Our DD would go to my sister. Trust managed by BIL (married to another sister). Should sister not be able to, DD goes to our best friends. Both sisters know this and are good with it. DH’s brother and my brother are cut out.

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Anonymous wrote:OK, maybe we do need to get a will. New question though, if no changes are made, does our will last forever till we die?

Yes, which is why ideally you would pull it out and review it every 5yrs or so. Perhaps by that point you'd want to change who you appointed guardian and executor of the trust for your girls. Perhaps you want to change the disbursement schedule. A whole host of reasons.

Those are great advice! thank you!

And to the one who think I am irresponsible, I don't think I am, I didn't grow up in this country, so the idea of "will" at such early age is very foreign to me. That is all. I am posting on the internet because I know people will give me nice advice.

Another reason to get a will is that it's a big pain in the neck for your surviving relatives to take care of your estate. My MIL died with a will but one where for some reason there was no witness signature so my dh had to take it through probate. It was a huge drag and it would have been so much faster if the will had been signed properly.

We did a her and his will and POA. Essentially naming the other person and then my sibling and then his sibling as backups. Very very basic. $600.

We chose my sister to raise our child. She wasn't great with money but has gotten better. Because of that we've chosen my brother to control the $$. He will follow our wishes to a T (just his personality).

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Anonymous wrote:We don't have a will. My DH is an attorney. We can't agree on many things regarding the kids. So we don't have one. It's bad, but I will not sign a will if I don't agree with it and neither will he. We are in complete disagreement.

We don't do vacations. I will not go anywhere with him without kids in case something happens and we don't have a will. Can't risk both of us dying at the same time.

You do realize that you each get your own will? You can write your will any way you want. You can set up trusts for your kids that will bypass your husband's will. A good lawyer can help you figure this out.

FWIW, my parents were killed in a car accident that happened a block from their house. The risk is low, but not taking vacations doesn't solve your problem.

Yes, I am aware we can each have our own will. That seems pretty pointless though because if something happens to one of us, the other will get the kids and everything.
If something happens to both of us...that is the problem.

And about what you wrote...I am sorry about your parents. I am never in the same car with my husband without the kids. Not ever. No vacations. No date nights. We are never alone together in a position for something to happen.