Anonymous wrote:I’m with the poster that they want to continue tradition and have their kids do better. I grew up MC and we are definitely UMC/UP with mild connections. UP by income but not lifestyle. Not enough to buy in or definite jobs but enough to be ahead of the average curve. I want my kids to get the 1% lifestyle. Not over anything, but better than ourselves.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No.
What you have here with this scandal & on striver websites like College Confidential -- are rich people who have literally run out of things to spend their money on & unfulfilled busybody striver parents who are living through their kids, respectively.
Plenty of rich, connected, super smart kids at flagship universities and LACs.
I love how striving has become a dirty word these days. The rich and connected can't abide by anyone else trying to do better, so they denigrate them as 'strivers'. Only those who are already rich and connected evidently deserve to be rich and connected.
If you're rich and connected and your kid is at a flagship university or LAC, it's mostly likely because they AREN'T super smart. They're coasting on being rich and connected.
You can disdain elite colleges if you like (although it all comes across as sour grapes mostly), but this is the ultimate elitist and un-American attitude.
Anonymous wrote:If you have to ask the question OP...then you've already missed the boat. Move on to UMD or the likes.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I feel like maybe they are for low income and maybe middle class people but what about everyone else?
Studies show the best indicator of a child’s future socioeconomic status is their parents own economic class.
So why are all these rich people risking jail time and public humiliation and shaming for something that won’t even help their kids that much?
And beyond those people, why are “regular” UMC types who can’t afford to bribe or donate their way in putting so much pressure on their kids to jump through the hoops and get the best grades, test scores, extracurriculars, etc. for a less than 10% chance of getting in and making it feel “worth it”?
In this new Gilded Age of ever-rising income inequality, people feel desperate to do everything they can to give their kids access to upper middle class opportunities.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Simple: Elite people want to stay elite. One way to ensure that is to educate your kids. It is not about being "rich" or bragging rights. It's about survival over and maintaining/growing principal from one generation to the next. People are also concerned about future generations, their opportunities and education. Without a doubt you can make a nice salary going to any college. That is not the hope of most ivey parents... then you should do merit aid or a state flagship.
Is this really true that this is the only way though?
My H and I live in a flyover state and will make around 800k this year. We live pretty nicely. Either of us went to an elite school. Based on our experience, we don’t think we need to be pressuring our kids into the Ivy League to “survive.”
Shrug.
Anonymous wrote:No.
What you have here with this scandal & on striver websites like College Confidential -- are rich people who have literally run out of things to spend their money on & unfulfilled busybody striver parents who are living through their kids, respectively.
Plenty of rich, connected, super smart kids at flagship universities and LACs.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I feel like maybe they are for low income and maybe middle class people but what about everyone else?
Studies show the best indicator of a child’s future socioeconomic status is their parents own economic class.
So why are all these rich people risking jail time and public humiliation and shaming for something that won’t even help their kids that much?
And beyond those people, why are “regular” UMC types who can’t afford to bribe or donate their way in putting so much pressure on their kids to jump through the hoops and get the best grades, test scores, extracurriculars, etc. for a less than 10% chance of getting in and making it feel “worth it”?
Because the parents need to be able to brag about where their kids go to college. They will feel ashamed to tell their Big Law/CEO/Hollywood friends that their kids are going to a school that it not perceived as one of the best. It's 100% parent ego.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:"My H and I live in a flyover state and will make around 800k this year. We live pretty nicely. Either of us went to an elite school. Based on our experience, we don’t think we need to be pressuring our kids into the Ivy League to “survive.”
I have a HS buddy like you. He has always loved to be a big fish in a small pond.
One of his kids ended up in the service, nothing wrong with that, but my buddy can't understand why DC won't move on to college.
His DC loves being a big fish in his company and rapidly advancing and will soon have nearly 200 guys looking up to him.
Most people who push their kids into the Ivy League are small fish in the best pond people.
Huh? This makes no sense.