Anonymous wrote:This is making things too complicated. Give MIL the futon room right away. Who wants to change rooms for a few nights? When uncle and aunt leave, ask her then if she would rather move to the room they used.

If this is truly too complicated for you, you have the mental capacity of a gerbil. FFS, people.

Anonymous wrote:You should give the usual futon room to MIL and have the baby room with you rather than making her move TWICE. I would be miffed too if I had to play musical chairs when I just want to settle in one room for the visit.

If rooming with baby is going to cause disruptions in sleep to the parents, this isn’t a good plan. MIL can switch a room - I mean it’s moving a small suitcase. No big deal.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get why your MIL can’t have the guest room the entire time. It’s so weird to prioritize the “married couple” having the “proper bed.” Are you a Baptist? Is this the 50s?

The guest bed is larger than the futon.

Tell her she can move from guest room to futon room or just stay in the futon room the whole time.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get why your MIL can’t have the guest room the entire time. It’s so weird to prioritize the “married couple” having the “proper bed.” Are you a Baptist? Is this the 50s?

I don't get this either. Being married or being a man means you should get the better bedroom or bed?
MIL stays in the guest room, aunt and uncle use the futon while visiting for a few days.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t get why your MIL can’t have the guest room the entire time. It’s so weird to prioritize the “married couple” having the “proper bed.” Are you a Baptist? Is this the 50s?

No one is more important than a nuclear family in the nuclear family's own home. Mom, Dad, and baby should enjoy the best possible holiday. Guests should enhance, not make life harder, when it comes to parents with small children.

If the guests accommodations aren't suitable to you, stay in a hotel. Life is pretty simple.

You misunderstand me, I’m not saying that OP should give up her bed. I don’t know why the aunt and uncle must have the guest room.

Reading OP's responses, she doesn't sound like a very nice person. I feel sorry for her baby. That kid is going to have a tough life.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get why your MIL can’t have the guest room the entire time. It’s so weird to prioritize the “married couple” having the “proper bed.” Are you a Baptist? Is this the 50s?

Maybe the futon isn't big enough to sleep two people?

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Anonymous wrote:In our family we show our respect to our elders by giving them the best we have to offer. Sure the MIL and aunt/uncle are welcome to stay at a hotel if they want but I think my husband and I would be offended if our best wasn't good enough for them. There is no way on God's green earth that my husband or I would sleep in a bed and let a guest sleep on a crappy futon in the baby's room no less let alone move a guest twice. Manners, people, manners.

Our guest room is just as good as our master bedroom. We've never had to give up the master bedroom for guests. We also don't cram people into sleeping arrangements that simply don't work. We know when to bring hotels into the mix, both as hosts and guests.

Your futon is as good as your master bed? Really??? That is one heck of a futon. Can you tell me the brand? I'd like to check it out.

Hi there. Not every poster is the OP, sweetie. And not all of us have futons in our guests room. Some of us have real beds!

Come on over and check out our guest room. It has a king bed and an en suite bathroom. Enjoy!

Well, bless your heart. But since you were responding to a post about the futon you can understand the confusion about your own post lauding your much different set-up. Reading comprehension isn't your thing, is it!?! I'm glad you have a king bed and en suite for your guest bedroom. OP doesn't. She has a futon.

OP and her husband should sleep on the futon and give the visiting aunt/uncle the MBR for the two days they'll be in town. The MIL should have the guest bedroom the entire time. No elders should be sleeping on/in accommodates less good than that of the hosts.

Keep up with the thread, darling. Do try. Anyone who actually *reads the thread* knows when the OP is posting. The More You Know!

And no, the parents of a small child should not have yet more difficult nights by sleeping on a futon. If the guests aren't happy with the arrangements, they should look into the nearest hotel.

How about all these "elders" could either pay for a hotel--like civilized adults--or host their own adult holiday and visit OP's family another time?

I mean, honestly--my aunt and uncle would never rely on my hospitality, with no reciprocation, for year after year after year, especially with a baby in the house.

