Anonymous wrote:I realize she had to report probably. My issues are: why did they come to someone with the same name initially?
And- I don’t want him to go there anymore. He can see a therapist with me from now on.

Classic way for an abuser to be able to control the narrative. OP, what was your childhood household like? Yelling/hitting/slapping/anger? This sounds like a situation where you’re repeating a pattern and unless you get a handle on it soon your son will also repeat it because he’ll think it’s normal.

Here is my suggestion.

You need individual counseling. Your son needs individual counseling. Your family needs family counseling. There is something going on here that is much bigger then this one incident.

We have very limited information, but here is what we do know.

1) There have been enough issues with the child that he is working with the school counselor regularly.
2) Both Mom and son have tempers, evidence by the slap and the throwing stuff across the room
3) The child seems to be reluctant to do what he is suppose to do (that morning he had not been willing to get ready for school in a timely fashion)

While there is only one data point based on the posting in this topic, the implication is that these issues have been going on for a while.

I suspect that the "light slap" was more then a light slap and may very well have left a mark. The poster said it was across the head, so a mark would be harder to see because of hair.

I suspect that there has been enough contentious behavior in the house that the Counselor was worried about things escalating after the child discussed the slap in their session.

On the plus side, the Mom realizes that there is an issue and is trying to get her son help. On the negative, the Mom has not indicated that she is getting counseling or that there is any type of family counseling. While it sounds like the child has some areas that they have to address, so does the Mom. Until she accepts that and gets some help herself, there is not likely to be much progress made on the Sons part.

I am a mandated reporter and I don’t think you can blame the counselor. Maybe CPS should have sent a social worker, not police, but the counselor was just doing her job. She actually would be breaking the law if she didn’t report, and she has to tell them exactly what your son said happened.

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Anonymous wrote:Also stop acting like a moron, constantly asking why they told the other person. You know why. They thought she was you. They made a mistake. It’s humiliating but there’s no mystery here.

The counselor has my email and phone number. If she bothers to report she should at least provide them.
It is a breach of privacy.

It is not a breach of privacy. The counselor is a mandatory reporter. She has to take what your kid said and report it. Logjt slap bs full on hit is notndifferentiated abused kids often downplay any abuse. She has to treat it as abuse. Good for your counselor.
Stop hitting your kid. You have anger issues (evidences bu your kid and blaming everyone else for this incident than yourself) and your kid has anger issues. I really suggest going to therapy yourself and get some better methods to cope with your child's behavior.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe quit slapping your son!!! What the eff is wrong with you? You deserve this wake up call. Poor kid.

+1 I also think you both need anger management classes.

Anonymous wrote:Anyway, the question is: what do I do about the counselor? If anything.
And how do I find out who else knows about this. I know at least two people know that I had a police visit, one of them knows it was cps-related. Who else?

You dont do anything about the counselor. She did her job. She felt she had to report it. She didn't show up at the wrong door - the police did. If your son is still comfortable with her, you just move forward.

How many times do you hear a story in the news and ask "why didn't anyone report this sooner?" She was concerned. She made a phone call. You're fine, unless you keep it up and he starts showing up with welts.

Anyway, the question is: what do I do about the counselor? If anything.
And how do I find out who else knows about this. I know at least two people know that I had a police visit, one of them knows it was cps-related. Who else?

Anonymous wrote:What time does school start? How could he be aggravating you all morning when it is a school day?

He had an hour and a half to do that, don’t worry.
Not wanting to get up, get dressed, then reading instead of getting ready. He just had a bad morning.

What time does school start? How could he be aggravating you all morning when it is a school day?

Anonymous wrote:Also stop acting like a moron, constantly asking why they told the other person. You know why. They thought she was you. They made a mistake. It’s humiliating but there’s no mystery here.

They needed to check ID and ask her if she had a child with a certain name. No need to blabber about CPS- again she had a police visit.

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Anonymous wrote:This has to be made up. The police don't go out for light slapping/no marks. CPS might investigate but not the police.

Yes, and all of this supposedly happened on the same day—he had a session, the incident was reported, the police went to the wrong house, the call from the wrong house came, then the police (not CPS) showed up. I don’t buy it.

I don’t know how to prove it is true but why would I lie?

In less it is serious, CPS does't show up that fast.

Well they did.
And never mentioned anything other than a slap (and there wasn’t anything). Why would I lie?

Anonymous wrote:Also stop acting like a moron, constantly asking why they told the other person. You know why. They thought she was you. They made a mistake. It’s humiliating but there’s no mystery here.

The counselor has my email and phone number. If she bothers to report she should at least provide them.
It is a breach of privacy.

Also stop acting like a moron, constantly asking why they told the other person. You know why. They thought she was you. They made a mistake. It’s humiliating but there’s no mystery here.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This has to be made up. The police don't go out for light slapping/no marks. CPS might investigate but not the police.

Yes, and all of this supposedly happened on the same day—he had a session, the incident was reported, the police went to the wrong house, the call from the wrong house came, then the police (not CPS) showed up. I don’t buy it.

I don’t know how to prove it is true but why would I lie?

In less it is serious, CPS does't show up that fast.

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Anonymous wrote:Well that proves he is not some scared abused kid.
But yeah I shouldn’t hit or yell.
Screentime it is from now on.

Scteentime makes anger issues worse

Just bc he has anger issues doesn’t mean he isn’t a victim of abuse. Many Abuse victims have anger issues

Great, one more reason to take it away