He has anxiety & a chronic disease & the fact that he will graduate with a B average instead of an A one is what you are worried about??? No wonder so many young adults have issues these days...

Anonymous wrote:I try to tell myself it’s actually quite good. He has some LDs, and ADHD, as well as anxiety and a chronic disease. He’s at a rigorous private that we’ve always told him he could leave, but he doesn’t want to largely due to sports and social reasons. He’s a Junior and standardized tests are ok, not great. He’s bright, but traditional academics and settings are hard for him. He’ll be fine, right?

With LD's and a chronic illness on top of ADHD and anxiety. Sounds like he's doing great.

OP, when applying to college, have him apply widely. You will want him to have choices. He should have "safety" school choices as well as target choices. It may come down to a rather last minute intuitive feel -from him- for where he will likely be most successful - it won't be because the school looks good on paper.

There has got to be some serious grade inflation going on in this country.

Yes and yes.

(Yes I would be okay with it and yes he'll be fine. Be sure to tell him how proud you are of him).

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Anonymous wrote:Even if you’re not ok with it, what exactly are you going to do about it? Your kid’s not that bright. Oh well.

You don’t have to be mean, it’s natural for a mother to worry.
FWIW I was a straight A student and my DH barely B student. He out earns me by more x2.

Is this really your measure of success? $$?

NP. My DH failed classes and went to summer school and I was a straight A student. He went to community college first and then a small college where he took extra years to graduate. I met him in his late 20s after he graduated. 20 years later he makes 4x my salary, but more importantly, loves his career. I also love my career but I earn a much lower salary. We are happy, have a great family, love our neighborhood and don’t stress about finances. That’s my measure of success. No one cares what we earned in high school or which colleges we attended.

OP, work on privately getting fine with it.

By your measure, he seems to be a well-adjusted kid, doing well enough in his classes but with some stuff that makes academic excellence harder. So be proud that someone with his challenges has pulled off what he pulled off.

There are plenty of colleges out there for him where he can continue to work hard, learn, and excel in his way.

I cannot believe this is a serious question. What is wrong with a B student?

I've got a B/C student. He has some challenges (ADHD and some processing issues). He works hard and pushes himself. I'm proud as hell of him. He may never be an A student and I'm 100% OK with that, as long as he keeps working hard, pushing himself, and growing. That's way more important than some letter grade.

I hope that your extremely high expectations aren't contributing to your kids' anxiety. Sometimes this happens and we don't even realize it.

Anonymous wrote:B student is good, still above average. I graduated HS with a D average. I was a mess. I did great in community college (4.0 GPA) and transferred to a university (3.7 GPA)

Good for you, PP. I was a B/C student in high school. While in high I got a few DS and maybe an F here and there. It’s been a while so my memory is a bit fuzzy. I got into a good college by the skin of my teeth. I blossomed in late sophomore/early junior year. Finished with a high GPA and got into a top law school. I’m a successful in-house lawyer making mid-six figures. OP, your B student will do just fine. I knew my strengths and played to those. Your DS will figure that out too.

Anonymous wrote:Oh good Lord. Remember when we were kids, and there was an actual spectrum of achievement, and a B was a solid, decent grade?

We have become monsters. Half the As these kids get are artificially pumped up with extra credit or by teachers who just skim over assignments rather than actually critique them. I'll bet your kid is fine. Enjoy him.

I'm the 32 yo PP. I'll never forget my junior year English teacher. He subscribed to the idea that C was average, B was good, and A was exceptional. It did not take him long to realize that at our school, a C was equivalent to an F. Kids had actual breakdowns in his class. So unhealthy

Oh good Lord. Remember when we were kids, and there was an actual spectrum of achievement, and a B was a solid, decent grade?

We have become monsters. Half the As these kids get are artificially pumped up with extra credit or by teachers who just skim over assignments rather than actually critique them. I'll bet your kid is fine. Enjoy him.

He will be fine. I was a B student and went to a good college and graduated a B student (with a couple of C's). I'm 32. I have a job I love, a great family, and a great life.

I went to a very competitive high school. The pressure was insane and I saw so many of my peers struggle under the expectations of their parents. Its not always worth it.

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Anonymous wrote:He will be perfectly fine. The valedictorian of my high school class is now a HS History teacher and many kids who were B students are Doctors or have PhDs in the sciences.

If he is a hard worker and motivated in college he will do fine.

Please elaborate on what you mean by this.

They are all equally successful.

Anonymous wrote:He will be perfectly fine. The valedictorian of my high school class is now a HS History teacher and many kids who were B students are Doctors or have PhDs in the sciences.

If he is a hard worker and motivated in college he will do fine.

Please elaborate on what you mean by this.

He will be perfectly fine. The valedictorian of my high school class is now a HS History teacher and many kids who were B students are Doctors or have PhDs in the sciences.

If he is a hard worker and motivated in college he will do fine.