Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 14:02     Subject: Meals when a guest
I would have guessed my MIL wrote this, except we don't have a nanny. Extended visits are not a vacation. I am not expecting anyone to cook, clean, or do laundry for me, but you're joining us for our typical day-to-day life. If you're up when I'm making breakfast for the kiddos (and they're all retired, so they're not) - I'll toast an english muffin for you. If not, you're on your own to help yourself to whatever you can find.

Next visit, rent a car. Get some food you like. See whatever sights there are in the area. Don't expect anyone to be catering to you.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 13:49     Subject: Meals when a guest
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Anonymous wrote:When we have family guests and I am working, I feel responsible for feeding them a decent dinner. I have breakfast, lunch and snack items on hand that they can feed themselves. They are also more than welcome to go to the grocery store to get any preferred items. It's nice if they cook a meal but I certainly don't expect it UNLESS the visit is billed as a "helping" visit, where they are there specifically to help out vs be a guest.


And how often have you had family guests stay with you for 2+ weeks when you aren't on vacation/off from work yourself?


With one side of the family living outside of the US and the other out west, several times a year. I cook dinner for my family every night-why wouldn't I cook for guests? That's not to say that the majority of our visitors just sit around waiting to be fed. Many times they'll let us know that they are going to be out for the day and will not return in time for dinner.


YOU cook dinner for your family every night? I'd like to know how your partners/spouse helps out.


Why is it so unbelievable that someone cooks dinner every night?


I don't know any family that lives in the DC metro area who doesn't order delivery food once every week or two. Or a night when a parent stops to pick something up to bring home. Or a night where you go out. Or a night of leftovers. And if I have guests who are staying with me for WEEKS, I certainly expect there would be a night or two when they treat us. I just think what she has posted is unbelievable...but now she admits she only works until 3 most days then she has more time than most working parents have for preparing meals.


And let me clarify...I don't know any family that lives in the DC metro area AND WHO HAS TWO PARENT WORKING FULL-TIME


Do you live in a secret commune? Most families in DC and close-in are full-time working parents. There are single parents working full-time too. The part-time/SAH is pretty rare.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 13:47     Subject: Meals when a guest
Either A) OP is a troll or B) really really clueless and has fled never to return due to the criticism.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 13:47     Subject: Meals when a guest
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Anonymous wrote:When we have family guests and I am working, I feel responsible for feeding them a decent dinner. I have breakfast, lunch and snack items on hand that they can feed themselves. They are also more than welcome to go to the grocery store to get any preferred items. It's nice if they cook a meal but I certainly don't expect it UNLESS the visit is billed as a "helping" visit, where they are there specifically to help out vs be a guest.


And how often have you had family guests stay with you for 2+ weeks when you aren't on vacation/off from work yourself?


With one side of the family living outside of the US and the other out west, several times a year. I cook dinner for my family every night-why wouldn't I cook for guests? That's not to say that the majority of our visitors just sit around waiting to be fed. Many times they'll let us know that they are going to be out for the day and will not return in time for dinner.


YOU cook dinner for your family every night? I'd like to know how your partners/spouse helps out.


Why is it so unbelievable that someone cooks dinner every night?


I don't know any family that lives in the DC metro area who doesn't order delivery food once every week or two. Or a night when a parent stops to pick something up to bring home. Or a night where you go out. Or a night of leftovers. And if I have guests who are staying with me for WEEKS, I certainly expect there would be a night or two when they treat us. I just think what she has posted is unbelievable...but now she admits she only works until 3 most days then she has more time than most working parents have for preparing meals.


And let me clarify...I don't know any family that lives in the DC metro area AND WHO HAS TWO PARENT WORKING FULL-TIME


What?! I barely know any families who have a SAHM. Most of my friends are in equally stressful jobs as their DHs. DH and I cook every night, but we live close to work and have sub 10 minute commutes.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 13:45     Subject: Meals when a guest
Anonymous wrote:I’m concerned for my son and his family, they seem very stretched time-wise.

We flew in a couple weeks ago and landed late on a weekday at 4pm We had a small dinner at their house that their nanny made, but everyone was hungry afterwards, including their kids! Their kids, 4 and 6, ate some additional frozen food cooked up. They have strict rules against snacking before dinner or not eating all your dinner foods. We love to snack while on vacation!

Then in the mornings they scuttle off to work and one kid goes to preschool and the other to elementary. They were fed and had lunchboxes but we weren’t told nor given much for breakfast or lunch at their house. In fact my son told us to have the nanny take us grocery shopping when she comes!

The nanny comes in the afternoon to do pickups and cook dinner for the kids by 5pm and everyone else eats again later when the parents get home at 6. I don’t know if we need to help more or give advice on meals— or to whom, the nanny, my son or his wife!?


