Anonymous
02/11/2019 20:18
Subject: Did you redshirt your August girl? Why or why not?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Send your child to school. What is the drama? Why does it matter what someone else did?
+1
The prevalence of redshirting around here is baffling. The cutoff is what it is. Unless there is an educator telling you it might be best to wait, send your kid to school on schedule.
Educators told us to wait due to immaturity issues. It was 100% the right call.
That’s a made up reasons to keep you in their preschool longer. Can’t wait til it’s outlawed.
I think in CA they passed some rule that only allows for redshirting if you have a doctor's note to indicate some development delay. If you hold back your kid from starting K on time, when the child is registered for school, the school will determine if that child should just go straight to 1st grade. I think this is a good idea.
https://www.mercurynews.com/2013/02/08/mountain-view-school-may-overrule-parents-wishes-on-when-kids-start-first-grade/
Not all developmental delays should be a reason to hold back. Mine did. If anything the more advanced academics helped. The problem with skipping K is some kids are not ready for 1st if they were not homeschooled or at an academic preschool so they'd be really disruptive in class trying to catch them up.
Anonymous
02/11/2019 20:15
Subject: Re:Did you redshirt your August girl? Why or why not?
I live in an area w a mid-August cutoff and a late August child who turned 6 two weeks after starting K on time. That last year of preschool was so, so long I wish I had petitioned an early start.
Anonymous
02/11/2019 20:13
Subject: Did you redshirt your August girl? Why or why not?
I wish they would ban redshirting without documented special needs. It annoys me to no end. I was an August birthday and went to school on time. The only time I had obvious disadvantages or maturity/academic gaps were with kids who were redshirted and should never have been in my grade to begin with. If I turned 18 and still had a whole year of high school left I would have been embarrassed—it felt much more natural to be headed off to college at 18.
Anonymous
02/11/2019 20:13
Subject: Did you redshirt your August girl? Why or why not?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Send your child to school. What is the drama? Why does it matter what someone else did?
+1
Redshirting is for cowardly parents without faith in their kids
Wow! So mean! You sound jealous and bitter
Or she’s just rightfully annoyed that she followed the rules and now her kid has kids more than a year older in the class and playing against them in sport.
She had the choice (maybe still has)... if she is unhappy how things turned out for her kid, she should have made a different decision.
If the rules allow it, why should my kid be the youngest? Let it be her kid
My child is the youngest. Its not about being the youngest but going on time. I feel bad for your kid that you either think they are too dumb or immature to attend school or your poor parenting and choices in preschool didn't prepare them. Your child isn't smarter because they are a year older. So, you keep bragging how smart your kid is when they are average or actually behind because you held them back a year academically.
Actually I am not the one insulting you or your kid... that does not speak highly of you. No, I did not redshirt for an academic advantage at all. My DD is smart (not a genious as proven by the WPPSI), but she is sensitive and insecure and definitely not a go getter. We are sending her to perhaps the best preschool in DC (as judged by DCUM)... I really don’tbunderstand why you are so angry and bitter... maybe you regret your choices... yes, it must be it
DP. To the PP, you need to read your post again. You said that your daughter is not a "go getter" and that's the reason you held her back. Do you understand that the phrase "go getter" implies an exception? Meaning that not everyone is a go getter, just a few, and that's what makes them special and deserving of a special label like "go getter".
We don't do redshirting and our kids aren't "go getters" either. And one of them is quite sensitive indeed. And that's okay.
Serious question: If the SATs started normalizing based on months of birth, would you regret your decision to redshirt? Or would you feel that her social insecurity was such an issue that it was worth the drop in score?
Anonymous
02/11/2019 20:07
Subject: Did you redshirt your August girl? Why or why not?
If private school then yes I would redshirt. The “unofficial cutoff” for most private schools seems to be sometime in July. If public I think you could go either way. Don’t look at the academic factors unless your child is VERY ahead for grade or VERY behind. Kids come into K at all levels and teachers can work with that. Look at the child’s physical, emotional, and mental maturity to handle the challenges of full-day K (like 1st grade when we were kids) and 1st grade (more like 2nd grade when we were kids).
Anonymous
02/11/2019 20:07
Subject: Did you redshirt your August girl? Why or why not?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Send your child to school. What is the drama? Why does it matter what someone else did?
+1
The prevalence of redshirting around here is baffling. The cutoff is what it is. Unless there is an educator telling you it might be best to wait, send your kid to school on schedule.