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Anonymous wrote:In our family we show our respect to our elders by giving them the best we have to offer. Sure the MIL and aunt/uncle are welcome to stay at a hotel if they want but I think my husband and I would be offended if our best wasn't good enough for them. There is no way on God's green earth that my husband or I would sleep in a bed and let a guest sleep on a crappy futon in the baby's room no less let alone move a guest twice. Manners, people, manners.

Our guest room is just as good as our master bedroom. We've never had to give up the master bedroom for guests. We also don't cram people into sleeping arrangements that simply don't work. We know when to bring hotels into the mix, both as hosts and guests.

Your futon is as good as your master bed? Really??? That is one heck of a futon. Can you tell me the brand? I'd like to check it out.

Hi there. Not every poster is the OP, sweetie. And not all of us have futons in our guests room. Some of us have real beds!

Come on over and check out our guest room. It has a king bed and an en suite bathroom. Enjoy!

Well, bless your heart. But since you were responding to a post about the futon you can understand the confusion about your own post lauding your much different set-up. Reading comprehension isn't your thing, is it!?! I'm glad you have a king bed and en suite for your guest bedroom. OP doesn't. She has a futon.

OP and her husband should sleep on the futon and give the visiting aunt/uncle the MBR for the two days they'll be in town. The MIL should have the guest bedroom the entire time. No elders should be sleeping on/in accommodates less good than that of the hosts.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get why your MIL can’t have the guest room the entire time. It’s so weird to prioritize the “married couple” having the “proper bed.” Are you a Baptist? Is this the 50s?

No one is more important than a nuclear family in the nuclear family's own home. Mom, Dad, and baby should enjoy the best possible holiday. Guests should enhance, not make life harder, when it comes to parents with small children.

If the guests accommodations aren't suitable to you, stay in a hotel. Life is pretty simple.

I don’t get why your MIL can’t have the guest room the entire time. It’s so weird to prioritize the “married couple” having the “proper bed.” Are you a Baptist? Is this the 50s?

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Anonymous wrote:In our family we show our respect to our elders by giving them the best we have to offer. Sure the MIL and aunt/uncle are welcome to stay at a hotel if they want but I think my husband and I would be offended if our best wasn't good enough for them. There is no way on God's green earth that my husband or I would sleep in a bed and let a guest sleep on a crappy futon in the baby's room no less let alone move a guest twice. Manners, people, manners.

Our guest room is just as good as our master bedroom. We've never had to give up the master bedroom for guests. We also don't cram people into sleeping arrangements that simply don't work. We know when to bring hotels into the mix, both as hosts and guests.

Your futon is as good as your master bed? Really??? That is one heck of a futon. Can you tell me the brand? I'd like to check it out.

Hi there. Not every poster is the OP, sweetie. And not all of us have futons in our guests room. Some of us have real beds!

Come on over and check out our guest room. It has a king bed and an en suite bathroom. Enjoy!

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Anonymous wrote:In our family we show our respect to our elders by giving them the best we have to offer. Sure the MIL and aunt/uncle are welcome to stay at a hotel if they want but I think my husband and I would be offended if our best wasn't good enough for them. There is no way on God's green earth that my husband or I would sleep in a bed and let a guest sleep on a crappy futon in the baby's room no less let alone move a guest twice. Manners, people, manners.

Our guest room is just as good as our master bedroom. We've never had to give up the master bedroom for guests. We also don't cram people into sleeping arrangements that simply don't work. We know when to bring hotels into the mix, both as hosts and guests.

Your futon is as good as your master bed? Really??? That is one heck of a futon. Can you tell me the brand? I'd like to check it out.

Anonymous wrote:In our family we show our respect to our elders by giving them the best we have to offer. Sure the MIL and aunt/uncle are welcome to stay at a hotel if they want but I think my husband and I would be offended if our best wasn't good enough for them. There is no way on God's green earth that my husband or I would sleep in a bed and let a guest sleep on a crappy futon in the baby's room no less let alone move a guest twice. Manners, people, manners.

Our guest room is just as good as our master bedroom. We've never had to give up the master bedroom for guests. We also don't cram people into sleeping arrangements that simply don't work. We know when to bring hotels into the mix, both as hosts and guests.