Anonymous
Post 02/01/2019 15:21     Subject: Re:Dating divorced dads....their enthusiasm level in bed (nonexplicit)
I was the caricature of a divorcee! 48 years old, sexless marriage and suddenly I was an empty nester and divorced. I'm sure the guys I dated in the first few months were very pleased with my "enthusiasm" as I was ready and willing to do just about anything.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2019 15:21     Subject: Dating divorced dads....their enthusiasm level in bed (nonexplicit)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Well duh, they have had sex in months or years.
And why is that? When a spouse loses respect, trust, or connection with you, you stop having sex. You have to repair the respect, trust and connection to resume having sex.

That process is too difficult for some so they’d rather call it whites and bang new women after their divorce.


It is always better to spend time and effort getting new women than it is to attempt to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was.


I dunno, undivided assets? Full time with your children vs. part time? Maybe you don't value it. People are different.


Our assets, except for the house, were separate before the divorce. Financially I'll be better off without her. And I'll have 50/50 custody.

The bottom line is, no matter what I valued, she got a vote, too. She voted to make no effort to repair the marriage. Didn't matter what I did, nothing got any traction with her.


In most cases I’ve seen you end up spending more quality time with your kids when you’re divorced. You purge the junk time ignoring them and make it count.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2019 15:16     Subject: Dating divorced dads....their enthusiasm level in bed (nonexplicit)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Well duh, they have had sex in months or years.
And why is that? When a spouse loses respect, trust, or connection with you, you stop having sex. You have to repair the respect, trust and connection to resume having sex.

That process is too difficult for some so they’d rather call it whites and bang new women after their divorce.


It is always better to spend time and effort getting new women than it is to attempt to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was.


I dunno, undivided assets? Full time with your children vs. part time? Maybe you don't value it. People are different.


Our assets, except for the house, were separate before the divorce. Financially I'll be better off without her. And I'll have 50/50 custody.

The bottom line is, no matter what I valued, she got a vote, too. She voted to make no effort to repair the marriage. Didn't matter what I did, nothing got any traction with her.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2019 15:10     Subject: Re:Dating divorced dads....their enthusiasm level in bed (nonexplicit)
Anonymous wrote:Because like you the divorced guys are as horny as hell. The magic will fade.


And if you want it to fade even faster... get married or move in together!
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2019 14:55     Subject: Dating divorced dads....their enthusiasm level in bed (nonexplicit)
Anonymous wrote:How many divorced dads did you bang to reach this conclusion? Maybe stop throwing leg.


LOL Yes stop throwing leg!!! Some people go for quantity, others for quality.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2019 13:58     Subject: Re:Dating divorced dads....their enthusiasm level in bed (nonexplicit)
Because like you the divorced guys are as horny as hell. The magic will fade.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2019 13:55     Subject: Dating divorced dads....their enthusiasm level in bed (nonexplicit)
I haven't read the whole thread. But one of my divorced dad friends tells me that he is enjoying sex so much now that he's dating again, after a decade of being in a basically sexless marriage.

I'd imagine that he's not the only one in that position. (Get it - position? Anyway.)
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2019 13:52     Subject: Dating divorced dads....their enthusiasm level in bed (nonexplicit)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Well duh, they have had sex in months or years.
And why is that? When a spouse loses respect, trust, or connection with you, you stop having sex. You have to repair the respect, trust and connection to resume having sex.

That process is too difficult for some so they’d rather call it whites and bang new women after their divorce.


It is always better to spend time and effort getting new women than it is to attempt to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was.


I dunno, undivided assets? Full time with your children vs. part time? Maybe you don't value it. People are different.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2019 13:25     Subject: Dating divorced dads....their enthusiasm level in bed (nonexplicit)
Anonymous wrote:Well duh, they have had sex in months or years.
And why is that? When a spouse loses respect, trust, or connection with you, you stop having sex. You have to repair the respect, trust and connection to resume having sex.

That process is too difficult for some so they’d rather call it whites and bang new women after their divorce.


It is always better to spend time and effort getting new women than it is to attempt to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2019 13:21     Subject: Dating divorced dads....their enthusiasm level in bed (nonexplicit)
Anonymous wrote:Well duh, they have had sex in months or years.
And why is that? When a spouse loses respect, trust, or connection with you, you stop having sex. You have to repair the respect, trust and connection to resume having sex.

That process is too difficult for some so they’d rather call it whites and bang new women after their divorce.


Again, DCUM Rule #1: Any marital, relationship or sexual problem is always 100% the man's fault.

It could neeeeeeeever be the woman's fault that respect, trust, and affection are gone. And it is alllllllllways his job to repair their loss.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2019 13:18     Subject: Dating divorced dads....their enthusiasm level in bed (nonexplicit)
Yes, I taught my ex what was what. I'm sure his new lovers appreciate it.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2019 13:16     Subject: Dating divorced dads....their enthusiasm level in bed (nonexplicit)
Anonymous wrote:If you ate steak every day for years. and years and years. And someone offered you chicken tenders, you'd be thrilled. right? Same thing.


+1

Plus, a lot of divorced moms I see - they are almost 50, and they get boob jobs, or whatever. It looks silly to me. IDK, maybe they think they are a hot commodity or something? Maybe thy are talking themselves up, after all they have been through.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2019 12:56     Subject: Dating divorced dads....their enthusiasm level in bed (nonexplicit)
If you ate steak every day for years. and years and years. And someone offered you chicken tenders, you'd be thrilled. right? Same thing.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2019 12:53     Subject: Dating divorced dads....their enthusiasm level in bed (nonexplicit)
Anonymous wrote:Well duh, they have had sex in months or years.
And why is that? When a spouse loses respect, trust, or connection with you, you stop having sex. You have to repair the respect, trust and connection to resume having sex.

That process is too difficult for some so they’d rather call it whites and bang new women after their divorce.

So the wife of 6 years who sleeps in your bed rejects sex due to lack of “connection” meanwhile the girl you met last Friday already feels “connected” 3 times (plus a no strings BJ). As you asked: why is that?
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2019 12:52     Subject: Dating divorced dads....their enthusiasm level in bed (nonexplicit)
Anonymous wrote:But all relationships are new in the beginning. OP was talking about differences between never-married and divorced men of the same age.

I think guys who went through a bad marriage, or one that became bad by the end, are less likely to take good for granted.


+1. Also, the single guys are starving in the middle of a wasteland. The divorced guys are starving in the middle of a buffet. The latter is going to generate a different kind of energy than the former.