Educators told us to wait due to immaturity issues. It was 100% the right call.
That’s a made up reasons to keep you in their preschool longer. Can’t wait til it’s outlawed.
I think in CA they passed some rule that only allows for redshirting if you have a doctor's note to indicate some development delay. If you hold back your kid from starting K on time, when the child is registered for school, the school will determine if that child should just go straight to 1st grade. I think this is a good idea.
https://www.mercurynews.com/2013/02/08/mountain-view-school-may-overrule-parents-wishes-on-when-kids-start-first-grade/
+1
This is a great idea. It should be national policy.
Anonymous
02/11/2019 19:37
Subject: Did you redshirt your August girl? Why or why not?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Send your child to school. What is the drama? Why does it matter what someone else did?
+1
Redshirting is for cowardly parents without faith in their kids
Wow! So mean! You sound jealous and bitter
Or she’s just rightfully annoyed that she followed the rules and now her kid has kids more than a year older in the class and playing against them in sport.
She had the choice (maybe still has)... if she is unhappy how things turned out for her kid, she should have made a different decision.
If the rules allow it, why should my kid be the youngest? Let it be her kid
My child is the youngest. Its not about being the youngest but going on time. I feel bad for your kid that you either think they are too dumb or immature to attend school or your poor parenting and choices in preschool didn't prepare them. Your child isn't smarter because they are a year older. So, you keep bragging how smart your kid is when they are average or actually behind because you held them back a year academically.
Actually I am not the one insulting you or your kid... that does not speak highly of you. No, I did not redshirt for an academic advantage at all. My DD is smart (not a genious as proven by the WPPSI), but she is sensitive and insecure and definitely not a go getter. We are sending her to perhaps the best preschool in DC (as judged by DCUM)... I really don’tbunderstand why you are so angry and bitter... maybe you regret your choices... yes, it must be it
Anonymous
02/11/2019 19:18
Subject: Did you redshirt your August girl? Why or why not?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Send your child to school. What is the drama? Why does it matter what someone else did?
+1
The prevalence of redshirting around here is baffling. The cutoff is what it is. Unless there is an educator telling you it might be best to wait, send your kid to school on schedule.
Educators told us to wait due to immaturity issues. It was 100% the right call.
That’s a made up reasons to keep you in their preschool longer. Can’t wait til it’s outlawed.
I think in CA they passed some rule that only allows for redshirting if you have a doctor's note to indicate some development delay. If you hold back your kid from starting K on time, when the child is registered for school, the school will determine if that child should just go straight to 1st grade. I think this is a good idea.
https://www.mercurynews.com/2013/02/08/mountain-view-school-may-overrule-parents-wishes-on-when-kids-start-first-grade/
When we were deciding whether to redshirt my daughter, we only knew that her social skills were weak and that she needed another year before kindergarten. It was during this second year of PK (what the school system thought should be her kindergarten year) that she was diagnosed with autism. For young kids, developmental disabilities haven't always been diagnosed even as parents know that their kids are or will struggle.
Anonymous
02/11/2019 19:14
Subject: Did you redshirt your August girl? Why or why not?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Send your child to school. What is the drama? Why does it matter what someone else did?
+1
The prevalence of redshirting around here is baffling. The cutoff is what it is. Unless there is an educator telling you it might be best to wait, send your kid to school on schedule.
Educators told us to wait due to immaturity issues. It was 100% the right call.
That’s a made up reasons to keep you in their preschool longer. Can’t wait til it’s outlawed.
I think in CA they passed some rule that only allows for redshirting if you have a doctor's note to indicate some development delay. If you hold back your kid from starting K on time, when the child is registered for school, the school will determine if that child should just go straight to 1st grade. I think this is a good idea.
https://www.mercurynews.com/2013/02/08/mountain-view-school-may-overrule-parents-wishes-on-when-kids-start-first-grade/
Anonymous
02/11/2019 19:09
Subject: Did you redshirt your August girl? Why or why not?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Send your child to school. What is the drama? Why does it matter what someone else did?
+1
The prevalence of redshirting around here is baffling. The cutoff is what it is. Unless there is an educator telling you it might be best to wait, send your kid to school on schedule.
Educators told us to wait due to immaturity issues. It was 100% the right call.
That’s a made up reasons to keep you in their preschool longer. Can’t wait til it’s outlawed.
