Anonymous wrote:For those of you saying gather evidence - why? The advice on here is always that judges don’t care if there was cheating, it doesn’t get you anything more in a divorce or custody dispute

Courts understand the complexity of relationships.

For those of you saying gather evidence - why? The advice on here is always that judges don’t care if there was cheating, it doesn’t get you anything more in a divorce or custody dispute

Get therapy to find out why you chose this man.His alcoholism combined with the cheating are serious issues.

The best revenge is being happy. Get to the other side of this and focus on happier, healthier times.

I confronted right away, and wished I had taken at least a day or two to collect my thoughts first. Easier said than done.

Do get tested for STDs soon.

Anonymous wrote:Put ex lax in his coffee. A little revenge while you gather evidence and meet with a lawyer. Stay calm and start hiding cash. I put cash at a different bank in a safety deposit box. I slowly got up to 10 grand and made my move. Good luck.

Yeah op. Make him sh*t his brains out and get that bread while he's doing it. If you dose him up good you can easily scrounge up 10k while he's occupied.

Put ex lax in his coffee. A little revenge while you gather evidence and meet with a lawyer. Stay calm and start hiding cash. I put cash at a different bank in a safety deposit box. I slowly got up to 10 grand and made my move. Good luck.

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Anonymous wrote:Pretend you have something internal going on, vertigo or GI or “feminine” issues. When you’re ready, take your kids to your mother’s. At that time, have your lawyer meet your husband at his workplace. All future discussions include the attorney.

Shows your husband that you are cold-blooded and mean business.

Lawyers don't ambush the client's spouse. This isn't the movies, people.

LMAO!!!! If anything at all like this were to happen it would be a sheriffs deputy serving papers. Not a lawyer. Lmao this is so juvenile and ridiculous.

Agreed. I’ve had clients ask some strange requests close to this and the answer is always ummm...no. I mean I’m not trying to get my head blown off in the process!

Op, you doing okay this morning?

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Anonymous wrote:Pretend you have something internal going on, vertigo or GI or “feminine” issues. When you’re ready, take your kids to your mother’s. At that time, have your lawyer meet your husband at his workplace. All future discussions include the attorney.

Shows your husband that you are cold-blooded and mean business.

Lawyers don't ambush the client's spouse. This isn't the movies, people.

LMAO!!!! If anything at all like this were to happen it would be a sheriffs deputy serving papers. Not a lawyer. Lmao this is so juvenile and ridiculous.

I am so sorry. Do not confront. Gather evidence and pretend everything normal. Get documents in order. Do a consult with attorney. Take your time to figure out what you want. Play dumb for now —- resist impulse to tell all your friends - this is a poker game now.

Anonymous wrote:Pretend you have something internal going on, vertigo or GI or “feminine” issues. When you’re ready, take your kids to your mother’s. At that time, have your lawyer meet your husband at his workplace. All future discussions include the attorney.

Shows your husband that you are cold-blooded and mean business.

Lawyers don't ambush the client's spouse. This isn't the movies, people.

Pretend you have something internal going on, vertigo or GI or “feminine” issues. When you’re ready, take your kids to your mother’s. At that time, have your lawyer meet your husband at his workplace. All future discussions include the attorney.

Shows your husband that you are cold-blooded and mean business.

OP, please go get yourself tested for STDs. Very soon.

And the alcohol too. That trumps everything.

One other thing to add to the mix OP: be prepared that your DH -especially at this time of year-may make a move before you have a chance to implement all great advice above. If woman he’s been cheating with pressures him to leave (feeling abandoned during holidays or seeing new year as a deadline) be prepared for a fast fall into the unknown.

To me-the lies and cheating would be the end