Anonymous wrote:Men are like small children and are not good at maintaining any relationships, IMO.

Men do not have relationship with people they do not like. Unlike most women.

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Anonymous wrote:DH is an Italian mamas boy and not a great husband.

mama's boys are the worst husbands

They don't need a wife when their mother still cooks for them and does their laundry.

Men are like small children and are not good at maintaining any relationships, IMO.

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Anonymous wrote:These days we're all stretched thin. For most men, the parental communication drops on the priority list pretty quickly.

I don't think that makes men terrible sons or bad husbands.

Hoping they enjoy their own rapid decline in priority as soon as they finish paying the college bills. Your kids are learning from you!

You sound very insecure.

Nope. No correlation.

If anything, I blame his parents for his lack of involvement with them. And frankly, they are no better. When I say to him, you should call your parents, his response is they could pick up the phone and call me too.

Not true here. I hit the jackpot with my husband as far as involvement goes. He has no problem spending time with his child, cooking and cleaning. He only speaks with his mom maybe once a month and rarely with his father. I only ever met his father after we had been married over 5 years. I blame that more on a tarnished relationship after his father left his mother when my husband was around 10 and started a family with the other woman.

Clearly, there are dysfunctional and abusive situations. My husband grew up in one of these and has every right to avoid his mom.

My parents were loving and ‘normal’, but I still prefer communicating with my dad vs my mom, because I perceive her as being judgemental. But I also concede that as a SAHM while he worked away from the house, she was always the one on hand to correct me, so of course, a disproportionate amount of discipline came from her.

I’ve got the same role vis-a-vis my son. He frequently says that I’m ‘always yelling’. In fact, I make a very conscious effort not to raise my voice. Still, he equates a sternly-spoken-because-it’s-the-third time requested ‘please put the video game away and start your homework’ with yelling. So, in his mind, I have become a nag. Does this mean he will avoid me in the future

How do you teach and correct a kid without becoming a nag? I want him to be a good, successful person with his own family AND to stay in touch with me & DH.

My DH’s mother was a drunk while he was growing up. Passed out every night on the couch. As an adult, they are not close.

My father was abusive, emotionally & sexually. We are not close. In fact, I pretty much ignore him in his old age.

We have a nice family and a good relationship in spite of our parents.

Anonymous wrote:DH is an Italian mamas boy and not a great husband.

mama's boys are the worst husbands

Anonymous wrote:These days we're all stretched thin. For most men, the parental communication drops on the priority list pretty quickly.

I don't think that makes men terrible sons or bad husbands.

Hoping they enjoy their own rapid decline in priority as soon as they finish paying the college bills. Your kids are learning from you!