Anonymous
Post 01/14/2019 09:26     Subject: What's the biggest thing you've sacrificed?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sex - nothing in 12 1/2 years


Why?


PP: ED issues and no interest on his part. I went into the marriage knowing he had ED/low drive, but didn’t anticipate no sex, at all, ever.


No cheating? Do you have a vibrator? Seems wholly unfair to you. Needs are needs.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2019 09:23     Subject: What's the biggest thing you've sacrificed?
Anonymous wrote:Looking the other way when DH “fixes” things around the house. He does a super crappy jobs just to save money.


Bumper sticker I saw on a handyman’s van in bethesda: “I repair what your husband fixed”
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2019 09:21     Subject: Re:What's the biggest thing you've sacrificed?
Anonymous wrote:Being willing to have kids. I adamantly did NOT want any. Spouse did.


And what do you think now? Are you glad you did?
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2019 07:48     Subject: Re:What's the biggest thing you've sacrificed?
Anonymous wrote:Being a trailing spouse to an international corporate executive. Three countries now and one more coming up soon. No signs of returning to the US any time soon. I can't complain, we live very well, but it's not the life I envisioned, raising my family down the street from my parents and having my sister close by. I'm jealous of my sister and her family because they are within a mile of both sets of grandparents and everyone is in and out of everyone's houses.

And career too. Two Ivy degrees to end up a housewife.

And a husband who's away on work trips 1/3 the time.

Good thing I love him very much and he's a wonderful father too.





Man that sucks. You win for biggest sacrifice.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2019 07:48     Subject: Re:What's the biggest thing you've sacrificed?
A fourth kid!!!

I want one, he doesn't. So we stopped at three
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2019 07:44     Subject: Re:What's the biggest thing you've sacrificed?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Being a trailing spouse to an international corporate executive. Three countries now and one more coming up soon. No signs of returning to the US any time soon. I can't complain, we live very well, but it's not the life I envisioned, raising my family down the street from my parents and having my sister close by. I'm jealous of my sister and her family because they are within a mile of both sets of grandparents and everyone is in and out of everyone's houses.

And career too. Two Ivy degrees to end up a housewife.

And a husband who's away on work trips 1/3 the time.

Good thing I love him very much and he's a wonderful father too.





Interesting. I’m a trailing spouse living overseas...though DH is not a traveling exec.

I like I gave up my career for him to chase his, but moving around makes it worth it to me. Keeps me from being bored!


Oh, I'm hardly bitter. It has been an adventure and rewarding on different levels and we've travelled and seen and done so much. As a family unit we're quite strong. But becoming a long-term expat was a sacrifice.


I love your attitude.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2019 07:06     Subject: Re:What's the biggest thing you've sacrificed?
Good sex. My DW is my worst lover, but she is my wife.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2019 06:42     Subject: Re:What's the biggest thing you've sacrificed?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Being a trailing spouse to an international corporate executive. Three countries now and one more coming up soon. No signs of returning to the US any time soon. I can't complain, we live very well, but it's not the life I envisioned, raising my family down the street from my parents and having my sister close by. I'm jealous of my sister and her family because they are within a mile of both sets of grandparents and everyone is in and out of everyone's houses.

And career too. Two Ivy degrees to end up a housewife.

And a husband who's away on work trips 1/3 the time.

Good thing I love him very much and he's a wonderful father too.





Interesting. I’m a trailing spouse living overseas...though DH is not a traveling exec.

I like I gave up my career for him to chase his, but moving around makes it worth it to me. Keeps me from being bored!


Oh, I'm hardly bitter. It has been an adventure and rewarding on different levels and we've travelled and seen and done so much. As a family unit we're quite strong. But becoming a long-term expat was a sacrifice.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2019 06:06     Subject: What's the biggest thing you've sacrificed?
Anonymous wrote:Most of my dreams. DW like her mother sucks the life out of people. My goal is to raise my kids to be better.


But you signed up for it anyway?
And what were these dreams exactly?
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2019 06:04     Subject: What's the biggest thing you've sacrificed?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sex - nothing in 12 1/2 years


Why?


PP: ED issues and no interest on his part. I went into the marriage knowing he had ED/low drive, but didn’t anticipate no sex, at all, ever.


Is he an evangelical (gay) Christian?
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2019 05:09     Subject: What's the biggest thing you've sacrificed?
Most of my dreams. DW like her mother sucks the life out of people. My goal is to raise my kids to be better.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2019 04:50     Subject: Re:What's the biggest thing you've sacrificed?
Anonymous wrote:Being a trailing spouse to an international corporate executive. Three countries now and one more coming up soon. No signs of returning to the US any time soon. I can't complain, we live very well, but it's not the life I envisioned, raising my family down the street from my parents and having my sister close by. I'm jealous of my sister and her family because they are within a mile of both sets of grandparents and everyone is in and out of everyone's houses.

And career too. Two Ivy degrees to end up a housewife.

And a husband who's away on work trips 1/3 the time.

Good thing I love him very much and he's a wonderful father too.





Interesting. I’m a trailing spouse living overseas...though DH is not a traveling exec.

I like I gave up my career for him to chase his, but moving around makes it worth it to me. Keeps me from being bored!
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2019 01:22     Subject: Re:What's the biggest thing you've sacrificed?
Being a trailing spouse to an international corporate executive. Three countries now and one more coming up soon. No signs of returning to the US any time soon. I can't complain, we live very well, but it's not the life I envisioned, raising my family down the street from my parents and having my sister close by. I'm jealous of my sister and her family because they are within a mile of both sets of grandparents and everyone is in and out of everyone's houses.

And career too. Two Ivy degrees to end up a housewife.

And a husband who's away on work trips 1/3 the time.

Good thing I love him very much and he's a wonderful father too.



Anonymous
Post 01/14/2019 01:01     Subject: What's the biggest thing you've sacrificed?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sex - nothing in 12 1/2 years


Why?


PP: ED issues and no interest on his part. I went into the marriage knowing he had ED/low drive, but didn’t anticipate no sex, at all, ever.


Why stay? That sounds unbearable.
Anonymous
Post 01/13/2019 23:13     Subject: Re:What's the biggest thing you've sacrificed?
Being willing to have kids. I adamantly did NOT want any. Spouse did.