Anonymous
Post 11/25/2018 21:28     Subject: Re:Unfair monetary treatment between me and step-siblings?
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Anonymous wrote:But OP...it's your stepdad's money. So why do you feel so entitled?

I don’t, but I’d be lying if I said it didn’t bother me a little, or that I wasn’t a little bit jealous.
Our kids are treated nicely, but are by no means spoiled. I wouldn’t want them to be!

Well, does the total spent on your family seem comparable to the the total spent on their single person families?

OP?

I’m confused by what you’re asking exactly.


$1000 macs for your sisters.

$75.00 gift card for you + $75.00 gift card for your husband + $800.00 is in toys for your kids?

Gotcha. No, $1000 computers for them, $75 gift card for DH and me together, maybe $50-$75 for each kid.

To clarify, 2 kids.

So $75+$75+$75=$225 vs $2000+


It would be $225.00 vs $1000.00.

Each of those sisters are their own family units. Their gifts are each a separate family pot.
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2018 21:27     Subject: Unfair monetary treatment between me and step-siblings?
I get it, OP. They can buy whatever kinds of gifts they want for whoever they want, but good taste does suggest your mom not discuss it.

Just stop spending so much on them since it is causing you pain. Just make family calendars or photo books.
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2018 21:25     Subject: Unfair monetary treatment between me and step-siblings?
Where is your father OP?
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2018 21:23     Subject: Unfair monetary treatment between me and step-siblings?
Anonymous wrote:Yeah, blended families suck. This is on your mom.


I would talk to mom before your step sisters marry and have kids.

If you think it stings now, wait until you see that kind of disparity between the grandkids.
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2018 21:20     Subject: Unfair monetary treatment between me and step-siblings?
Well.... I’d honestly be concerned for your mothers finances. Men like that don’t tend to take care of non-parental spouses, only their children. She will be high and dry when he is gone.
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2018 21:10     Subject: Unfair monetary treatment between me and step-siblings?
Yeah, blended families suck. This is on your mom.
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2018 21:10     Subject: Re:Unfair monetary treatment between me and step-siblings?
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:But OP...it's your stepdad's money. So why do you feel so entitled?

I don’t, but I’d be lying if I said it didn’t bother me a little, or that I wasn’t a little bit jealous.
Our kids are treated nicely, but are by no means spoiled. I wouldn’t want them to be!

Well, does the total spent on your family seem comparable to the the total spent on their single person families?

OP?

I’m confused by what you’re asking exactly.


$1000 macs for your sisters.

$75.00 gift card for you + $75.00 gift card for your husband + $800.00 is in toys for your kids?

Gotcha. No, $1000 computers for them, $75 gift card for DH and me together, maybe $50-$75 for each kid.

To clarify, 2 kids.

So $75+$75+$75=$225 vs $2000+
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2018 21:08     Subject: Re:Unfair monetary treatment between me and step-siblings?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:But OP...it's your stepdad's money. So why do you feel so entitled?

I don’t, but I’d be lying if I said it didn’t bother me a little, or that I wasn’t a little bit jealous.
Our kids are treated nicely, but are by no means spoiled. I wouldn’t want them to be!

Well, does the total spent on your family seem comparable to the the total spent on their single person families?

OP?

I’m confused by what you’re asking exactly.


$1000 macs for your sisters.

$75.00 gift card for you + $75.00 gift card for your husband + $800.00 is in toys for your kids?

Gotcha. No, $1000 computers for them, $75 gift card for DH and me together, maybe $50-$75 for each kid.
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2018 21:07     Subject: Unfair monetary treatment between me and step-siblings?
It should say $100.00 3DS
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2018 21:06     Subject: Re:Unfair monetary treatment between me and step-siblings?
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:But OP...it's your stepdad's money. So why do you feel so entitled?

I don’t, but I’d be lying if I said it didn’t bother me a little, or that I wasn’t a little bit jealous.
Our kids are treated nicely, but are by no means spoiled. I wouldn’t want them to be!

