Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work part time and my hours vary, but I’m home sick with the flu today. My car is in the driveway from taking the kids to school, so it looks like someone is home.

I was half asleep on the couch when I heard someone stomp onto my porch, and then loud talking. I figured it was a solicitor leaving a flyer so I stayed put, even though the talking continued longer than you would expect. There was never a knock or ring of the doorbell.

Suddenly, my phone rang from in the kitchen. I got up to look and saw it was my neighbor across the street. She’s older and sort of a busybody, so I thought she was calling to tell me someone was on my porch. I walked to a front room to peek out the window to see if I could see whoever it was walking away, and I saw my neighbor walking back up her driveway. I quickly texted her back and told her I was sorry, and asked if she needed anything. She said simply “never mind”.

I just got a text from her husband that basically said that it’s rude not to answer the door for a neighbor, what if there had been an emergency, that we have kids and they may need a neighbor one day.

I’m feeling awful, but also a little annoyed. Do you always answer your door, even if you are sick? Was the way I handled this wrong? Thoughts?

This was your mistake. You should have texted an hour or so LATER "Hi Gladys, I see I missed your call earlier. I am home with the flu, did you need something? DH will be home soon"

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I would reply to the husband - I'm home with the flu, I sent Gladys a text when I saw it was her and she said she did not need anything. Have a nice afternoon.

Anonymous wrote:Oh, man. I work part-time from home and I will skip answering the door unless it's someone I'm expecting. It's a safety thing.

I had a former neighbor who used to drop by during the work day with her toddler (when I was alone) and knock and knock and knock. After awhile, I stopped answering the door since she wouldn't take a hint that I was working. You don't have to answer the door!

If I text annoying neighbors back, I do it about four hours later. By then, they've found somebody else to handle their "problem." I don't feel badly about it. *They* are bothering *me*. Would they be receptive to me wandering up to their door and asking for a tomato at weird hours? Think about it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work part time and my hours vary, but I’m home sick with the flu today. My car is in the driveway from taking the kids to school, so it looks like someone is home.

I was half asleep on the couch when I heard someone stomp onto my porch, and then loud talking. I figured it was a solicitor leaving a flyer so I stayed put, even though the talking continued longer than you would expect. There was never a knock or ring of the doorbell.

Suddenly, my phone rang from in the kitchen. I got up to look and saw it was my neighbor across the street. She’s older and sort of a busybody, so I thought she was calling to tell me someone was on my porch. I walked to a front room to peek out the window to see if I could see whoever it was walking away, and I saw my neighbor walking back up her driveway. I quickly texted her back and told her I was sorry, and asked if she needed anything. She said simply “never mind”.

I just got a text from her husband that basically said that it’s rude not to answer the door for a neighbor, what if there had been an emergency, that we have kids and they may need a neighbor one day.

I’m feeling awful, but also a little annoyed. Do you always answer your door, even if you are sick? Was the way I handled this wrong? Thoughts?

This was your mistake. You should have texted an hour or so LATER "Hi Gladys, I see I missed your call earlier. I am home with the flu, did you need something? DH will be home soon"

+1

I would reply to the husband - I'm home with the flu, I sent Gladys a text when I saw it was her and she said she did not need anything. Have a nice afternoon.

Replys like this are pathetic. The only reply I would bother to send is one that told him he was being rude and completely inappropriate for sending you such a text and demand he apologize. That is setting a boundary. It tells him you are putting up with his nonsense BS and the chance that he tries it again will be very slim.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work part time and my hours vary, but I’m home sick with the flu today. My car is in the driveway from taking the kids to school, so it looks like someone is home.

I was half asleep on the couch when I heard someone stomp onto my porch, and then loud talking. I figured it was a solicitor leaving a flyer so I stayed put, even though the talking continued longer than you would expect. There was never a knock or ring of the doorbell.

Suddenly, my phone rang from in the kitchen. I got up to look and saw it was my neighbor across the street. She’s older and sort of a busybody, so I thought she was calling to tell me someone was on my porch. I walked to a front room to peek out the window to see if I could see whoever it was walking away, and I saw my neighbor walking back up her driveway. I quickly texted her back and told her I was sorry, and asked if she needed anything. She said simply “never mind”.

I just got a text from her husband that basically said that it’s rude not to answer the door for a neighbor, what if there had been an emergency, that we have kids and they may need a neighbor one day.

I’m feeling awful, but also a little annoyed. Do you always answer your door, even if you are sick? Was the way I handled this wrong? Thoughts?

This was your mistake. You should have texted an hour or so LATER "Hi Gladys, I see I missed your call earlier. I am home with the flu, did you need something? DH will be home soon"

+1

I would reply to the husband - I'm home with the flu, I sent Gladys a text when I saw it was her and she said she did not need anything. Have a nice afternoon.

Replys like this are pathetic. The only reply I would bother to send is one that told him he was being rude and completely inappropriate for sending you such a text and demand he apologize. That is setting a boundary. It tells him you are putting up with his nonsense BS and the chance that he tries it again will be very slim.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work part time and my hours vary, but I’m home sick with the flu today. My car is in the driveway from taking the kids to school, so it looks like someone is home.

I was half asleep on the couch when I heard someone stomp onto my porch, and then loud talking. I figured it was a solicitor leaving a flyer so I stayed put, even though the talking continued longer than you would expect. There was never a knock or ring of the doorbell.

Suddenly, my phone rang from in the kitchen. I got up to look and saw it was my neighbor across the street. She’s older and sort of a busybody, so I thought she was calling to tell me someone was on my porch. I walked to a front room to peek out the window to see if I could see whoever it was walking away, and I saw my neighbor walking back up her driveway. I quickly texted her back and told her I was sorry, and asked if she needed anything. She said simply “never mind”.

I just got a text from her husband that basically said that it’s rude not to answer the door for a neighbor, what if there had been an emergency, that we have kids and they may need a neighbor one day.

I’m feeling awful, but also a little annoyed. Do you always answer your door, even if you are sick? Was the way I handled this wrong? Thoughts?

This was your mistake. You should have texted an hour or so LATER "Hi Gladys, I see I missed your call earlier. I am home with the flu, did you need something? DH will be home soon"

+1

I would reply to the husband - I'm home with the flu, I sent Gladys a text when I saw it was her and she said she did not need anything. Have a nice afternoon.