Anonymous
Post 05/22/2019 12:18     Subject: Parental over-reaction?
This sounds terrible. I would perhaps get a fence and not let Larla (or her parents) in it. Also, have your daughter develop other friendships.

Anonymous
Post 05/22/2019 12:02     Subject: Parental over-reaction?
Completely different circumstance but I’m dealing with teens that have crazy parents like this now.
(I also have young kids)

Actually, they like me. But they did this forbidden/banishment thing to a handful of other parents in the group. I did nothing magical to make these parents like me. They simply took a minor, minor issue that most would blow off, and jumped on it.

As one of the remaining people that this family does like, I’m hesitating.... it’s all really unfortunate.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2019 12:02     Subject: Re:Parental over-reaction?
If they are as crazy as you say steer clear and everyone else will too. Find other people to hang out with.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2019 11:58     Subject: Re:Parental over-reaction?
Crazy parent. I wouldn’t want my kid playing with theirs, OP. They are the type to file a lawsuit over a skinned knee.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2019 11:55     Subject: Parental over-reaction?
This truly sucks OP. Looks like the mean girl thing starts early.

Can you have play dates with other kids? That may be a better option for you if there are no other kids in your neighborhood who are your kid's age. If there are other kids, encourage your DD to play more with them.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2019 00:12     Subject: Re:Parental over-reaction?
Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP, but your story is not credible.

You are missing something. If your neighbors were this crazy, you would have known a long time ago.




Fair enough but the kids have only been playing together a lot since right around the holidays. These neighbors are never outside watching the kids so there truly hasn’t been much interaction. There have been issues on both sides before with my child not being nice...which we addressed and their kid and another girl ganging up on my child and all of it seems to have come to a head with the other parents claiming Larla would never be mean and is a perfect angel and taking digs at us and implying my kid would purposefully try to maim their child. So sadly no....this is the first I’ve seen of this level of crazy and am bummed about it and moving isn’t an option for us.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2019 00:11     Subject: Parental over-reaction?

Wait.

What names were your child called? Who said those things?

If it's Larla, and her parents believe her, this is not an uncommon scenario. You'll just have to reiterate that this is not what you heard from your child, and that you don't believe your child's intent was to harm. Distance yourself and time will heal all wounds, although with this family, it will likely take years.

Please remember that you too only have your child's word for what happened! It's bad when two families start hating each other because they rely on the words of their elementary school kids, who can each embroider and exaggerate.

If it's the parents who have called your daughter names, then that's unacceptable and you should talk to them face to face about not insulting a child, especially for something so minor as a scare, not an actual injury. And that would be a deal-breaker. I wouldn't be speaking to them for a long time.

Anonymous
Post 05/21/2019 23:59     Subject: Re:Parental over-reaction?
Sorry OP, but your story is not credible.

You are missing something. If your neighbors were this crazy, you would have known a long time ago.


Anonymous
Post 05/21/2019 23:07     Subject: Parental over-reaction?
Anonymous wrote:It sounds like the parents hashed it out after the original incident and the other parents called OP’s kid a liar. Then the neighbor kid started hassling/bullying OP’s kid. When they tried to talk to the parents, they called OP’s kid a liar and said their kid wouldn’t do that and is the victim. Now the neighbor kid knows she has a free pass to bully OP’s kid because her parents can’t stand OP’s entire family.

Is that right OP?


OP here - wow that is concise and is exactly what I feel like is happening. I guess we are stuck surrounded by crappy people....am I short-sighted in that I don’t see this getting better.

Anonymous
Post 05/21/2019 23:02     Subject: Parental over-reaction?
It sounds like the parents hashed it out after the original incident and the other parents called OP’s kid a liar. Then the neighbor kid started hassling/bullying OP’s kid. When they tried to talk to the parents, they called OP’s kid a liar and said their kid wouldn’t do that and is the victim. Now the neighbor kid knows she has a free pass to bully OP’s kid because her parents can’t stand OP’s entire family.

Is that right OP?
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2019 22:49     Subject: Re:Parental over-reaction?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op resurrecting this for anyone interested. My kid apologized but has been being called names and treated poorly ever since then. Things were said to my kid about how they should have never been born and everything came to a head. Neighbor has called my kid a straight up liar, denied umbrella tag was ever being played and said my kid was just being mean and trying to intentionally hurt their child. my kid is clumsy and impulsive and definitely far from perfect but evil to the point of physical harm? Um no. Sadly my child has now been pegged as the bad one and they deny that Larla would ever say something like that or they would have heard complaints from other parents. I’m not so sure....maybe Larla now knows how her parents feel so has a free pass to be mean to my child.

This is such a mess - now I feel like neighbor relations are awful and my kid will be harassed and judged constantly. Anyone ver go through this? Words of advice are more than welcome.


Op I’m honestly wondering if there is another piece to this story bc this just seems strange. If neighbor family is truly harassing your kid (for no reason) then you march over there and tell them that until they can control their crazy a little better they need to stay away from your kid.

