Anonymous
Post 01/10/2019 12:14     Subject: Should I include being vegan in my dating profile?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:But whatever. Maybe I'm trying too hard. All I can tell you is my experience of being a vegan and being married to an omnivore foodie. We do lots of dining out and fun but it has never been an issue between us.

I guess you are making an issue for you so it would be an issue. But don't put that on vegans and vegetarians. You're the one with all the fears about oh my God I might not have the best restaurant experience and that's the most important thing in the world to me


You've convinced me, PP. You have demonstrated that vegans are kind, and considerate, and not at all defensive, and all-around wonderful people. I definitely want to date one now.

Except . . . you didn't do that at all. Quite the opposite, actually.

You better hang onto that husband of yours - he's apparently a saint.


and there is the death knell You are resorting to a personal attack without any evidence because you have nothing else.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2019 12:13     Subject: Should I include being vegan in my dating profile?
Well, for what it’s worth. I am a male vegetarian and putting vegan in your profile would be a slight plus for me, as long as you aren’t super militant and judgy about it.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2019 12:13     Subject: Should I include being vegan in my dating profile?
Anonymous wrote:But whatever. Maybe I'm trying too hard. All I can tell you is my experience of being a vegan and being married to an omnivore foodie. We do lots of dining out and fun but it has never been an issue between us.

I guess you are making an issue for you so it would be an issue. But don't put that on vegans and vegetarians. You're the one with all the fears about oh my God I might not have the best restaurant experience and that's the most important thing in the world to me


You've convinced me, PP. You have demonstrated that vegans are kind, and considerate, and not at all defensive, and all-around wonderful people. I definitely want to date one now.

Except . . . you didn't do that at all. Quite the opposite, actually.

You better hang onto that husband of yours - he's apparently a saint.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2019 12:10     Subject: Should I include being vegan in my dating profile?
Okay. I'm out. You have decided that my DH who loves to cook, and just has to make a separate batch and leave some meat out is somehow suffering.

He's not a saint. He's just not a put upon a******

If you were a true foodie, you would know that taking everyday dishes and making them slightly exotic or upscale fun for cooks. There are whole restaurants with famous chefs devoted to this concept

You're digging in because you don't have a real point. And making yourself seem kind of mean at the same time.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2019 12:09     Subject: Should I include being vegan in my dating profile?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:But whatever. Maybe I'm trying too hard. All I can tell you is my experience of being a vegan and being married to an omnivore foodie. We do lots of dining out and fun but it has never been an issue between us.

I guess you are making an issue for you so it would be an issue. But don't put that on vegans and vegetarians. You're the one with all the fears about oh my God I might not have the best restaurant experience and that's the most important thing in the world to me


So when he makes his "foodie" food (sorry chili doesn't count, and you're doing something wrong if you make expensive chili), he has to make you a separate one. That sucks. Your DH is a saint. I wonder if he was asked how much he loves this dynamic if we wouldn't hear a different story. Clearly he loves you a lot!


But you would expect your vegan wife to cook you meat. Go back to Reddit you MRA baby.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2019 12:07     Subject: Should I include being vegan in my dating profile?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Dude. People talk about vegans being obsessed with their diets? freaking carnivores whocan't even imagine dating one because of their love of food seem like they are more overly focused on that.

I'm a vegan, my husband of 20 years is not. We have had 20 wonderful years of meals and dinners out and happiness. And he is a foodie, too. But not to the point that me being a vegan sucks joy out of his life I guess


No, he isn't.


Really? This Sunday, he made some kind of super expensive three meat chili with meat from whole foods that cost more than I care to think about. ? All organic, all free range, super spiced

On the side, he made me an incredibly tasty version of spicy chili without the meat.

For Thanksgiving, here and my kid had some 6 course tasting menu that included vegan butternut squash soup, turkey carpaccio and sweetbreads. I would say those are adventurous foodie foods for foodies.

Tonight, he's making us Margharita Pizza in his pizza oven with the dough that he makes himself. And his homemade pizza sauce.

