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Anonymous wrote:He must have turned “30” and whoever he was dring at that exact point in time, or hung around for years until he aged, gets the ring.
It’s what he told himself years ago. Silly, but true.

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This is exactly what happens with guys. They sometimes make some head scratching choices because they are a certain age and decide it’s time to get married.

Yep, or it’s that they are last of their buddies to get married.

Not so fast. My ex love dated for about four years after we broke up and then married an absolutely lovely woman, who is nothing like me, and has been with her for many years.

Why do you care? He clearly didn't love you. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't love you?

this happened to me with 4 guys... i've been married now 8 years to my husband with 2 kids and love him more than the other guys combined (even though I hate him half the time too)

hang in there and stop following him on social media.

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry OP. In spite of what others say, this guy is very much in the wrong for dragging you along while clearly knowing you were not the one for him. I am not against living together before marriage - I lived with my husband for 4 years before he proposed, and we even bought a house - but we were always on the same page about the relationship, and were ready for the next step around the same time. I think that’s the key... if one person is ready for the next step and the other person is not, and can’t provide a timeline for when they might be ready or what it’s going to take to be ready (e.g. they are in grad school and are waiting to graduate and find employment), it’s going to end badly.

Op is not a child. She was not held hostage. She knew he didn’t want to marry and could have left.

I’m sorry OP. In spite of what others say, this guy is very much in the wrong for dragging you along while clearly knowing you were not the one for him. I am not against living together before marriage - I lived with my husband for 4 years before he proposed, and we even bought a house - but we were always on the same page about the relationship, and were ready for the next step around the same time. I think that’s the key... if one person is ready for the next step and the other person is not, and can’t provide a timeline for when they might be ready or what it’s going to take to be ready (e.g. they are in grad school and are waiting to graduate and find employment), it’s going to end badly.

Stop torturing (and comparing) yourself. Block him.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He must have turned “30” and whoever he was dring at that exact point in time, or hung around for years until he aged, gets the ring.
It’s what he told himself years ago. Silly, but true.

X10000

This is exactly what happens with guys. They sometimes make some head scratching choices because they are a certain age and decide it’s time to get married.

Yep, or it’s that they are last of their buddies to get married.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He must have turned “30” and whoever he was dring at that exact point in time, or hung around for years until he aged, gets the ring.
It’s what he told himself years ago. Silly, but true.

X10000

This is exactly what happens with guys. They sometimes make some head scratching choices because they are a certain age and decide it’s time to get married.

This happened to me with all three guys I’ve been in love with. It sucks! And the women were all nothing special in the looks department. You wonder what the hell they have that you don’t. But eventually you will realize that they weren’t right for you and you will move on. Don’t settle for anyone who isn’t truly into you.

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Anonymous wrote:Princess Beatrice. Dated a guy for 10 years. They broke up and he was engaged the next year.

Do you have friends? Real life experience with love and relationships? People you actually know? It’s quite sad that a grown woman’s only contribution to relationship threads involve celebrities.

That's pretty harsh. I'm not the Beatrice poster, but why would you find that sad? Nothing wrong with pointing out that someone well known has been in a situation like OP's. And it doesn't mean that that poster doesn't have friends.

Most people get over their celebrity obsession by 14 because it’s in fact useless.

Stop forgetting to take your meds, calm down, try to spend less time on this forum that does you no good, try to spend more time with real people.

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Anonymous wrote:Princess Beatrice. Dated a guy for 10 years. They broke up and he was engaged the next year.

Do you have friends? Real life experience with love and relationships? People you actually know? It’s quite sad that a grown woman’s only contribution to relationship threads involve celebrities.

That's pretty harsh. I'm not the Beatrice poster, but why would you find that sad? Nothing wrong with pointing out that someone well known has been in a situation like OP's. And it doesn't mean that that poster doesn't have friends.

Most people get over their celebrity obsession by 14 because it’s in fact useless.

Anonymous wrote:Op, men get scared as they get older, and marry the next one that comes along after the LTR.

Haha. The lies women tell themselves and each other.

Op, men get scared as they get older, and marry the next one that comes along after the LTR.

Anonymous wrote:He must have turned “30” and whoever he was dring at that exact point in time, or hung around for years until he aged, gets the ring.
It’s what he told himself years ago. Silly, but true.

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I was in your shoes more then I can count

For 5 guys next girlfriend was the one they married

I knew it because I snooped around

Now I’m married and expecting our first child
And my husband is someone I would have never imagine being with but only could have dreamed of being with.
It’s surreal but he came at the right time and I love him more than words could describe. He’s my best friend and all those roads I kissed before him came when they did for a reason and yes it hurt and some men took me a while to get over-like years BUT now for how things have been and whom my husband is, I adore him so much- I wouldn’t change a thing. Your time will come too! Just love yourself and know if they break up, it wasn’t meant to be and when it’s your time-you will be glad things worked out the way they did. Chin up buttercup!