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Anonymous wrote:This isn't happy hour. It's going out with co-workers. Which is fine if that's the plan, but "hey I'm going out for HH" is just the softball so that there's no strict end time for the night and you're not expecting him home for dinner/bedtime/whatever. It also puts you in the position of being the nagging spouse texting "when are you coming home?".

Wouldn't work for me. Go out, or don't, but don't treat the at-home spouse like the mom who's waiting up for the kid to get home.

Isn’t this kind of what you signed up for? It’s not your husband’s fault you gave up your career to stay home and as a result no longer get invited to happy hours.

Sigh. Another attack on sahms and this one misdirected. Re-read. The poster said at-home spouse, meaning the one who is at home while the other one is at happy hour, the spouse who is wavingwaiting to find out what time the other spouse is going to get home.

Sand I agree with the other poster. If one of us goes to happy hour, we are realistic with how long things are going to take so the other person isn't sitting at home, as poster said, nagging the other spouse

I easily stay at happy hours with colleagues until 10/10:30 so on a special night, it wouldn't be unusual to be later.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Uh, no way. I have no interest in hanging out with coworkers late on a weeknight. I want to get home and be with my DH, have dinner, exercise etc. I go to HH maybe 4x year and am on my way home by 7.

Your industry and position? Income? In my career socializing after work is important for networking. I go to drinks/dinner 3-4x a month when at home. It’s part of the job. I have a salary that hovers between $500k and $1.2 million. That said, I am up st 6 am with the kids. It’ was one night...I’d just tell him have fun but you are on duty in the morning

+1. DHs job is like this as well. He still gets up with the kids. One of my favorite stories was that he went out to a Friday night HH. He was out past midnight. I know because that's what time I went to bed. The plan was to take the kids to the zoo on Sat morning. At 7am, I was dragging my butt out of bed. He was up, showered, and packing snacks for the outing.

This.

It nh is only the grunts that don't have to socialize with industry.

Anonymous wrote:DH went to a happy hour this week as a welcome to the team celebration with his coworkers. He stayed out until almost midnight - which annoyed me because he was hungover the next morning and couldn’t handle drop-offs like he’s normally suppose to with the kids.


He also mentioned his team does this x2 month. Do you/ your significant other go to HH semi regularly (+ have kids) and stay out that late?

Normally I hate staying out late, but probably once a year, I do what your DH does and not only do I have to take an uber home, my DH then has to drive me to retrieve my car thr mext morning.

Luckily hes not a nag and doesn't freak out over having to do a little extra work (and we dont keep a ledger about it). Hes not my dad and desont want to be. Being out unexpectedly late a few times a year isnt anything we have a stroke over.

I'm a DW and I leave to socialize after dinner and after kids are in bed, so late happy hours around 7. I stay out until bedtime, but I'm always able to make breakfast and take the kids to school the next morning. Not a hungover mess. My kids have no idea I've been out, and DH gets his chill time (kids STTN).

If he drank so much he cannot handle his parenting duties in the morning, he is an alcoholic. My DH goes to happy hour about once a month, ssually when someone new starts or someone is leaving. He is home by around 7:30 or 8pm.

DH’s department goes out to happy hour once every two weeks, maybe a little more. (We both work full time, but my colleagues don’t go out together after work. We have one ES-aged DS.)

DH is always home for dinner. If he’s planning on staying out, we plan it in advance. He does not go to happy hours on evenings he makes dinner, or evenings I have a class.

Anonymous wrote:No legit reason for a married person to go to happy hour. He's cheating.

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Anonymous wrote:This isn't happy hour. It's going out with co-workers. Which is fine if that's the plan, but "hey I'm going out for HH" is just the softball so that there's no strict end time for the night and you're not expecting him home for dinner/bedtime/whatever. It also puts you in the position of being the nagging spouse texting "when are you coming home?".

Wouldn't work for me. Go out, or don't, but don't treat the at-home spouse like the mom who's waiting up for the kid to get home.

Isn’t this kind of what you signed up for? It’s not your husband’s fault you gave up your career to stay home and as a result no longer get invited to happy hours.

No legit reason for a married person to go to happy hour. He's cheating.