Well, does the total spent on your family seem comparable to the the total spent on their single person families?

OP?

I’m confused by what you’re asking exactly.


$1000 macs for your sisters.

$75.00 gift card for you + $75.00 gift card for your husband + $800.00 is in toys for your kids?


Vs $75.00 gift card for you and husband to share, $100.00 AG doll for Larla, $90.00 3DS for Larlo = $275.00 spent on your family compared to $1000.00 for each step sister (they are each a family of 1).
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2018 21:04     Subject: Re:Unfair monetary treatment between me and step-siblings?
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:But OP...it's your stepdad's money. So why do you feel so entitled?

I don’t, but I’d be lying if I said it didn’t bother me a little, or that I wasn’t a little bit jealous.
Our kids are treated nicely, but are by no means spoiled. I wouldn’t want them to be!

Well, does the total spent on your family seem comparable to the the total spent on their single person families?

OP?

I’m confused by what you’re asking exactly.


$1000 macs for your sisters.

$75.00 gift card for you + $75.00 gift card for your husband + $800.00 is in toys for your kids?
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2018 20:59     Subject: Re:Unfair monetary treatment between me and step-siblings?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:But OP...it's your stepdad's money. So why do you feel so entitled?

I don’t, but I’d be lying if I said it didn’t bother me a little, or that I wasn’t a little bit jealous.
Our kids are treated nicely, but are by no means spoiled. I wouldn’t want them to be!

Well, does the total spent on your family seem comparable to the the total spent on their single person families?

OP?

I’m confused by what you’re asking exactly.
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2018 20:52     Subject: Re:Unfair monetary treatment between me and step-siblings?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:But OP...it's your stepdad's money. So why do you feel so entitled?

I don’t, but I’d be lying if I said it didn’t bother me a little, or that I wasn’t a little bit jealous.
Our kids are treated nicely, but are by no means spoiled. I wouldn’t want them to be!

Well, does the total spent on your family seem comparable to the the total spent on their single person families?

OP?
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2018 20:47     Subject: Unfair monetary treatment between me and step-siblings?
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Anonymous wrote:I think your mom is being rude.

This. And to the naysayers, can you even imagine sitting there on Christmas, opening your $75 gift card as you watch BOTH your step siblings opening $1000+ presents, and your own mom being happy about that? How would YOU feel? You’d honestly feel ok and not the least bit hurt?


But what would be the point of getting the OP a $1000 gift just for the sake of appearances? Her stepdad doesn't sound involved in her life and he isnt under any obligation to get her anything. She doesnt sound like she has contributed anything to her mom and stepdad beyond gifting in the past. It sounds like she only did so hoping to get the kind of gifts that her stepsisters are getting. She's taking it personally when she shouldn't. If her mom was paying for these gifts, then I say it's ok to feel resentful. But why should OP's mom harrass her DH to get a Macbook for a daughter she happens to have and isnt his????


There is nothing wrong with OP being upset.

Mom should not be bragging to her about the expensive gifts and trips, and definitely should not rub salt in the wound by asking her to help pick out more gifts for them.
Anonymous
Post 11/25/2018 20:46     Subject: Unfair monetary treatment between me and step-siblings?
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Anonymous wrote:It’s one thing when your mom and stepdad are equal earners, but especially when you acknowledge that it’s his money.... I’m not sure what you were expecting. You’re not his kid, you never saw him as a father, and you’re an adult who is apparently capable of looking after yourself and your family.

You can ask to not hear about their gifts though. And you can stop spending time thinking about what to gift them.

They’re definitely not equal earners, but I can tell you this much, it wouldn’t hurt him financially to treat me the same. I just wish my own mom wasn’t so excited to brag about how wonderfully she/they treat her stepkids.



So what? What did you do to deserve the same treatment? Blood is blood.

I guess every fifth year or so the BLOOD mother could speak up and say she’d like to do something special for her own children, no?


She should probably get a job, then. He should not pay for gifts for wife's children, that's on her.