Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:2nd grade is a typical time when the preschool cohorts start breaking up. They're not new to ES anymore, have met other kids the past two years, and are forming their own friendships outside of the parents.

This.
And sometimes we as parents just get more upset about these issues because we feel our own social situation is threatened. You might have to confront a mom you thought was your friend or you might have to stop hanging out with them.

This is why, in my opinion, it's best to keep your close and enduring adult friendships separate from your children's friendships. Which isn't to say you can't be friends with your kids' friends parents. But do not put all your eggs in that basket. Shit can get messy.

Anonymous wrote:I am friends with moms from when my kids were in preschool. While they are not in the same school, some are closer than others. One kid in particular is not as well liked. I don’t think my kid and other friends are trying to exclude him but just aren’t as close. The kids who played soccer together are closer.

The mom confronted other mom friend about her son's feelings being hurt and it was really awkward. The kids don’t attend the same school though.

I don’t think kids continue hanging out with preschool friends after 1st grade. I would find out if they are truly being mean to your child.

We are brand new to school and my 2nd grader tells me about the boy who doesn’t let X play tag or dinosaurs. And then There is a kid in cub scouts who seems quite nice but other kids in his class told him not to play with him because he is weird. Pretty sure all these kids have known each other since preschool.

Wow. That is bad. I'd bring that up with the teacher. Not accpetable and wouldn't fly in my child's WOTP elementary school.

I am friends with moms from when my kids were in preschool. While they are not in the same school, some are closer than others. One kid in particular is not as well liked. I don’t think my kid and other friends are trying to exclude him but just aren’t as close. The kids who played soccer together are closer.

The mom confronted other mom friend about her son's feelings being hurt and it was really awkward. The kids don’t attend the same school though.

I don’t think kids continue hanging out with preschool friends after 1st grade. I would find out if they are truly being mean to your child.

We are brand new to school and my 2nd grader tells me about the boy who doesn’t let X play tag or dinosaurs. And then There is a kid in cub scouts who seems quite nice but other kids in his class told him not to play with him because he is weird. Pretty sure all these kids have known each other since preschool.

Anonymous wrote:2nd grade is a typical time when the preschool cohorts start breaking up. They're not new to ES anymore, have met other kids the past two years, and are forming their own friendships outside of the parents.

This.
And sometimes we as parents just get more upset about these issues because we feel our own social situation is threatened. You might have to confront a mom you thought was your friend or you might have to stop hanging out with them.

These conversations have happened among our groups of friends over the years. I have found them helpful. Sometimes it was a gut check about when was going on and all was well, sometimes if was a mutual acknowledgement that the kids were growing apart.