Anonymous
Post 03/17/2019 10:06     Subject: No kids weddings rant
You can have your turn, with a few less guests.
Anonymous
Post 03/17/2019 10:05     Subject: No kids weddings rant
So I have a toddler and a baby that both go to sleep at 7:30. I wouldn’t want to bring them to a wedding. What do you just leave in the middle of dinner because your kids need to sleep? That would be so rude to the bride and groom. Even leaving before the end of the wedding is rude in my opinion.

We just get a babysitter at the wedding city. I do wish brides and grooms helped more with this. They’re on more local message boards. Care.com tried to send me a male babysitter when my dd had bad separation anxiety and hated men.
Anonymous
Post 03/17/2019 10:04     Subject: No kids weddings rant
Anonymous wrote:I agree with you OP. I had kids at my wedding. It was a destination wedding with the continental US. I wanted family members to come so I said yes of course bring your kids! I also really love their children. I had a kids section at the wedding with little table and chairs. PB and J sandwiches and easy kid food ( which is super cheap....you don't have to serve lobster to 3 year olds). I had bubbles and a little area for them to play. I had a babysitter there to help. And then as the night progressed there was a movie indoors for kids to chill out. They were not in the way at all. I think children bring joy! Some of my favorite photos from the wedding are ones with kids doing funny things.

And now when I get invited to a wedding in Aspen that kids are not invited to, I politely decline. It's just way too hard and expensive to try and find a childcare situation and get myself to the wedding. And I have also noticed that attendance numbers are quite low at these weddings, but if that is what the bride wants then that is fine!


You can’t leave your partner to parent for a few days so you can celebrate a freind’s milestone?

I also doubt that you would buy plane fare for your children to go to Aspen for a wedding.

As a parent, I find it hilarious that the “parents” can’t see their own self involvement. You had your turn, let someone else have theirs.
Anonymous
Post 03/17/2019 10:02     Subject: No kids weddings rant
Not everyone has in-laws nearby to help, especially when you travel to the wedding. I’m not using a random hotel babysitter.
Anonymous
Post 03/17/2019 10:01     Subject: Re:No kids weddings rant
Anonymous wrote:I used to be firmly in the “no kids at weddings camp”. But then yesterday I took my two kids to a wedding where there were also lots of other kids and it was so cute and fun.

If I could do my wedding over again, I’d include all the kids. There was so much more warmth and laughter with the kids.


+1. I was child free when I got married and didn’t get it.
Anonymous
Post 03/17/2019 10:00     Subject: Re:No kids weddings rant
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP - who is dragging kids to the wedding. As stated, we are complying. It is just really inconvenient.


I think childless couples are often laissez-faire about leaving babies and small kids with random sitters and don't get why it might be tough and stressful. You'll figure it out, but I get your annoyance.


DP. I get your own experiences cloud your own judgment and that was happened with me may be unlikely, as a kid, I myself had a pretty bad random babysitter at an out of state wedding so it makes me less likely to do that for my own kids.


So leave your kids at home, ask your ILs to watch them, or don’t go. These are not things to be irritated about.

Invitations are not summonses. Of course, then you don’t get free food, bar, and the photo op of your kid all dressed up on the dance floor.

It’s weird to get hung up on the fact that someone does something that doesn’t fit YOUR life at that moment. There are likely other guests who the arrangement worlds fine for.
Anonymous
Post 03/17/2019 09:59     Subject: No kids weddings rant
I hate kids on the dance floor.
Anonymous
Post 03/17/2019 09:58     Subject: No kids weddings rant
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I agree OP. I don’t go to weddings without kids. End of story.


So I’m guessing you don’t go anywhere else where there is an age restriction? No bars, concerts, etc.? How do you feel about voting and driver’s permits?


No I don’t go to bars or concerts. I have no idea what you mean about voting and drivers permits? I’ve brought my kid to the voting booth, I think that’s important. I haven’t taken a drivers test in over 20 years. If I had to take one, my husband would be home with her.
Anonymous
Post 03/17/2019 09:56     Subject: Re:No kids weddings rant
I wouldn't go because I don't have people to watch my kids. I'd tell people I'm close to why I can't attend. If they give me a hard time, I'd say, you need to change who can come to the wedding, that's the only way I can attend.
Anonymous
Post 03/17/2019 09:55     Subject: No kids weddings rant
I agree with you OP. I had kids at my wedding. It was a destination wedding with the continental US. I wanted family members to come so I said yes of course bring your kids! I also really love their children. I had a kids section at the wedding with little table and chairs. PB and J sandwiches and easy kid food ( which is super cheap....you don't have to serve lobster to 3 year olds). I had bubbles and a little area for them to play. I had a babysitter there to help. And then as the night progressed there was a movie indoors for kids to chill out. They were not in the way at all. I think children bring joy! Some of my favorite photos from the wedding are ones with kids doing funny things.

And now when I get invited to a wedding in Aspen that kids are not invited to, I politely decline. It's just way too hard and expensive to try and find a childcare situation and get myself to the wedding. And I have also noticed that attendance numbers are quite low at these weddings, but if that is what the bride wants then that is fine!
Anonymous
Post 03/17/2019 09:52     Subject: Re:No kids weddings rant
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP - who is dragging kids to the wedding. As stated, we are complying. It is just really inconvenient.


I think childless couples are often laissez-faire about leaving babies and small kids with random sitters and don't get why it might be tough and stressful. You'll figure it out, but I get your annoyance.


DP. I get your own experiences cloud your own judgment and that was happened with me may be unlikely, as a kid, I myself had a pretty bad random babysitter at an out of state wedding so it makes me less likely to do that for my own kids.
Anonymous
Post 03/17/2019 09:52     Subject: No kids weddings rant
Anonymous wrote:I agree OP. I don’t go to weddings without kids. End of story.


So I’m guessing you don’t go anywhere else where there is an age restriction? No bars, concerts, etc.? How do you feel about voting and driver’s permits?
Anonymous
Post 03/17/2019 09:50     Subject: Re:No kids weddings rant
Anonymous wrote:OP - in this case, cost is not the issue. DH’s parents are paying for the wedding.


So, the question is... did you have the wedding you wanted?

Why not let these people have the wedding they want?

There will be plenty of family functions going forward where children are invited, included, and welcomed. Why must it be EVERY one, mostly because you don’t want to divide and conquer with your spouse, find a babysitter, or decline the invitation?

Marriage is one of the first steps into a different kind of life for many people. One grownup day won’t kill you, or send your children to therapy.
Anonymous
Post 03/17/2019 09:48     Subject: No kids weddings rant
I agree OP. I don’t go to weddings without kids. End of story.
Anonymous
Post 03/17/2019 09:46     Subject: No kids weddings rant
I love kids, I loved having kids at my wedding. I completely understand why people don’t want kids at theirs. It’s preference.