Anonymous
03/02/2019 13:55
Subject: Re:Am I alone in thinking this is unhealthy/selfish?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Your children aren’t you. Post pics about your kids but stop insinuating yourself and how/who you were as a child into the conversation. If you want to talk about yourself - post a photo of yourself! But don’t steal your own child’s thunder by making it about you.
This is not complicated. Why people are arguing with OP is beyond me. Let your child have their own lives! And stop thinking you are a martyr for simply shutting up about yourself!!
There is a wide gulf between parents who don't let their kids be themselves and project their own interest and ambitions on them and a parent who posts a picture of their kid on their own social media and comments on similarities to themselves. I think it is reading a lot to into it to assume the former from the latter universally.
Is there really such a wide gulf? Why bring yourself into your child’s picture at all with any “like mother, like daughter” comment? Let your child have his/her moment!!! No one cares that you loved horses, too. If you want to post about yourself - do it. Post pictures of you riding horses (or whatever). Your child is not you.
The fact that you’re upset that someone isn’t letting their child have their own “moment” in a social media post is ridiculous. Because social media is basically ridiculous and I’d think most people with half a brain would recognize that it often has very little connection with reality. You need to seriously chill out about this.
Anonymous
03/02/2019 11:51
Subject: Re:Am I alone in thinking this is unhealthy/selfish?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Your children aren’t you. Post pics about your kids but stop insinuating yourself and how/who you were as a child into the conversation. If you want to talk about yourself - post a photo of yourself! But don’t steal your own child’s thunder by making it about you.
This is not complicated. Why people are arguing with OP is beyond me. Let your child have their own lives! And stop thinking you are a martyr for simply shutting up about yourself!!
There is a wide gulf between parents who don't let their kids be themselves and project their own interest and ambitions on them and a parent who posts a picture of their kid on their own social media and comments on similarities to themselves. I think it is reading a lot to into it to assume the former from the latter universally.
Is there really such a wide gulf? Why bring yourself into your child’s picture at all with any “like mother, like daughter” comment? Let your child have his/her moment!!! No one cares that you loved horses, too. If you want to post about yourself - do it. Post pictures of you riding horses (or whatever). Your child is not you.
Anonymous
03/02/2019 10:47
Subject: Re:Am I alone in thinking this is unhealthy/selfish?
Anonymous wrote:Your children aren’t you. Post pics about your kids but stop insinuating yourself and how/who you were as a child into the conversation. If you want to talk about yourself - post a photo of yourself! But don’t steal your own child’s thunder by making it about you.
This is not complicated. Why people are arguing with OP is beyond me. Let your child have their own lives! And stop thinking you are a martyr for simply shutting up about yourself!!
+1,000,000
Anonymous
03/02/2019 09:49
Subject: Re:Am I alone in thinking this is unhealthy/selfish?
Anonymous wrote:Your children aren’t you. Post pics about your kids but stop insinuating yourself and how/who you were as a child into the conversation. If you want to talk about yourself - post a photo of yourself! But don’t steal your own child’s thunder by making it about you.
This is not complicated. Why people are arguing with OP is beyond me. Let your child have their own lives! And stop thinking you are a martyr for simply shutting up about yourself!!
There is a wide gulf between parents who don't let their kids be themselves and project their own interest and ambitions on them and a parent who posts a picture of their kid on their own social media and comments on similarities to themselves. I think it is reading a lot to into it to assume the former from the latter universally.
Anonymous
03/02/2019 09:22
Subject: Re:Am I alone in thinking this is unhealthy/selfish?
Are you a #momofboys?
Anonymous
03/02/2019 09:07
Subject: Re:Am I alone in thinking this is unhealthy/selfish?
Your children aren’t you. Post pics about your kids but stop insinuating yourself and how/who you were as a child into the conversation. If you want to talk about yourself - post a photo of yourself! But don’t steal your own child’s thunder by making it about you.
This is not complicated. Why people are arguing with OP is beyond me. Let your child have their own lives! And stop thinking you are a martyr for simply shutting up about yourself!!
This is not complicated. Why people are arguing with OP is beyond me. Let your child have their own lives! And stop thinking you are a martyr for simply shutting up about yourself!!
Anonymous
03/02/2019 09:04
Subject: Am I alone in thinking this is unhealthy/selfish?
Anonymous wrote:Is this a new version of the mommy martyr? Now you’re not allowed to recognize similarities between yourself and your child? I find that bizarre.
Wow! You just turned yourself/mothers into a victim again! So stunningly self-centered!!!
So funny you can’t see it.
Anonymous
03/02/2019 07:41
Subject: Am I alone in thinking this is unhealthy/selfish?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:So, it seems many of you do this based on responses....
Somebody commented on my photo calling my daughter my mini me. I thanked her. Does that make me a narcissist? Should I have said, “No, she’s her own person and is nothing like me!”
Some people take social media too seriously.
One offs are fine. That’s not being narcissistic, as someone else stated it.. Habitually calling your kid mini me is questionable.
Anonymous
03/02/2019 07:28
Subject: Am I alone in thinking this is unhealthy/selfish?
Anonymous wrote:So, it seems many of you do this based on responses....
Somebody commented on my photo calling my daughter my mini me. I thanked her. Does that make me a narcissist? Should I have said, “No, she’s her own person and is nothing like me!”
Some people take social media too seriously.
Anonymous
03/02/2019 07:20
Subject: Am I alone in thinking this is unhealthy/selfish?
So, it seems many of you do this based on responses....
Anonymous
03/02/2019 07:16
Subject: Am I alone in thinking this is unhealthy/selfish?
Is this a new version of the mommy martyr? Now you’re not allowed to recognize similarities between yourself and your child? I find that bizarre.
Anonymous
03/02/2019 07:01
Subject: Am I alone in thinking this is unhealthy/selfish?
Anonymous wrote:I did this when my kid got some playmobil and spent hours poring over the booklet of other sets available, daydreaming about how she would play with them. Because I did exactly the same thing as a girl. Is that narcissistic?
That sounds like a sweet observation and healthy. I think it’s more like when it’s a constant thing. Seeing similarities is normal, not giving space for the child to have their own individual identity is the problem.
Anonymous
03/02/2019 06:55
Subject: Am I alone in thinking this is unhealthy/selfish?
I did this when my kid got some playmobil and spent hours poring over the booklet of other sets available, daydreaming about how she would play with them. Because I did exactly the same thing as a girl. Is that narcissistic?
Anonymous
03/02/2019 00:43
Subject: Re:Am I alone in thinking this is unhealthy/selfish?
I call my DD “mini-cousin’s name” because she is so like her cousin who is 6 years older. What does that make me? FWIW Dd and her big cousin love it.
Anonymous
03/02/2019 00:08
Subject: Am I alone in thinking this is unhealthy/selfish?
Anonymous wrote:Wow, you read a lot into a stupid, cutesy Facebook post.
My friend played soccer through high school and her preschooler just started soccer. She posted something like that once. In no way did it make me think that her daughter is not allowed to live her own life or only exists as a reflection of my friend. ha! That's a lot of inserted drama, OP.
Then why did your friend even mention herself in a post about her kid’s soccer? Her soccer days are long behind her - why mention herself at all?
NP here and I see no drama in this thread - just people commenting that something self-centered and self-serving is self-centered and self-serving.