Anonymous wrote:Why do you keep referring to you child as adopted child? First time was informative, but the rest plain weird. Just say your child and move on.

Because there is too much confusion on this thread. BTW DH is not infertile

Why do you keep referring to you child as adopted child? First time was informative, but the rest plain weird. Just say your child and move on.

Dear god.

I have 3 kids. Two have brown hair and brown eyes and one has bright blonde hair and bright blue eyes. All have the same father.

When I was younger people thought I looked exactly like my step dad.

Current, people think my SS looks just like me.

My grandmother had red hair. None of us have red in our hair.

It means nothing!!

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Anonymous wrote:We don't know where OP lives.

Adjudicating parentage is a lengthy process. A court will not automatically overturn a "legal" father who signed the birth certificate. If it's after two years not easy. Probably won't change the child's name either.

OP what state are you in?

Live in PA.
Do you mean that if she comes forward demanding support and so on, DH wouldn’t have to pay?
What about inheritance.

Can you please just tell us what this magical significant crazy hair and complexion MIL has are????

My guess is that MIL is biracial, either Indian/white, AA/white, or Asian/white and the kid looks like one of those combinations.

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Anonymous wrote:They adopted their own child and this was the babysitter from what I read. Maybe not a current one, but they are still in contact...maybe...My niece invited her old babysitter to her wedding.

OP can you clarify? And what do you mean you're not "paranoid"? I would dna that kid so fast it would make your head spin, lol...if the resemblance was that similar.

Our child is adopted. Years ago I would have done DNA right away, but honestly now, I am reluctant. My head is racing. Thinking about things like property being split and so in. Our own child’s inheritance. I simply don’t want to know. However I might not be totally in control of that. BTW it’s not just hair color, it’s complexion.

How would you do a dna test on someone else's child?

I meant that years ago, when I was younger and more reactive, I would have reacted in such a way that a DNA test might have been inevitable.

That is not what you said.

And OP is not younger. She is almost grandma age.

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Anonymous wrote:We don't know where OP lives.

Adjudicating parentage is a lengthy process. A court will not automatically overturn a "legal" father who signed the birth certificate. If it's after two years not easy. Probably won't change the child's name either.

OP what state are you in?

Live in PA.
Do you mean that if she comes forward demanding support and so on, DH wouldn’t have to pay?
What about inheritance.

Not in PA, the legal father is the one on the birth certificate. The only way that child could get inheritance is if you husband chose to leave some.

So if no divorce then all money would go to adopted child?

There's probably other things OP hasn't shared that makes her believe this.

OP has your husband cheated to your knowledge during the marriage. Did you ever see him being a little too familiar with the sitter?

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Anonymous wrote:We don't know where OP lives.

Adjudicating parentage is a lengthy process. A court will not automatically overturn a "legal" father who signed the birth certificate. If it's after two years not easy. Probably won't change the child's name either.

OP what state are you in?

Live in PA.
Do you mean that if she comes forward demanding support and so on, DH wouldn’t have to pay?
What about inheritance.

Not in PA, the legal father is the one on the birth certificate. The only way that child could get inheritance is if you husband chose to leave some.

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Anonymous wrote:We don't know where OP lives.

Adjudicating parentage is a lengthy process. A court will not automatically overturn a "legal" father who signed the birth certificate. If it's after two years not easy. Probably won't change the child's name either.

OP what state are you in?

Live in PA.
Do you mean that if she comes forward demanding support and so on, DH wouldn’t have to pay?
What about inheritance.

Can you please just tell us what this magical significant crazy hair and complexion MIL has are????

Anonymous wrote:We don't know where OP lives.

Adjudicating parentage is a lengthy process. A court will not automatically overturn a "legal" father who signed the birth certificate. If it's after two years not easy. Probably won't change the child's name either.

OP what state are you in?

Live in PA.
Do you mean that if she comes forward demanding support and so on, DH wouldn’t have to pay?
What about inheritance.

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Anonymous wrote:They adopted their own child and this was the babysitter from what I read. Maybe not a current one, but they are still in contact...maybe...My niece invited her old babysitter to her wedding.

OP can you clarify? And what do you mean you're not "paranoid"? I would dna that kid so fast it would make your head spin, lol...if the resemblance was that similar.

Our child is adopted. Years ago I would have done DNA right away, but honestly now, I am reluctant. My head is racing. Thinking about things like property being split and so in. Our own child’s inheritance. I simply don’t want to know. However I might not be totally in control of that. BTW it’s not just hair color, it’s complexion.

How would you do a dna test on someone else's child?

I meant that years ago, when I was younger and more reactive, I would have reacted in such a way that a DNA test might have been inevitable.

Anonymous wrote:DH's mother must be the father. Obviously.

LMAO!! This has got to be the answer. MIL must have been getting around.

We don't know where OP lives.

Adjudicating parentage is a lengthy process. A court will not automatically overturn a "legal" father who signed the birth certificate. If it's after two years not easy. Probably won't change the child's name either.

OP what state are you in?

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Anonymous wrote:Assumed troll, but I’ll bite as a redhead. All of my 4 siblings are redheads. My parents are both more Auburn. They obviously both carried the redhead gene. None of my 4 children are redheads. I’ve even got a toe head blondie.

Genetics isn’t that simple.

OP here. Not a hint of red? I’m not used to redheads but every time I see them, the whole family has a tinge.

That's not how it works.

I am half asian. My spouse is olive complexion brunette white.

Kid #1 looks just like my family.

Kid #3 looks just like his family.

Kid #2 was born a blonde haired blue eyed very fair kid, which changed to a bright strawberry red head when her newborn hair fell out. She was a redhead until around 1 year, when she slowly went back to blonde. She looked like neither of us, until around 3rd grade when she started to look like my husband's family, specifically his sister's kids.

I look like her nanny.

Genetics are strange.

Isn't this what happened with Arnold Shwarzenegger's housekeeper?