Anonymous wrote:Ah, the MRA multiply by factor of three because all women are liars line... such rubbish. My number is exactly what I say it is. I don’t typically divulge it to partners, but when I do, I never change it.

I did have an affair and it was actually a very important step in my life. It gave me the last boost in confidence I needed to leave an abusive, terrible relationship. Looking back it was not the safest or smartest thing I ever did, and I should have finished off and left the marriage on my own. I knew I wouldn’t be in a relationship with my AP when I left my marriage... but knowing that I could defy my controling husband even that much was enough for me to see I could leave. My AP was not as good looking. My AP is still a good friend, though we are not lovers anymore.

Relax. Not everything applies equally to everyone. In general, men tend to exaggerate their number up and women tend to modify it down. A women I went to college with got married. I attended the wedding. At the reception, the best man and I got in a conversation and we realized we had some mutual friends. We were laughing and telling stories and suddenly he asks out of the blue about the bride. "Is it true she only had one serious boyfriend? I mean, look at her. I can't believe she wasn't hit on from the moment she walked on campus to the time her parents came to bring her home after graduation (picture Matt Damon saying this in a Boston accent, and no the guy didn't look like Matt Damon but that's how he sounded). She and I were friends that had a few nights of drunken passion blended in. I know she had been with more than 10 guys (lost her virginity in HS, conversations and funny stories about hook ups during college, her and I and then her husband). Given she worked for almost 2 years before meeting her husband, I'm guessing it could be near 20. The best man was shocked it was 3 according to the groom. Like a good friend, I covered for her and have never said a thing to her.

I could tell you 5 similar stories about men exaggerating their numbers in the opposite direction and claiming conquests they didn't make.

Bottom line, if you took all the numbers from males and added them up and all the numbers from females and adding them up, they would not come close to matching.

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Anonymous wrote:For #1 I would assume the objectively good looking wife is frigid as a penguin and that the dad bod conceals a very sizeable...well you get the idea.

So, so true.

Nope! You would be assuming wrong. I was the wife, totally down in bed, and Dad Bod was just average.

But he had a desperate need for attention and lied as easily as he walked. And he was actually intimidated by my "number", which was 10, and wanted to even the score.

Sorry to break up your little fantasy that if you are good in bed or pretty that you won't get cheated on. Jennifer Aniston and Denise Richard's got cheated on.

Wow, 10?? Slut!

Aaaand there we have it- the Virgin/Whore complex.

Some guys want women to totally love sex but to have never actually experienced anything. Its like we cant do anything right.

I made the slut comment. Sorry, I thought it was obvious that I was kidding. I don’t think 10 is a high number.

Anonymous wrote:Ah, the MRA multiply by factor of three because all women are liars line... such rubbish. My number is exactly what I say it is. I don’t typically divulge it to partners, but when I do, I never change it.

I did have an affair and it was actually a very important step in my life. It gave me the last boost in confidence I needed to leave an abusive, terrible relationship. Looking back it was not the safest or smartest thing I ever did, and I should have finished off and left the marriage on my own. I knew I wouldn’t be in a relationship with my AP when I left my marriage... but knowing that I could defy my controling husband even that much was enough for me to see I could leave. My AP was not as good looking. My AP is still a good friend, though we are not lovers anymore.

Sorry he doesn’t want to be with you anymore. Keep your chin up.

Ah, the MRA multiply by factor of three because all women are liars line... such rubbish. My number is exactly what I say it is. I don’t typically divulge it to partners, but when I do, I never change it.

I did have an affair and it was actually a very important step in my life. It gave me the last boost in confidence I needed to leave an abusive, terrible relationship. Looking back it was not the safest or smartest thing I ever did, and I should have finished off and left the marriage on my own. I knew I wouldn’t be in a relationship with my AP when I left my marriage... but knowing that I could defy my controling husband even that much was enough for me to see I could leave. My AP was not as good looking. My AP is still a good friend, though we are not lovers anymore.

Anonymous wrote:I “dated” a married man (didn’t know it at first but that’s a story for another day) who had a dad bod but he just had that certain sexy something and was an absolute tiger in the sack. I couldn’t get enough. (And no, it wasn’t the “off limits” factor because I didn’t know at first, and it was this intense from the get go.)

My ears are burning.

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No, the problem is that most women with a high body count--when they decide it's time to get married--will flat out lie about their previous sexual history. Like the PP you quoted--I have no doubt what actually happened is that she had lied about her "number" prior to the marriage and at some point during the marriage, years later, during a fight, she sought to emasculate her husband by comparing him disfavorably to her long parade of prior lovers (a common female tactic), and coughed up the truth--although it's probably more likely she's still lying and its 30 or 40 not just ten.

Yup, any number a woman tells you, multiply by at least three. She has endless ability to rationalize why most of them "don't count".

The funny thing is that despite all these women who claim to be concerned about being slut-shamed (what a dumb phrase), it's really the women themselves who do the most slut-shaming of other women.

Further, the promiscuous women who lie about it when they want to get married to a beta man are lying precisely because they're ashamed of themselves, yet simultaneously, they can never respect their own husbands viewing them as undesirable chumps (they're only in it for the guy's wallet). They inevitably cheat or find an excuse to throw their promiscuity in their surprised husband's face during a marital crisis and then turn around and blame the husband--just like PP in this thread.

Holy crap go back to your misogynist hole you vile, vile troll.

I'm the women with 10 ex-lovers, and I posted about the Madonna whore complex too. And the number is definitely 10.

