what other adults are doing with their own lives, isn't indicative of maturity.

+1

The big red flag to me was how "everyone I know is" doing certain things. "We are all getting engaged and married," etc. A mature person can live their life without needing to judge someone who makes different choices, choices which aren't hurting anyone else.

+1 “everyone is decorating”?? Gimme a break. OP is the immature one.

I gotta agree OP sounds like the immature one.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly OP, you sound like a child trying to play grownup. You can perform the acts and rituals of a grownup, while still being very immature in your mindset. The fact that you're so obsessed with what other adults are doing with their own lives, isn't indicative of maturity.

+1

The big red flag to me was how "everyone I know is" doing certain things. "We are all getting engaged and married," etc. A mature person can live their life without needing to judge someone who makes different choices, choices which aren't hurting anyone else.

+1 “everyone is decorating”?? Gimme a break. OP is the immature one.

Anonymous wrote:Honestly OP, you sound like a child trying to play grownup. You can perform the acts and rituals of a grownup, while still being very immature in your mindset. The fact that you're so obsessed with what other adults are doing with their own lives, isn't indicative of maturity.

+1

The big red flag to me was how "everyone I know is" doing certain things. "We are all getting engaged and married," etc. A mature person can live their life without needing to judge someone who makes different choices, choices which aren't hurting anyone else.

Really? She is only 27!!! Crazy. That is what everyone is doing at 27 in most parts of Europe. I mean. 27. Common!