Anonymous
Post 03/24/2019 10:00     Subject: First date!
Anonymous wrote:What’s with the lazy ass, noncommittal meetups for drinks or coffee? I can’t believe how many women are discouraging men from actually planning first dates.


And then they make threads about how their boyfriend/ husband doesn't know how to to plan anything.
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2019 17:57     Subject: Re:First date!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Has anyone tried riding around on the Metro? Have a friend who swears by this. Lots of time to chat, get to know each other, people watch, etc. And oh-so cheap! Thoughts?


My 3 year d enjoys this.

I can’t imagine asking an adult to come ride the metro with me on a date...


Why not? There's a new group called Metro Hetros, which besides being a misspelling feels really exclusionary, but the intent is good. Just getting people, dating couples, in a group to go on Metro rides together. OK, it may not be La Diplomate or whatever, but the fun is real, the date cheap, and love's in the glove. LOL

Anonymous
Post 03/23/2019 17:08     Subject: First date!
Anonymous wrote:What’s with the lazy ass, noncommittal meetups for drinks or coffee? I can’t believe how many women are discouraging men from actually planning first dates.


Because most of us just want to figure out if we want to see you again, and vice versa. I don't need an elaborately planned event to answer that question. At this age, I have stuff to do and assume you do too. If we like each other, a cooking class would be fun. If we just met? Awkward (and long).
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2019 16:59     Subject: First date!
Depends how well you already know the person. If you know relatively well, then bowling, zoo, art museum would be ok. If it's the first time you meet someone, i'd opt for none of these, and just do a coffee or a drink.
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2019 16:57     Subject: First date!
What’s with the lazy ass, noncommittal meetups for drinks or coffee? I can’t believe how many women are discouraging men from actually planning first dates.
Anonymous
Post 03/23/2019 16:28     Subject: Re:First date!
Upscale lounge with comfortable seating/coffee tables/fireplace. Thursday early eve. Drinks and apps. If all goes well, walk it off at art museum (choose a lounge next to or short walk)
Anonymous
Post 03/22/2019 14:22     Subject: First date!
Anonymous wrote:

Because some people know how to communicate with others, are not alcoholics, and aren't just looking for a quick hook up.


One would think the people who prefer to sit and talk to someone over having a forced interactive activity aren't the ones with communication problems.
Anonymous
Post 03/22/2019 11:00     Subject: First date!
Miniature golf
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 13:37     Subject: Re:First date!
Anonymous wrote:Has anyone tried riding around on the Metro? Have a friend who swears by this. Lots of time to chat, get to know each other, people watch, etc. And oh-so cheap! Thoughts?


My 3 year d enjoys this.

I can’t imagine asking an adult to come ride the metro with me on a date...
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 13:20     Subject: First date!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why does there have to be some weird activity that sounds like your weekend wit your children. Honestly, I'd probably cancel on all of these and ghost you.


This exactly. So strange for a first date. Why not meet for a coffee or drink and extend to a meal if it looks promising.


This. The art museum sounds okay but not great. I don’t like zoos, I’m afraid of heights, I suck at bowling so it would be embarrassing if he wanted to have a real game, and a cooking class seems like something you’d do with someone you want to cook with/for. It seems an odd choice to prepare a meal with someone before you’ve shared a meal with them. Someone suggested hiking, but I wouldn’t want to be alone in a secluded area with a man I just met.

I’m creative and kind of eccentric, and even I’m fine with coffee or a drink for a first date. Dinner if I’m up for something longer.


^ Totally agree re: hiking - no chance in the world I want to be out in the woods with someone I don't know. And I LOVE hiking. We can stroll around the city, though - that's cool.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 13:19     Subject: First date!
All those sound like fun activities but only zoo or art museum for the first date. I like strolling and chatting, and none of those hold you stuck someplace for a long time if you decide it's not going to work out. Karaoke could be fun, too, if it's going to be a drunken night sort of date.

The other options sound to me like they would be fun with a longer-term partner - or were made for being televised a la The Bachelor. I don't want to take a cooking class with someone I don't know.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 13:14     Subject: First date!
These sound like great second date options. I would just want to meet for a meal/drink/coffee and chat and get to know them a little first.
If I had to pick one of those options I'd say bowling.

38 Female
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 12:57     Subject: First date!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why does there have to be some weird activity that sounds like your weekend wit your children. Honestly, I'd probably cancel on all of these and ghost you.


This exactly. So strange for a first date. Why not meet for a coffee or drink and extend to a meal if it looks promising.


This. The art museum sounds okay but not great. I don’t like zoos, I’m afraid of heights, I suck at bowling so it would be embarrassing if he wanted to have a real game, and a cooking class seems like something you’d do with someone you want to cook with/for. It seems an odd choice to prepare a meal with someone before you’ve shared a meal with them. Someone suggested hiking, but I wouldn’t want to be alone in a secluded area with a man I just met.

I’m creative and kind of eccentric, and even I’m fine with coffee or a drink for a first date. Dinner if I’m up for something longer.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 05:49     Subject: Re:First date!
None of the above. Meet for a hh drink (or coffee) and if you are feeling it, spontaneously decide from there. 35/F
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 05:32     Subject: First date!
Anonymous wrote:Museum or cooking class.
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