Loved it!!!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You missed hooking up with hawt frat guys!

Totally depends on the house and girls. Quite a few of my girlfriends had boyfriends from hometown or who they met freshman year that they were faithful to all through college.

Yeah right. I don’t know a single girl who didn’t hook up with multiple guys - sometimes at the same time - while in college.

+10000

I was in what was considered a "top" sorority at UVa late 80s-early 90s. It wasn't perfect, but it was great fun, and I made friends who are still there for me.

Looks like I’m in the minority but I was in one and it was a lot of fun. Late 90s. Drama here and there but I think it comes with that many people spending time together than it being a sorority.

That being said, I don’t think it’s that sororities make women more poised.

I pledged one of the biggest, oldest sororities in the country as a freshman -- and I loved it. I went through rush on a lark, just to see the beautiful sorority houses and meet people (rush was before school started at my huge SEC school).

As rush week wore on, I realized there was one sorority I would feel totally at home at, much to my surprise. It was still new to the campus and the women were really smart and amazing. Not stereotypes. I got in and had a great three years (like most women, by senior year I was phasing out of sorority life). I was never hazed, forced to drink, or forced to do anything I didn't want to.

Joining a sorority gave my a smaller group of 100ish women to bond with on my campus of 30,000 plus. It gave me a lot of leadership experience. It wasn't all perfect -- I lost out on a post I really wanted -- but even that was a learning experience.

Throughout the years, I've used my sorority connections whenever I moved to a new city. It's a shortcut to connecting into the community -- these women helped my find the best doctors, schools and other resources, and welcomed me and my husband into their communities.

I recently went to a reunion of my chapter with women who were all at school the same time as me. I wondered how it would be after all these years.

It was fabulous.

Turns out I would have missed a ton if I hadn't joined a sorority.

Anonymous wrote:Seriously? I went to a school where about a third of the students were in Greek life. I rushed but dropped out and ultimately don’t feel like I missed out on anything. Most people weren’t into it by the time they graduated anyways, and the amount of shit talking I heard women do about their ‘sisters’ made me glad I didn’t join. Waste of money.

+1. I rushed on a whim (which was a little insane nearly 20 years ago when I did it, at a midwestern school which was not even close to 1/3 Greek, can’t even imagine doing it now), got my bid to a mid-level house, realized how much it was going to cost, and dropped out. There were times I wished I would have stuck with it, but now I realize what an absolutely ridiculous time sink it would have been. Between classes, working, and other college EC’s, it just wouldn’t have worked for me.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You missed hooking up with hawt frat guys!

Totally depends on the house and girls. Quite a few of my girlfriends had boyfriends from hometown or who they met freshman year that they were faithful to all through college.

Yeah right. I don’t know a single girl who didn’t hook up with multiple guys - sometimes at the same time - while in college.

Except for you, of course, right? And that's why you're bitter all these decades later. Oh wait, you didn't want them anyways, they were all whores!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You missed hooking up with hawt frat guys!

Totally depends on the house and girls. Quite a few of my girlfriends had boyfriends from hometown or who they met freshman year that they were faithful to all through college.

Yeah right. I don’t know a single girl who didn’t hook up with multiple guys - sometimes at the same time - while in college.

Geesh, where did you go to school?

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Anonymous wrote:You missed hooking up with hawt frat guys!

Also drinking to dangerous excess and humiliating hazing.

I was in a sorority and there was no hazing.

Anonymous wrote:I did not go to a college with sororities but I assume that probably people who have good social skills to begin with are the ones who gravitate to Greek life - and those (like us) who feel awkward at gatherings like the one you're describing would also have been too awkward for sororities to begin with.

It seems like a virtuous cycle - you're good at being in groups of people, so you spend more time in groups of people, so you get even better at being in group of people, etc. While if you feel uncomfortable in groups, you spend less time in groups, and dont get more comfortable, etc.

Good point. Honing skills is all about reps, i.e. practice.

Anonymous wrote:OP here, to clarify it's a social club with sub clubs like book club, bunco, and playdates ect. I am 33 and it's a mixture of ladies 20s to 50s i would say. We have moved all over so I have lost contact of most of my friends over time so I am giving it a shot.

Without giving away what club you're in, how did you find it? Is it specifically a mom's club?

I did not go to a college with sororities but I assume that probably people who have good social skills to begin with are the ones who gravitate to Greek life - and those (like us) who feel awkward at gatherings like the one you're describing would also have been too awkward for sororities to begin with.

It seems like a virtuous cycle - you're good at being in groups of people, so you spend more time in groups of people, so you get even better at being in group of people, etc. While if you feel uncomfortable in groups, you spend less time in groups, and dont get more comfortable, etc.

Anonymous wrote:The only thing I really regret about college was joining a sorority. What a huge waste of time and money. Ugh.

Me too. I should have focused on academics instead of that nonsense.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You missed hooking up with hawt frat guys!

Totally depends on the house and girls. Quite a few of my girlfriends had boyfriends from hometown or who they met freshman year that they were faithful to all through college.

Yeah right. I don’t know a single girl who didn’t hook up with multiple guys - sometimes at the same time - while in college.

Seriously? I went to a school where about a third of the students were in Greek life. I rushed but dropped out and ultimately don’t feel like I missed out on anything. Most people weren’t into it by the time they graduated anyways, and the amount of shit talking I heard women do about their ‘sisters’ made me glad I didn’t join. Waste of money.