Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not do anything that would require me to live life with a small child without running hot and clean water.

OP didn't say she was without clean water. She said she was without running hot water. Big difference.

"Running hot and clean water" was my requirement. Clean cold water would not be enough for me.

Ok, enjoy living in the highly developed world, but you'll be missing out on some amazing experiences. Even in Europe there are some cold water flats, and it's much colder than India (where a hot shower isn't a necessity). OP may miss her hot shower, but there are huge benefits in terms of availability of family members, inexpensive childcare, amazing fruits and vegetables year round and fantastic places to visit.

Yes! Life is about new experiences! People and experiences more memorable than creature comforts!

Wait until the summer though . . . .

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not do anything that would require me to live life with a small child without running hot and clean water.

OP didn't say she was without clean water. She said she was without running hot water. Big difference.

"Running hot and clean water" was my requirement. Clean cold water would not be enough for me.

Anonymous wrote:In a heartbeat!! That's assuming you're in a decent-sized city and you can spend some money to increase your comforts.

Spend money on:
1. Dry cleaning or someone to wash your clothes at home.
2. A flat with hot water (or learn the joys of a bucket "shower" )
3. Trips to western-style grocery stores (these are available in Dhaka, Islamabad, Lahore, etc so I would assume most major cities in India would have them too).

It's only a year and it will be SO nice for your child to have this experience with his cousins and family.

+1 There are plenty of western style grocery stores in the big cities. But OP didn't say where she was, and it could be a smaller town, because most modern flats have hot running water.

Anonymous wrote:I would not do anything that would require me to live life with a small child without running hot and clean water.

OP didn't say she was without clean water. She said she was without running hot water. Big difference.

I would not do anything that would require me to live life with a small child without running hot and clean water.

In a heartbeat!! That's assuming you're in a decent-sized city and you can spend some money to increase your comforts.

Spend money on:
1. Dry cleaning or someone to wash your clothes at home.
2. A flat with hot water (or learn the joys of a bucket "shower" )
3. Trips to western-style grocery stores (these are available in Dhaka, Islamabad, Lahore, etc so I would assume most major cities in India would have them too).

It's only a year and it will be SO nice for your child to have this experience with his cousins and family.

I bet more would be expected of you if you were there all the time versus just a visitor for a month. I think you guys should take extended visits instead for a month or two at a time.

Yes yes yes!

I would as long as there is certainty that it would only be for 1 year. I would be worried that DH would not want to move back anymore. It’s risky for that (for me). On the other hand, I think it would be an amazing experience for my kids tht I would be really sad to give up on

Probably not. I can't stand Delhi anymore because of the air pollution. I would certainly not think of taking my family to any major cities. I wouldn't mind living in a smaller town though. I won't mind living in South India, Maharashtra, Gujarat, Goa, Himachal Pradesh, parts of punjab, parts of Rajasthan and the North East for a year or two, if I am given nice accomodations and a slew of domestic staff.

I would hate to live in the Hindi Belt - Delhi, UP, Haryana, Punjab, Rajasthan, Bihar - because of the general lawlessness. India is great for visiting for a few weeks. I would certainly not say no for attending grand weddings there, or go on a shopping spree.

In the context you describe, yes - assuming that I could have reasonable creature comforts during that year.

I would put a clear set of expectations in place with DH, though, vis-a-vis a year being truly a year and not three or five years.

You don't get hot and cold water directly in most places like we do here. But every place I have been to in India, even small village motels will have geysers in bathrooms and small instant water heaters next to sinks so you can have all the hot water you need.
Indian washers are not like the ones you get in the US. The machines will wash and spin your clothes, then people hang them up to line dry. In major cities you can find all kinds of international foods in the bigger supermarkets or speciality shops but you won't find the likes of Whole Foods or Wegmans.
Where in India are you planning to live, OP?

Yes, you should do it.