I could go on about the excellent experience restaurants we go to, but you won't believe me anyway.

I certainly have known plenty of picky eaters who are not vegan or vegetarian and they are bigger pain to deal with then veg people. Half the time, the food is too spicy or the cheese is too weird or the meat isn't cooked enough for these people









This. From another vegan married to a non vegan. I think you've touched on an issue here. It sounds like you have an equal partnership. When I was dating I found the men who had an issue with me being a vegan expected a more traditional relationship is the woman was supposed to do all the cooking and cater to all the man's whims.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2019 12:05     Subject: Re:Should I include being vegan in my dating profile?
I travel a lot and cannot spending time trying to find vegan places around the world. When I go somewhere, I want to fully experience it, not worry if there is dairy in my meal.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2019 12:04     Subject: Should I include being vegan in my dating profile?
Anonymous wrote:But whatever. Maybe I'm trying too hard. All I can tell you is my experience of being a vegan and being married to an omnivore foodie. We do lots of dining out and fun but it has never been an issue between us.

I guess you are making an issue for you so it would be an issue. But don't put that on vegans and vegetarians. You're the one with all the fears about oh my God I might not have the best restaurant experience and that's the most important thing in the world to me


So when he makes his "foodie" food (sorry chili doesn't count, and you're doing something wrong if you make expensive chili), he has to make you a separate one. That sucks. Your DH is a saint. I wonder if he was asked how much he loves this dynamic if we wouldn't hear a different story. Clearly he loves you a lot!
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2019 12:03     Subject: Should I include being vegan in my dating profile?
No way.

My husband is true steak and potatoes man, strong, masculine, etc.

If I would have seen that, he would have instantly thought I was some high maintenance yuppee.

Dont do it. If you click, great. If not, oh well
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2019 12:02     Subject: Should I include being vegan in my dating profile?
But whatever. Maybe I'm trying too hard. All I can tell you is my experience of being a vegan and being married to an omnivore foodie. We do lots of dining out and fun but it has never been an issue between us.

I guess you are making an issue for you so it would be an issue. But don't put that on vegans and vegetarians. You're the one with all the fears about oh my God I might not have the best restaurant experience and that's the most important thing in the world to me
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2019 12:01     Subject: Should I include being vegan in my dating profile?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Dude. People talk about vegans being obsessed with their diets? freaking carnivores whocan't even imagine dating one because of their love of food seem like they are more overly focused on that.

I'm a vegan, my husband of 20 years is not. We have had 20 wonderful years of meals and dinners out and happiness. And he is a foodie, too. But not to the point that me being a vegan sucks joy out of his life I guess


How nice for you. BTW, most people are omnivores, not carnivores.


Wow. Cool response. I think you get my point. You are just choosing not to deal with that by adding snark.

Choosing not to date a vegan is a limitation on YOUR part.

Choosing not to date a specific vegan is a different matter altogether.


OK, I'll bite. How often do you go out to eat? What are your regular restaurants? How often do you refuse to go to a restaurant because of your veganism? DO you travel extensively? Internationally? Who cooks at home? What do you make at home?


Yes please do share all of your wonderful meals and dinners out and happiness?


Anonymous
Post 01/10/2019 12:01     Subject: Should I include being vegan in my dating profile?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Dude. People talk about vegans being obsessed with their diets? freaking carnivores whocan't even imagine dating one because of their love of food seem like they are more overly focused on that.

I'm a vegan, my husband of 20 years is not. We have had 20 wonderful years of meals and dinners out and happiness. And he is a foodie, too. But not to the point that me being a vegan sucks joy out of his life I guess


How nice for you. BTW, most people are omnivores, not carnivores.


Wow. Cool response. I think you get my point. You are just choosing not to deal with that by adding snark.

Choosing not to date a vegan is a limitation on YOUR part.

Choosing not to date a specific vegan is a different matter altogether.


It's a limitation alot of people have. I think op would be smart to put it in the profile. I wouldn't date a vegan - I eat too much meat too often to deal with that in a partner. I'm not judging anyone who is, I just don't want to deal with it in my own life.


