taketothebank
Post 01/18/2019 15:58     Subject: Re:Tell Me About Your Post-50 Post-Divorce Experience
I'm looking for the same thing - love and sex, in that order. I want someone to love me, and yes, I still believe it's possible at any age. I'm 53, and I know there is someone out there who will love me.


You are braver than I am.

I was married for 25 years and I am not sure I am actually looking for love this time around. I am looking for good sex (by good I mean adventurous, uninhibited, and plentiful) and excellent companionship (by that I mean a lady that likes to have fun traveling, going to dinner, talking) and I am happy when I find someone one who is looking for the same thing. An evening like going to dinner, coming home and having sex on the back deck or in the backyard (when it is dark enough that no one will call the cops) and then watching a movie is, to me, a great evening (and a true benefit from not having kids in the house anymore)

And I believe that, yes, there is likely someone out there who will love you.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2019 13:05     Subject: Re:Tell Me About Your Post-50 Post-Divorce Experience
taketothebank wrote:
Companionship is a word meaning “you pick up my underwear and wash it” to most men.

No, thanks. Just the sex thanks.


Wow. The last person who picked up my underwear and washed it was my mom and I started having to put my dirty clothes (inclulding underwear) in the laundry room around the time I started school. Started helping with the wash when I got older. Mom worked and did not have time for sons who did not pull their own weight. Now, I have a cleaning crew that comes in once a week and they do a great job with the laundry (I still put my dirty clothes in the laundry room.)

Sounds like you have been hanging around the wrong "most men." I love sex and I also love the companionship of a bright, courteous lady at dinner, on vacation, at a party, and many other places. I think I can have sex with her and still enjoy her companionship afterward.


I'm looking for the same thing - love and sex, in that order. I want someone to love me, and yes, I still believe it's possible at any age. I'm 53, and I know there is someone out there who will love me.
Anonymous
Post 01/18/2019 09:46     Subject: Re:Tell Me About Your Post-50 Post-Divorce Experience
Anonymous wrote:Late 60s M here. Most on line dating turned out Ok. Two real crazies, one superb woman and the rest were nice ladies who were just not for me. One of the crazies was younger by 20 years or so while the rest were in my age range. The superb lady, after some passionate kisses (really could have fallen for her), let me know after discovering that I was conservative that she couldn’t continue seeing me. While disappointing it was probably best not to give your heart to someone incompatible (although she was just simply lovely). Several decades ago I would have tried to convince her to reconsider, now-a-days...No.

Now I’m trying mixers for folks in my age range. One this week. Will allow for face to face contact. I’ll see how that turns out and post it here if folks are interested.


Does your still work?
taketothebank
Post 01/17/2019 19:48     Subject: Re:Tell Me About Your Post-50 Post-Divorce Experience
Companionship is a word meaning “you pick up my underwear and wash it” to most men.

No, thanks. Just the sex thanks.


Wow. The last person who picked up my underwear and washed it was my mom and I started having to put my dirty clothes (inclulding underwear) in the laundry room around the time I started school. Started helping with the wash when I got older. Mom worked and did not have time for sons who did not pull their own weight. Now, I have a cleaning crew that comes in once a week and they do a great job with the laundry (I still put my dirty clothes in the laundry room.)

Sounds like you have been hanging around the wrong "most men." I love sex and I also love the companionship of a bright, courteous lady at dinner, on vacation, at a party, and many other places. I think I can have sex with her and still enjoy her companionship afterward.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2019 19:37     Subject: Re:Tell Me About Your Post-50 Post-Divorce Experience
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Of course they do! They have a end goal, just like like when they we're in their 20s and 30s
.

What is the end goal? I feel like many of the women I date who are over 50 are not focused on finding someone to marry or have as a long term partner and are happy with a FWB relationship.

Specifically, they are happy with a lover and do want him for anything more.


I agree. Recently divorced 49 year old. I have no desire to take care of a man.