If your kid has anger or behavior issues, try to address them.



Definitely not saying my kid is perfect and whenever they have done something out of line we do address it. The umbrella incident we talked about at length - about thinking things through before we do them and could it result in getting hurt, I’ve addressed walking away when upset etc. what really bothers me is they somehow think my kid is a sociopath and that their Larla has done nothing wrong when my child has come ho e in tears countless times from mean words. I guess this boils down to clear parenting differences...I think all kids can say mean things sometimes with a rare exception and as parents we need to address that and use it as a teachable moment. Instead this parents called my kid a sociopath and a liar and attacked us as well. And they live on our street so we can’t avoid them....do we really just have to suck it up and live with this hostility!


No - if an adult is bullying your kid you most definitely need to confront said adult and tell them to back off. It is never ok for an adult to verbally attack a child. All you need to tell your child is that Larlas family is not right in the head and she needs to keep her distance from them. I would recommend having her invite other friends over more. Have them play outside a lot.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2019 22:38     Subject: Re:Parental over-reaction?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op resurrecting this for anyone interested. My kid apologized but has been being called names and treated poorly ever since then. Things were said to my kid about how they should have never been born and everything came to a head. Neighbor has called my kid a straight up liar, denied umbrella tag was ever being played and said my kid was just being mean and trying to intentionally hurt their child. my kid is clumsy and impulsive and definitely far from perfect but evil to the point of physical harm? Um no. Sadly my child has now been pegged as the bad one and they deny that Larla would ever say something like that or they would have heard complaints from other parents. I’m not so sure....maybe Larla now knows how her parents feel so has a free pass to be mean to my child.

This is such a mess - now I feel like neighbor relations are awful and my kid will be harassed and judged constantly. Anyone ver go through this? Words of advice are more than welcome.


Op I’m honestly wondering if there is another piece to this story bc this just seems strange. If neighbor family is truly harassing your kid (for no reason) then you march over there and tell them that until they can control their crazy a little better they need to stay away from your kid.

If your kid has anger or behavior issues, try to address them.



Definitely not saying my kid is perfect and whenever they have done something out of line we do address it. The umbrella incident we talked about at length - about thinking things through before we do them and could it result in getting hurt, I’ve addressed walking away when upset etc. what really bothers me is they somehow think my kid is a sociopath and that their Larla has done nothing wrong when my child has come ho e in tears countless times from mean words. I guess this boils down to clear parenting differences...I think all kids can say mean things sometimes with a rare exception and as parents we need to address that and use it as a teachable moment. Instead this parents called my kid a sociopath and a liar and attacked us as well. And they live on our street so we can’t avoid them....do we really just have to suck it up and live with this hostility!
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2019 22:32     Subject: Re:Parental over-reaction?
Anonymous wrote:Op resurrecting this for anyone interested. My kid apologized but has been being called names and treated poorly ever since then. Things were said to my kid about how they should have never been born and everything came to a head. Neighbor has called my kid a straight up liar, denied umbrella tag was ever being played and said my kid was just being mean and trying to intentionally hurt their child. my kid is clumsy and impulsive and definitely far from perfect but evil to the point of physical harm? Um no. Sadly my child has now been pegged as the bad one and they deny that Larla would ever say something like that or they would have heard complaints from other parents. I’m not so sure....maybe Larla now knows how her parents feel so has a free pass to be mean to my child.

This is such a mess - now I feel like neighbor relations are awful and my kid will be harassed and judged constantly. Anyone ver go through this? Words of advice are more than welcome.


Op I’m honestly wondering if there is another piece to this story bc this just seems strange. If neighbor family is truly harassing your kid (for no reason) then you march over there and tell them that until they can control their crazy a little better they need to stay away from your kid.

If your kid has anger or behavior issues, try to address them.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2019 22:23     Subject: Re:Parental over-reaction?
Anonymous wrote:Op resurrecting this for anyone interested. My kid apologized but has been being called names and treated poorly ever since then. Things were said to my kid about how they should have never been born and everything came to a head. Neighbor has called my kid a straight up liar, denied umbrella tag was ever being played and said my kid was just being mean and trying to intentionally hurt their child. my kid is clumsy and impulsive and definitely far from perfect but evil to the point of physical harm? Um no. Sadly my child has now been pegged as the bad one and they deny that Larla would ever say something like that or they would have heard complaints from other parents. I’m not so sure....maybe Larla now knows how her parents feel so has a free pass to be mean to my child.

This is such a mess - now I feel like neighbor relations are awful and my kid will be harassed and judged constantly. Anyone ver go through this? Words of advice are more than welcome.


Thats awful! Who is saying these things? Is your kid still playing with Larla? Are they just neighbors or school mates as well?
Make lemonade out of this and use this as a teaching moment to talk to your kid about how to deal with people that are no longer friends and how to not take it personally.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2019 22:22     Subject: Parental over-reaction?
Op, I’m so sorry you are dealing with this. Your neighbors are just horrible.