Yes you are judging. What exactly would you be dealing with by having a girlfriend who is a vegan? As pp said this is your own issue and dare I say immaturity.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2019 12:01     Subject: Should I include being vegan in my dating profile?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Dude. People talk about vegans being obsessed with their diets? freaking carnivores whocan't even imagine dating one because of their love of food seem like they are more overly focused on that.

I'm a vegan, my husband of 20 years is not. We have had 20 wonderful years of meals and dinners out and happiness. And he is a foodie, too. But not to the point that me being a vegan sucks joy out of his life I guess


No, he isn't.


Really? This Sunday, he made some kind of super expensive three meat chili with meat from whole foods that cost more than I care to think about. ? All organic, all free range, super spiced

On the side, he made me an incredibly tasty version of spicy chili without the meat.

For Thanksgiving, here and my kid had some 6 course tasting menu that included vegan butternut squash soup, turkey carpaccio and sweetbreads. I would say those are adventurous foodie foods for foodies.

Tonight, he's making us Margharita Pizza in his pizza oven with the dough that he makes himself. And his homemade pizza sauce.

I could go on about the excellent experience restaurants we go to, but you won't believe me anyway.

I certainly have known plenty of picky eaters who are not vegan or vegetarian and they are bigger pain to deal with then veg people. Half the time, the food is too spicy or the cheese is too weird or the meat isn't cooked enough for these people




Anonymous
Post 01/10/2019 12:00     Subject: Should I include being vegan in my dating profile?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think it would matter to a lot of meat eaters, for different reasons. Akin to social drinkers preferring to date other social drinkers.


+1 I would have no interest in dating a vegan regardless of the reason for being one.


Weird.


One of my favorite things to do is eat out and explore new restaurants. I'm a really good cook, and often try new dishes. When I travel, I love trying the local cuisine. In many cases, I choose the place I'm going *because* of the cuisine. I have zero interest in dating someone who would inhibit that.

I could deal with a vegetarian, but not a vegan. I'd rather date a smoker.


you're assuming that a vegan would necessarily inhibit your ability to eat out. Eating out is a small part of life my friend. Also, if you do.

when people say they love cooking and they love food and they can't imagine dating a vegan or vegetarian, what they mean is they only like a narrow kind of food. They are unwilling to try anything different than what they are used to.

Imagine choosing a restaurant that has amazing vegan food. It would be an expansion of what you are used to, not a limitation.


Of course a vegan would necessarily inhibit my ability to eat. I love all types of food, and a vegan won't eat a majority of the things I do. More importantly, there are many fantastic restaurants that have mediocre vegan food, and I'm not interested in eating at places where my partner has a subpar experience.

I know eating out is a small part of life, but it's a part of life I enjoy immensely.

And what gives you the impression I don't cook vegan, or vegetarian food? I can, and do. But I don't want to cook, or eat, only that. And these restaurants with amazing vegan food - where are they? Are there a lot of them?

This notion you'r peddling that omnivores are the overly restrictive ones, and vegans are quite accommodating and easy to deal with is ridiculous. You're trying way too hard here.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2019 11:56     Subject: Should I include being vegan in my dating profile?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Dude. People talk about vegans being obsessed with their diets? freaking carnivores whocan't even imagine dating one because of their love of food seem like they are more overly focused on that.

I'm a vegan, my husband of 20 years is not. We have had 20 wonderful years of meals and dinners out and happiness. And he is a foodie, too. But not to the point that me being a vegan sucks joy out of his life I guess


How nice for you. BTW, most people are omnivores, not carnivores.


Wow. Cool response. I think you get my point. You are just choosing not to deal with that by adding snark.

Choosing not to date a vegan is a limitation on YOUR part.

Choosing not to date a specific vegan is a different matter altogether.


It's a limitation alot of people have. I think op would be smart to put it in the profile. I wouldn't date a vegan - I eat too much meat too often to deal with that in a partner. I'm not judging anyone who is, I just don't want to deal with it in my own life.