They don’t need to ban it, they just need to do ALL testing by age (by birth month). That’s gifted testing, SATs, etc. And all school sports should also be done by age and not grade.
So basically let them sit in whatever classroom they want, and talk to those kids at lunch, but remove the more obvious unfair advantages.
I’m sure most redshirting parents will decide pretty fast that their kid doesn’t need to be redshirted after all.
I decided to redshirt exactly for those lunch, play and class time... not because my kid would have an “advantage” with the school work
If your kid needs lunch and play more than school at age 5, someone failed that child somewhere as at 5 they should be able to go to school and learn.
They should do all standardized testing by age.
Anonymous
02/11/2019 19:08
Subject: Did you redshirt your August girl? Why or why not?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Send your child to school. What is the drama? Why does it matter what someone else did?
+1
Redshirting is for cowardly parents without faith in their kids
Wow! So mean! You sound jealous and bitter
Or she’s just rightfully annoyed that she followed the rules and now her kid has kids more than a year older in the class and playing against them in sport.
She had the choice (maybe still has)... if she is unhappy how things turned out for her kid, she should have made a different decision.
If the rules allow it, why should my kid be the youngest? Let it be her kid
My child is the youngest. Its not about being the youngest but going on time. I feel bad for your kid that you either think they are too dumb or immature to attend school or your poor parenting and choices in preschool didn't prepare them. Your child isn't smarter because they are a year older. So, you keep bragging how smart your kid is when they are average or actually behind because you held them back a year academically.
Anonymous
02/11/2019 19:07
Subject: Did you redshirt your August girl? Why or why not?
Anonymous wrote:We did not. She's now in high school.
It was a bit rough in early grade school because some kids in her class were a full year (or more) older. But now you can't tell the difference. Always being the youngest taught her to work harder academically. Nothing was ever handed to her; she had to reach. It is paying off now right when it needs to.
You know your kid best. If she's strong-willed, go for it.
This.. we sent our Aug DD on time. She is doing fairly well academically at 10. Her personality is such that she is kind of lazy. If we had held her back, I think she would have coasted without having to try. Not a good thing for a lazy kid.
Anonymous
02/11/2019 19:06
Subject: Did you redshirt your August girl? Why or why not?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Send your child to school. What is the drama? Why does it matter what someone else did?
+1
The prevalence of redshirting around here is baffling. The cutoff is what it is. Unless there is an educator telling you it might be best to wait, send your kid to school on schedule.
Educators told us to wait due to immaturity issues. It was 100% the right call.
That’s a made up reasons to keep you in their preschool longer. Can’t wait til it’s outlawed.
They don’t need to ban it, they just need to do ALL testing by age (by birth month). That’s gifted testing, SATs, etc. And all school sports should also be done by age and not grade.
So basically let them sit in whatever classroom they want, and talk to those kids at lunch, but remove the more obvious unfair advantages.
I’m sure most redshirting parents will decide pretty fast that their kid doesn’t need to be redshirted after all.
I decided to redshirt exactly for those lunch, play and class time... not because my kid would have an “advantage” with the school work
Anonymous
02/11/2019 19:03
Subject: Did you redshirt your August girl? Why or why not?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Send your child to school. What is the drama? Why does it matter what someone else did?
+1
The prevalence of redshirting around here is baffling. The cutoff is what it is. Unless there is an educator telling you it might be best to wait, send your kid to school on schedule.
Educators told us to wait due to immaturity issues. It was 100% the right call.
That’s a made up reasons to keep you in their preschool longer. Can’t wait til it’s outlawed.
They don’t need to ban it, they just need to do ALL testing by age (by birth month). That’s gifted testing, SATs, etc. And all school sports should also be done by age and not grade.
So basically let them sit in whatever classroom they want, and talk to those kids at lunch, but remove the more obvious unfair advantages.
I’m sure most redshirting parents will decide pretty fast that their kid doesn’t need to be redshirted after all.
Anonymous
02/11/2019 19:03
Subject: Did you redshirt your August girl? Why or why not?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Send your child to school. What is the drama? Why does it matter what someone else did?
+1
Redshirting is for cowardly parents without faith in their kids
Wow! So mean! You sound jealous and bitter
Or she’s just rightfully annoyed that she followed the rules and now her kid has kids more than a year older in the class and playing against them in sport.
She had the choice (maybe still has)... if she is unhappy how things turned out for her kid, she should have made a different decision.
If the rules allow it, why should my kid be the youngest? Let it be her kid