Anonymous wrote:Second baby/wedding showers are more common than you think. The old way of thinking is swiftly falling aside in favor of more modern ways of doing things. You don't have to, and won't, like it or participate in the events. But yes, this is quite normal today.

In the past, people had manners but nowadays your generation is full of gift whores.

My SIL had baby showers for kids #4 and 5 (she had the first 3 kids from a previous marriage). Maaaaaaybe I could understand a shower for baby 4, since there is a 9 year gap. But baby 5 came just 15 months later! Then again, SIL and my brother are just trashy as can be.

Nothing “modern” about a gift grab when you don’t need anything. Some of us don’t want yet more attention all the time; I get that might be a crazy concept to you.

Anonymous wrote:Second baby/wedding showers are more common than you think. The old way of thinking is swiftly falling aside in favor of more modern ways of doing things. You don't have to, and won't, like it or participate in the events. But yes, this is quite normal today.

I have a large group of friends, and haven't been to any second baby showers. As a matter of fact, my sister was attempting to throw a second baby shower for me, and we had an argument about it, because I was so strongly against it.

Anonymous wrote:Second baby/wedding showers are more common than you think. The old way of thinking is swiftly falling aside in favor of more modern ways of doing things. You don't have to, and won't, like it or participate in the events. But yes, this is quite normal today.

Among mannerless trashy people - maybe. It's not normal. Just because you know someone tacky who did it, it doesn't make it "modern".

OP, while you're at it, have multiple showers - at works, for friends, and for family. Then you can invite SIL to the family one. And maybe friends' one too.

Second baby/wedding showers are more common than you think. The old way of thinking is swiftly falling aside in favor of more modern ways of doing things. You don't have to, and won't, like it or participate in the events. But yes, this is quite normal today.

Yes

You’re sending out invites to your own second baby shower?

I am so embarrassed for you.

Invite her and forget the text. It will be tricky to make the text sound like you want her there and aren't inviting out of obligation. She can decline and you have the side knowledge that she doesn't enjoy showers, you aren't close, and it's likely not personal.

Anonymous wrote:OP, ignore these people. Seriously.

Um don't ignore them.

In my circle we have sprinkles for 2nd or 3rd babies. We basically all pitch in $5-10 and give the pregnant friend a gift card, and maybe some new onesies. Then we get together for brunch at someone's house to celebrate. We love celebrating new babies, but none of us have wanted the whole Big Gifts From Everyone for a 2nd baby. Mainly because we don't need anything but diapers and some new burp clothes, if that. And the only people who come are the 10 of us in this friend group. We don't invite sisters and moms and cousins and work friends etc.

SO you can celebrate without having a shower. Have a baby brunch, have a small sprinkle, but not another shower.

OP, ignore these people. Seriously.

Anonymous wrote:2nd baby showers are an embarrassment. You need to politely decline. Seriously, such a gift grab. If you really want the attention, have a sip & see but specify no gifts

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2nd baby showers are an embarrassment. You need to politely decline. Seriously, such a gift grab. If you really want the attention, have a sip & see but specify no gifts

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you having a second shower AND sending out your own invites? Tacky

Plenty of women have second baby showers, it was offered to be thrown for me and I am helping with the invites. What's wrong with that?

Everything. Table manners and social etiquette should be mandatory courses taught in middle School.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you having a second shower AND sending out your own invites? Tacky

Plenty of women have second baby showers, it was offered to be thrown for me and I am helping with the invites. What's wrong with that?

Everything. Table manners and social etiquette should be mandatory courses taught in middle School.