You don't need to give advice to anyone. If you want breakfast and lunch, either go out to eat or go buy yourself some food for those meals, along with whatever snacks you want. And then offer to cook dinner sometimes, too. You're not staying in a hotel, this is their home, and they both work, and you are mooching off of them for weeks at a time.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 13:28     Subject: Meals when a guest
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Anonymous wrote:When we have family guests and I am working, I feel responsible for feeding them a decent dinner. I have breakfast, lunch and snack items on hand that they can feed themselves. They are also more than welcome to go to the grocery store to get any preferred items. It's nice if they cook a meal but I certainly don't expect it UNLESS the visit is billed as a "helping" visit, where they are there specifically to help out vs be a guest.


And how often have you had family guests stay with you for 2+ weeks when you aren't on vacation/off from work yourself?


With one side of the family living outside of the US and the other out west, several times a year. I cook dinner for my family every night-why wouldn't I cook for guests? That's not to say that the majority of our visitors just sit around waiting to be fed. Many times they'll let us know that they are going to be out for the day and will not return in time for dinner.


YOU cook dinner for your family every night? I'd like to know how your partners/spouse helps out.


Why is it so unbelievable that someone cooks dinner every night?


I don't know any family that lives in the DC metro area who doesn't order delivery food once every week or two. Or a night when a parent stops to pick something up to bring home. Or a night where you go out. Or a night of leftovers. And if I have guests who are staying with me for WEEKS, I certainly expect there would be a night or two when they treat us. I just think what she has posted is unbelievable...but now she admits she only works until 3 most days then she has more time than most working parents have for preparing meals.


And let me clarify...I don't know any family that lives in the DC metro area AND WHO HAS TWO PARENT WORKING FULL-TIME

You clearly don't know many people.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 12:49     Subject: Meals when a guest
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Anonymous wrote:When we have family guests and I am working, I feel responsible for feeding them a decent dinner. I have breakfast, lunch and snack items on hand that they can feed themselves. They are also more than welcome to go to the grocery store to get any preferred items. It's nice if they cook a meal but I certainly don't expect it UNLESS the visit is billed as a "helping" visit, where they are there specifically to help out vs be a guest.


And how often have you had family guests stay with you for 2+ weeks when you aren't on vacation/off from work yourself?


With one side of the family living outside of the US and the other out west, several times a year. I cook dinner for my family every night-why wouldn't I cook for guests? That's not to say that the majority of our visitors just sit around waiting to be fed. Many times they'll let us know that they are going to be out for the day and will not return in time for dinner.


YOU cook dinner for your family every night? I'd like to know how your partners/spouse helps out.


I do, except Tuesdays when I work late so my spouse cooks. I work every other weekday until 3 so he gets the kids ready and does drop off every morning. I enjoy cooking, so I also cook on the weekends. Believe me, I have PLENTY of other "default parent" complaints but doing the majority of the cooking is not one of them!


So you post that “i cook dinner for guests; what’s the problem?!”

Then you acknowledge that you *enjoy* cooking meals and you don’t work til 5+.

So your dig is relevant how?


Answer: to make herself feel superior.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 12:46     Subject: Meals when a guest
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Anonymous wrote:When we have family guests and I am working, I feel responsible for feeding them a decent dinner. I have breakfast, lunch and snack items on hand that they can feed themselves. They are also more than welcome to go to the grocery store to get any preferred items. It's nice if they cook a meal but I certainly don't expect it UNLESS the visit is billed as a "helping" visit, where they are there specifically to help out vs be a guest.


And how often have you had family guests stay with you for 2+ weeks when you aren't on vacation/off from work yourself?


With one side of the family living outside of the US and the other out west, several times a year. I cook dinner for my family every night-why wouldn't I cook for guests? That's not to say that the majority of our visitors just sit around waiting to be fed. Many times they'll let us know that they are going to be out for the day and will not return in time for dinner.


YOU cook dinner for your family every night? I'd like to know how your partners/spouse helps out.


I do, except Tuesdays when I work late so my spouse cooks. I work every other weekday until 3 so he gets the kids ready and does drop off every morning. I enjoy cooking, so I also cook on the weekends. Believe me, I have PLENTY of other "default parent" complaints but doing the majority of the cooking is not one of them!


So you post that “i cook dinner for guests; what’s the problem?!”

Then you acknowledge that you *enjoy* cooking meals and you don’t work til 5+.

So your dig is relevant how?
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 12:36     Subject: Meals when a guest
Agree that OP must be a troll. Dropped in with a ridiculous OP and never returned...lovely.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 12:33     Subject: Meals when a guest

Relying on snacks means never noticing when one feels full, and therefore contributes to the obesity epidemic, OP.

Also, I'm not sure what you think your role is here. Do you consider yourself a guest in a busy household? Do you expect meals do be cooked for you? When my parents visit, my father cleans and cooks as much as I do. We usually grocery shop because his English is limited, otherwise he would do that as well. His help is very much appreciated!!!

Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 12:32     Subject: Meals when a guest
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Anonymous wrote:When we have family guests and I am working, I feel responsible for feeding them a decent dinner. I have breakfast, lunch and snack items on hand that they can feed themselves. They are also more than welcome to go to the grocery store to get any preferred items. It's nice if they cook a meal but I certainly don't expect it UNLESS the visit is billed as a "helping" visit, where they are there specifically to help out vs be a guest.


And how often have you had family guests stay with you for 2+ weeks when you aren't on vacation/off from work yourself?


With one side of the family living outside of the US and the other out west, several times a year. I cook dinner for my family every night-why wouldn't I cook for guests? That's not to say that the majority of our visitors just sit around waiting to be fed. Many times they'll let us know that they are going to be out for the day and will not return in time for dinner.


YOU cook dinner for your family every night? I'd like to know how your partners/spouse helps out.


Why is it so unbelievable that someone cooks dinner every night?


I don't know any family that lives in the DC metro area who doesn't order delivery food once every week or two. Or a night when a parent stops to pick something up to bring home. Or a night where you go out. Or a night of leftovers. And if I have guests who are staying with me for WEEKS, I certainly expect there would be a night or two when they treat us. I just think what she has posted is unbelievable...but now she admits she only works until 3 most days then she has more time than most working parents have for preparing meals.


And let me clarify...I don't know any family that lives in the DC metro area AND WHO HAS TWO PARENT WORKING FULL-TIME
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 12:32     Subject: Meals when a guest
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:When we have family guests and I am working, I feel responsible for feeding them a decent dinner. I have breakfast, lunch and snack items on hand that they can feed themselves. They are also more than welcome to go to the grocery store to get any preferred items. It's nice if they cook a meal but I certainly don't expect it UNLESS the visit is billed as a "helping" visit, where they are there specifically to help out vs be a guest.


And how often have you had family guests stay with you for 2+ weeks when you aren't on vacation/off from work yourself?


With one side of the family living outside of the US and the other out west, several times a year. I cook dinner for my family every night-why wouldn't I cook for guests? That's not to say that the majority of our visitors just sit around waiting to be fed. Many times they'll let us know that they are going to be out for the day and will not return in time for dinner.


YOU cook dinner for your family every night? I'd like to know how your partners/spouse helps out.


Why is it so unbelievable that someone cooks dinner every night?


I don't know any family that lives in the DC metro area who doesn't order delivery food once every week or two. Or a night when a parent stops to pick something up to bring home. Or a night where you go out. Or a night of leftovers. And if I have guests who are staying with me for WEEKS, I certainly expect there would be a night or two when they treat us. I just think what she has posted is unbelievable...but now she admits she only works until 3 most days then she has more time than most working parents have for preparing meals.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 12:28     Subject: Meals when a guest
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When we have family guests and I am working, I feel responsible for feeding them a decent dinner. I have breakfast, lunch and snack items on hand that they can feed themselves. They are also more than welcome to go to the grocery store to get any preferred items. It's nice if they cook a meal but I certainly don't expect it UNLESS the visit is billed as a "helping" visit, where they are there specifically to help out vs be a guest.


And how often have you had family guests stay with you for 2+ weeks when you aren't on vacation/off from work yourself?


With one side of the family living outside of the US and the other out west, several times a year. I cook dinner for my family every night-why wouldn't I cook for guests? That's not to say that the majority of our visitors just sit around waiting to be fed. Many times they'll let us know that they are going to be out for the day and will not return in time for dinner.


YOU cook dinner for your family every night? I'd like to know how your partners/spouse helps out.


Why is it so unbelievable that someone cooks dinner every night?
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 12:20     Subject: Meals when a guest
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:When we have family guests and I am working, I feel responsible for feeding them a decent dinner. I have breakfast, lunch and snack items on hand that they can feed themselves. They are also more than welcome to go to the grocery store to get any preferred items. It's nice if they cook a meal but I certainly don't expect it UNLESS the visit is billed as a "helping" visit, where they are there specifically to help out vs be a guest.


And how often have you had family guests stay with you for 2+ weeks when you aren't on vacation/off from work yourself?


With one side of the family living outside of the US and the other out west, several times a year. I cook dinner for my family every night-why wouldn't I cook for guests? That's not to say that the majority of our visitors just sit around waiting to be fed. Many times they'll let us know that they are going to be out for the day and will not return in time for dinner.


YOU cook dinner for your family every night? I'd like to know how your partners/spouse helps out.


I do, except Tuesdays when I work late so my spouse cooks. I work every other weekday until 3 so he gets the kids ready and does drop off every morning. I enjoy cooking, so I also cook on the weekends. Believe me, I have PLENTY of other "default parent" complaints but doing the majority of the cooking is not one of them!
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 12:17     Subject: Meals when a guest
OP, are you just sitting around their house all day? Can you really not figure out getting a taxi, uber, or rental car (or offer to drive you son to work and borrow his car for the day) to get to the grocery store? Bizarre. And of course you should be helping more since they're working and commuting, and you're not.