And you’d have to have a lot to recommend you before I signed up to be ‘cared for’ !
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2019 08:55     Subject: Tell Me About Your Post-50 Post-Divorce Experience
The menopause switch kicks off really quickly as vaginal atrophy and loss of libido starts. The rise in sex, only in your early 50s, completely collapses by your late 50s. I call it the "last hurrah." The first thing I noticed when Hillary was dumb enough to publish her drug list, was no Vagifem or topical estrogen. I immediately thought, oh her sex life is over too.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2019 08:06     Subject: Re:Tell Me About Your Post-50 Post-Divorce Experience
Companionship is a word meaning “you pick up my underwear and wash it” to most men.

No, thanks. Just the sex thanks.
Anonymous
Post 01/17/2019 06:40     Subject: Re:Tell Me About Your Post-50 Post-Divorce Experience
taketothebank wrote:
Specifically, they are happy with a lover and do want him for anything more.

I agree. Recently divorced 49 year old. I have no desire to take care of a man
.

Speaking as a 55 year old man, I do not need anyone to take care of me other than sex and companionship.




I don’t even need the companionship— the sex though will do nicely.
taketothebank
Post 01/15/2019 16:39     Subject: Re:Tell Me About Your Post-50 Post-Divorce Experience
Specifically, they are happy with a lover and do want him for anything more.

I agree. Recently divorced 49 year old. I have no desire to take care of a man
.

Speaking as a 55 year old man, I do not need anyone to take care of me other than sex and companionship.
Anonymous
Post 01/13/2019 09:32     Subject: Re:Tell Me About Your Post-50 Post-Divorce Experience
Anonymous wrote:Over weekend had amazing sex, blowjob with climax, PIV,

Life after divorce is amazing

Don’t know why, but women seem to have a switch that gets turned on when they are single and in their 50’s


Oh there’s a post-menopausal switch alright.
Anonymous
Post 01/13/2019 06:15     Subject: Re:Tell Me About Your Post-50 Post-Divorce Experience
Anonymous wrote:
Of course they do! They have a end goal, just like like when they we're in their 20s and 30s
.

What is the end goal? I feel like many of the women I date who are over 50 are not focused on finding someone to marry or have as a long term partner and are happy with a FWB relationship.

Specifically, they are happy with a lover and do want him for anything more.


I agree. Recently divorced 49 year old. I have no desire to take care of a man.
Anonymous
Post 01/12/2019 08:16     Subject: Re:Tell Me About Your Post-50 Post-Divorce Experience
Anonymous wrote:
Of course they do! They have a end goal, just like like when they we're in their 20s and 30s
.

What is the end goal? I feel like many of the women I date who are over 50 are not focused on finding someone to marry or have as a long term partner and are happy with a FWB relationship.

Specifically, they are happy with a lover and do want him for anything more.


Guy: What is wrong with that ? Why would you want to get married again? At this age unless you have something to offer ( $$) they aren’t interested.
Go enjoy yourself !
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2019 11:44     Subject: Re:Tell Me About Your Post-50 Post-Divorce Experience
Of course they do! They have a end goal, just like like when they we're in their 20s and 30s
.

What is the end goal? I feel like many of the women I date who are over 50 are not focused on finding someone to marry or have as a long term partner and are happy with a FWB relationship.

Specifically, they are happy with a lover and do want him for anything more.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2019 12:57     Subject: Re:Tell Me About Your Post-50 Post-Divorce Experience
Anonymous wrote:Over weekend had amazing sex, blowjob with climax, PIV,

Life after divorce is amazing

Don’t know why, but women seem to have a switch that gets turned on when they are single and in their 50’s


Of course they do! They have a end goal, just like like when they we're in their 20s and 30s.

Remember everyone is on their best behavior in the beginning!
Anonymous
Post 01/07/2019 18:14     Subject: Re:Tell Me About Your Post-50 Post-Divorce Experience
Over weekend had amazing sex, blowjob with climax, PIV,

Life after divorce is amazing

Don’t know why, but women seem to have a switch that gets turned on when they are single and in their 50’s