Anonymous wrote:The tree can be done tomorrow. The issue is he checks out every single Saturday. What would happen if you told him you had plans 2 saturdays from now and could get handle the kid stuff would he do it. He may feel like you have all this kid stuff to do and dont need him so started doing his own thing and now its gotten out of control.
Would u both go to counseling?

He’s gone every Saturday but he’s not just driving around every Saturday. It seems like they are each refusing to participate in activities the other finds important which is a problem. Counseling us only as helpful as the couple wants it to be and they don’t seem to want to work together.

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Anonymous wrote:You don’t have a child together. And each Saturday he is with his GF.

Just leave. Your kid will thank you too.

I don’t think her kid will thank her OP seems she’s on a 3 - 5 husband path.

If you are just going to be bitter and hateful why even bother responding?

Truth hurts.

It has nothing to do with truth.

Ops second marriage is on the verge of breaking up. It’s clear from her posts she has learned nothing and will at least go on to marry a third time with a similar outcome. Kids aren’t real crazy about having a new step parent every 7 years.

Wow, you got all that from my posts. I think you should try to make money predicting the future. You clearly have a gift.

Anonymous wrote:The tree can be done tomorrow. The issue is he checks out every single Saturday. What would happen if you told him you had plans 2 saturdays from now and could get handle the kid stuff would he do it. He may feel like you have all this kid stuff to do and dont need him so started doing his own thing and now its gotten out of control.
Would u both go to counseling?

I think that is a little bit of it. Before we got married I was handing all of this on my own and he was used to having Saturdays to do what he wanted. So I just continued to do my thing on Saturdays and have been leaving Sundays for us to hang out. I don’t think he is doing this to avoid me necessarily. It’s just what he has always done. I just don’t get why asking to change his plans for one weekend is that big of a deal.

Anonymous wrote:The tree can be done tomorrow. The issue is he checks out every single Saturday. What would happen if you told him you had plans 2 saturdays from now and could get handle the kid stuff would he do it. He may feel like you have all this kid stuff to do and dont need him so started doing his own thing and now its gotten out of control.
Would u both go to counseling?

Op. Probably shut him out of the kid stuff. It’s her kid and she doesn’t need him for anything, but sex.

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Anonymous wrote:You don’t have a child together. And each Saturday he is with his GF.

Just leave. Your kid will thank you too.

I don’t think her kid will thank her OP seems she’s on a 3 - 5 husband path.

If you are just going to be bitter and hateful why even bother responding?

Truth hurts.

It has nothing to do with truth.

Ops second marriage is on the verge of breaking up. It’s clear from her posts she has learned nothing and will at least go on to marry a third time with a similar outcome. Kids aren’t real crazy about having a new step parent every 7 years.

Does he smell like beer when he gets home? I would be very suspicious of this behavior. I suspect he is hanging out in a bar or with another woman or both. Does he have a favorite waitress?

The tree can be done tomorrow. The issue is he checks out every single Saturday. What would happen if you told him you had plans 2 saturdays from now and could get handle the kid stuff would he do it. He may feel like you have all this kid stuff to do and dont need him so started doing his own thing and now its gotten out of control.
Would u both go to counseling?

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Anonymous wrote:Just driving around?! F that. Weekends are family time.

You can drive around as a family.

Someone still has to get the homework, grocery shopping, birthday parties, cleaning and all of the other chores done.

That can all be done and you can drive around for an afternoon. Maybe not every weekend but sometimes. You don’t need to do heavy cleaning every weekend. Your kid doesn’t have a birthday every weekend and homework should not be saved to the last minute. Relationships take compromise and you seem to want complete control. If you want complete planning control get divorced.

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Anonymous wrote:Just driving around?! F that. Weekends are family time.

You can drive around as a family.

Someone still has to get the homework, grocery shopping, birthday parties, cleaning and all of the other chores done.

Yes, and OP said this:

"And yes, he is gone every Saturday all day whether it’s seeing friends or family or just driving around."

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Anonymous wrote:You don’t have a child together. And each Saturday he is with his GF.

Just leave. Your kid will thank you too.

I don’t think her kid will thank her OP seems she’s on a 3 - 5 husband path.

If you are just going to be bitter and hateful why even bother responding?

Truth hurts.

It has nothing to do with truth.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you ever join him on Saturdays to see his family or friends?

I can’t join him because my child has sports and tutoring which according to my husband takes up most of the day and leaves no room for fun. I am fine with doing something together in the afternoon but he doesn’t like sitting at home. I just can’t set aside every Saturday all day to drive around.

You have no time for him. He has no time for you and it sounds like he has moved on.

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Anonymous wrote:Just driving around?! F that. Weekends are family time.

You can drive around as a family.

Someone still has to get the homework, grocery shopping, birthday parties, cleaning and all of the other chores done.

Don’t you decorate the tree with your DH and child? You can do it in the evening anyway. Call him and ask with your voice what time he will be ready to get the tree or if you and DD can meet him there. Decorating is really an evening activity. Have a glass of wine, hot chocolate for kid, enjoy family time.

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Anonymous wrote:You don’t have a child together. And each Saturday he is with his GF.

Just leave. Your kid will thank you too.

I don’t think her kid will thank her OP seems she’s on a 3 - 5 husband path.

If you are just going to be bitter and hateful why even bother responding?

Truth hurts.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like he’s checked out of this marriage if he’s neglecting established traditions.

I would love to know how long they have been together?

She said 7 years in an earlier post.