So once again, sorry to disabuse you of your hateful notions but I never lied to my ex and he was actually very talented in bed despite a lower number. I would never ever emasculate someone.

I have no idea what happened to make you so hateful. But honestly that much anger is going to eat you up inside and make you I'll. Embrace forgiveness. Move on and be happy. I forgave my ex even though he broke my heart.

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Anonymous wrote:People always affair down.

Unless you are a celebrity.

Tiger woods banged a waitress in a parking lot.

Is waitress down from nanny?

People need to grow up on this board.

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No, the problem is that most women with a high body count--when they decide it's time to get married--will flat out lie about their previous sexual history. Like the PP you quoted--I have no doubt what actually happened is that she had lied about her "number" prior to the marriage and at some point during the marriage, years later, during a fight, she sought to emasculate her husband by comparing him disfavorably to her long parade of prior lovers (a common female tactic), and coughed up the truth--although it's probably more likely she's still lying and its 30 or 40 not just ten.

Yup, any number a woman tells you, multiply by at least three. She has endless ability to rationalize why most of them "don't count".

The funny thing is that despite all these women who claim to be concerned about being slut-shamed (what a dumb phrase), it's really the women themselves who do the most slut-shaming of other women.

Further, the promiscuous women who lie about it when they want to get married to a beta man are lying precisely because they're ashamed of themselves, yet simultaneously, they can never respect their own husbands viewing them as undesirable chumps (they're only in it for the guy's wallet). They inevitably cheat or find an excuse to throw their promiscuity in their surprised husband's face during a marital crisis and then turn around and blame the husband--just like PP in this thread.

No matter who cheats my first thought is, "what a scumbag". It's too easy to either fix the relationship, or end it amiably. If there are kids double douche bag X's 10.

No, the problem is that most women with a high body count--when they decide it's time to get married--will flat out lie about their previous sexual history. Like the PP you quoted--I have no doubt what actually happened is that she had lied about her "number" prior to the marriage and at some point during the marriage, years later, during a fight, she sought to emasculate her husband by comparing him disfavorably to her long parade of prior lovers (a common female tactic), and coughed up the truth--although it's probably more likely she's still lying and its 30 or 40 not just ten.

Yup, any number a woman tells you, multiply by at least three. She has endless ability to rationalize why most of them "don't count".

I have a dad bod. I didn't cheat while I was married, but I got my fair share of advances.

On the other hand, I was unknowingly the AP with a woman whom I didn't think was all that attractive physically, but she was extremely fun to be around. We started hanging out, and one thing led to another. Then I found out she was married and cut her off.

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Anonymous wrote:For #1 I would assume the objectively good looking wife is frigid as a penguin and that the dad bod conceals a very sizeable...well you get the idea.

So, so true.

Nope! You would be assuming wrong. I was the wife, totally down in bed, and Dad Bod was just average.

But he had a desperate need for attention and lied as easily as he walked. And he was actually intimidated by my "number", which was 10, and wanted to even the score.

Sorry to break up your little fantasy that if you are good in bed or pretty that you won't get cheated on. Jennifer Aniston and Denise Richard's got cheated on.

Wow, 10?? Slut!

Aaaand there we have it- the Virgin/Whore complex.

Some guys want women to totally love sex but to have never actually experienced anything. Its like we cant do anything right.

No, the problem is that most women with a high body count--when they decide it's time to get married--will flat out lie about their previous sexual history. Like the PP you quoted--I have no doubt what actually happened is that she had lied about her "number" prior to the marriage and at some point during the marriage, years later, during a fight, she sought to emasculate her husband by comparing him disfavorably to her long parade of prior lovers (a common female tactic), and coughed up the truth--although it's probably more likely she's still lying and its 30 or 40 not just ten.

If other PP's husband was that good of a liar he'd have no need to have evened the score since he would have out-notched her anyway. Promiscuous women who lie about their number prior to marriage are all too likely to lie about a lot of other stuff, too.

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Anonymous wrote:For #1 I would assume the objectively good looking wife is frigid as a penguin and that the dad bod conceals a very sizeable...well you get the idea.

So, so true.

Nope! You would be assuming wrong. I was the wife, totally down in bed, and Dad Bod was just average.

But he had a desperate need for attention and lied as easily as he walked. And he was actually intimidated by my "number", which was 10, and wanted to even the score.

Sorry to break up your little fantasy that if you are good in bed or pretty that you won't get cheated on. Jennifer Aniston and Denise Richard's got cheated on.

Wow, 10?? Slut!

Aaaand there we have it- the Virgin/Whore complex.

Some guys want women to totally love sex but to have never actually experienced anything. Its like we cant do anything right.

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Anonymous wrote:For #1 I would assume the objectively good looking wife is frigid as a penguin and that the dad bod conceals a very sizeable...well you get the idea.

So, so true.

Nope! You would be assuming wrong. I was the wife, totally down in bed, and Dad Bod was just average.

But he had a desperate need for attention and lied as easily as he walked. And he was actually intimidated by my "number", which was 10, and wanted to even the score.

Sorry to break up your little fantasy that if you are good in bed or pretty that you won't get cheated on. Jennifer Aniston and Denise Richard's got cheated on.

He was tired of your constant nagging and telling him what he's doing wrong, just because it wasn't done your way.

That's why I have an AP. Someone I can talk to and have fun with. Half the times we meet, and we don't even have sex.

Whatever, dude. I'm actually a really nice person and he was more picky about cleaning than I was.