Anonymous
Post 03/18/2019 10:03     Subject: People who don't want to have babies
For me, pregnancy and child birth are a means to an end. Loving and raising happy, kind children is the goal.

Morning sickness, weight gain, and feeling every moment of pushing a human out my vag isn’t exactly “living the dream.” Seriously, what is wrong with you OP?
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2019 23:44     Subject: People who don't want to have babies
Anonymous wrote:You don't want experience labor - you want pain killers, or a scheduled induction, or an elective c-section (even when it's not medically necessary). You don't want to care for your newborn her first night outside your body - you send her to the nursery. You don't want to breastfeed - you resort to formula at the first opportunity. You don't want to help your baby adjust by letting her sleep in the same room as you. What part of having a baby DO you want??


Hmm, I had pre-scheduled c sections under general anesthesia with both of my children, did not breast feed, they slept in their own room the first night home from the hospital. I hated being pregnant and I do not enjoy babies or toddlers.

I wanted independent children, the end justified the means.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2019 14:33     Subject: Re:People who don't want to have babies
Anonymous wrote:I had all those things except an induction and have 2 kids. Die mad about it!


Yep, I had most of that stuff, except the elective c and I think "die mad about it" just about sums it up. I'm a happy mom of a happy kid, sounds like OP is a miserable jerk. Sorry about your life OP.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2019 14:26     Subject: People who don't want to have babies
Anonymous wrote:Lordy, you’re nuts.


This is the only sensible response to OP. Holy Lord.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2019 13:39     Subject: Re:People who don't want to have babies
Ummm...I hated being pregnant and chose scheduled c-sections for both, because I am no mommy martyr and like to keep my pelvic floor intact. Yeah...there is a reason for the large section of discreet-type undies at the grocery store.

I also didn't enjoy the baby stage all that much, I started to like my kids after they were about 6 months old.

I also can't wait until they're out of diapers and can hold a cup!
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2019 23:45     Subject: Re:People who don't want to have babies
Having a kid? You know, like raising it, bonding with it, creating a person who hopefully adds value to this world and shapes yours and others lives for the better?

Everything you mention is so superficial and minor in the long run. I think you're a troll, but if not you should consider becoming a surrogate. The major parts of parenthood all happen before about 3 mos for you apparently so it could be very rewarding.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2019 23:41     Subject: Re:People who don't want to have babies
Stupid thread. OP is an a$$.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2019 21:43     Subject: People who don't want to have babies
Anonymous wrote:You don't want experience labor - you want pain killers, or a scheduled induction, or an elective c-section (even when it's not medically necessary). You don't want to care for your newborn her first night outside your body - you send her to the nursery. You don't want to breastfeed - you resort to formula at the first opportunity. You don't want to help your baby adjust by letting her sleep in the same room as you. What part of having a baby DO you want??


We just want them as photo props. But hey, if your didn't die in the fields after giving an unmedicated birth and delivering your own baby - you're also not a mother enough. So there is that.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2019 19:42     Subject: People who don't want to have babies
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It just screams misogyny to me to suggest there is something wrong with wanting pain killers for childbirth and not for a root canal.


Obviously, if you undergo dental procedures with painkillers, you really don't love your teeth all that much and don't deserve them.


NP. The OP is a troll and desiring painkillers during birth is completely understandable, but a root canal and childbirth are not really analogous, for a number of reasons ("level of pain," possibly, but there's a lot more to them both).
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2019 17:24     Subject: People who don't want to have babies
Anonymous wrote:It just screams misogyny to me to suggest there is something wrong with wanting pain killers for childbirth and not for a root canal.


Obviously, if you undergo dental procedures with painkillers, you really don't love your teeth all that much and don't deserve them.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2019 16:09     Subject: Re:People who don't want to have babies
I had one highly medicated birth starting with being induced and ending in a c-section. Lots of drugs.
I had one natural home birth.
I breastfeed one kid twice as long as the other. Lots of formula.
With one kid, we spent the first night snuggling and bonding.
One kid spent two weeks in the NICU. I didn’t hold her until she was 6 days old.

Spoiler alert: I love them exactly the same and am extremely happy to be their mommy. Both of them. Being a mom is so much more than giving birth and breastfeeding.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2019 14:54     Subject: People who don't want to have babies
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You don't want experience labor - you want pain killers, or a scheduled induction, or an elective c-section (even when it's not medically necessary). You don't want to care for your newborn her first night outside your body - you send her to the nursery. You don't want to breastfeed - you resort to formula at the first opportunity. You don't want to help your baby adjust by letting her sleep in the same room as you. What part of having a baby DO you want??


Yes, OP, clearly all there is to parenting is the delivery and the boob. If only.

Pregnancy sucks. Giving birth sucks. Those hours the baby went to nursery are the last unbroken stretch of sleep most of us get for months to come (years, in my case). As a formula feeding mom, for reasons that are none of your business, I didn't find that formula feeding was the "easy way" at all - washing and making endless bottles, lugging formula and bottles and bibs around everywhere when my best friend could just pop out a boob... And newborns are screaming angry potatoes, which I personally don't find particularly enjoyable. The baby stage is my least favorite part of being a parent, and I say that as I deal with the terrible twos and all the fun things that entails with my oldest. He's so much fun, even with the tantrums and boundary testing.

You know, in the former USSR, they didn't allow women to get any kind of pain relief during labor because they believed the mother couldn't properly bond with the baby if she didn't experience the pain. Glad to hear someone still holds those Soviet beliefs!



"Screaming angry potatoes" - I'm stealing that.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2019 14:01     Subject: People who don't want to have babies
Anonymous wrote:You don't want experience labor - you want pain killers, or a scheduled induction, or an elective c-section (even when it's not medically necessary). You don't want to care for your newborn her first night outside your body - you send her to the nursery. You don't want to breastfeed - you resort to formula at the first opportunity. You don't want to help your baby adjust by letting her sleep in the same room as you. What part of having a baby DO you want??


Trolly Trollerson.......
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2019 13:57     Subject: People who don't want to have babies
My oldest is only 4, so it might change, but in my experience pregnancy and the newborn stage were by far the least pleasant of my parenting experience. Fortunately they did not last that long. OP, I think you should tell everyone you know in real life how you feel. Maybe post it on Facebook. I'm sure things will go well.
Anonymous
Post 03/14/2019 13:40     Subject: People who don't want to have babies
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Mom of 3. Pregnant 4x.

Another problem with the Information Age and oversharing. We need to keep more things private. No one needs to share the pee stick/the soon/the gender reveal/the birth plan/the birth story/the journey to parenthood/naming the baby before birth.

No one will know about your scheduled induction, whether you are BF or formula feed, that you chose to send your newborn to the nursery one night, that you didn't babyproof and lockdown your house if you keep this information private.

Just stop! Upshot is no one cares, it is not a competition and there's no award ceremony!


This.


+1 My kid is in elementary school now, and no one knows or cares which kids were delivered by C-Section or epidurals or unmedicated, which kids were formula-fed or nursed, which kids co-slept or not. This is a blip in the 18+ years you'll spend feeding, cleaning, clothing, teaching, and otherwise caring for your kid.