Anonymous
Post 09/29/2018 10:13     Subject: Marriages in which the husband is 10-15 years older
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Anonymous wrote:I’ve got daddy issues. Growing up I had a rocky and distant relationship with my dad. I’ve never been close to him. This resulted in me feeling attracted to older men when it comes to relationships. I want a man who is kind of like a father figure, very caring and dotes on me. I don’t seem to find that in men who are slightly older than me. I just wanted to know if anyone is in a relationship where their man is 10-15 years older and whether you feel he’s a father figure and treats you like a princess? How would you compare it with your previous relationships with men who are say for example, 1-5 years older?

You don't need an older man for what you are looking for. Well, that is if you really want a man and not a father. I am over 10 years older than my wife and I don't treat her like a daughter and would never want to be a father figure to her.

And as for those who talk about nursing them in later years...it can go both ways regardless of age.


+1 my husband is 15 years older than me and he is nothing like my dad (who I’m very close to!) and a father figure is the absolute last thing I want out of marriage. I know 3 other couples with this age gap and none of them have this dynamic either.

But OP *IS* looking for a father figure.


I wasn’t very clear in my OP and what I meant by father figure. I want a man with fatherly qualities and dotes on me. I don’t feel that with guys 1-4 years older.
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2018 10:10     Subject: Marriages in which the husband is 10-15 years older
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’ve got daddy issues. Growing up I had a rocky and distant relationship with my dad. I’ve never been close to him. This resulted in me feeling attracted to older men when it comes to relationships. I want a man who is kind of like a father figure, very caring and dotes on me. I don’t seem to find that in men who are slightly older than me. I just wanted to know if anyone is in a relationship where their man is 10-15 years older and whether you feel he’s a father figure and treats you like a princess? How would you compare it with your previous relationships with men who are say for example, 1-5 years older?

You don't need an older man for what you are looking for. Well, that is if you really want a man and not a father. I am over 10 years older than my wife and I don't treat her like a daughter and would never want to be a father figure to her.

And as for those who talk about nursing them in later years...it can go both ways regardless of age.


What I meant by ‘father figure’ was a man with paternal qualities and life experience. I don’t seem attracted to guys a few years older and friend zone them. But I feel attracted to an older guy in the sense that I can emotionally connect to him and he’ll be able to support me emotionally, like giving me advice, having wisdom. It’s more the father qualities in a man that I find attractive. Are my expectations realistic?
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2018 10:08     Subject: Marriages in which the husband is 10-15 years older
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’ve got daddy issues. Growing up I had a rocky and distant relationship with my dad. I’ve never been close to him. This resulted in me feeling attracted to older men when it comes to relationships. I want a man who is kind of like a father figure, very caring and dotes on me. I don’t seem to find that in men who are slightly older than me. I just wanted to know if anyone is in a relationship where their man is 10-15 years older and whether you feel he’s a father figure and treats you like a princess? How would you compare it with your previous relationships with men who are say for example, 1-5 years older?

You don't need an older man for what you are looking for. Well, that is if you really want a man and not a father. I am over 10 years older than my wife and I don't treat her like a daughter and would never want to be a father figure to her.

And as for those who talk about nursing them in later years...it can go both ways regardless of age.


+1 my husband is 15 years older than me and he is nothing like my dad (who I’m very close to!) and a father figure is the absolute last thing I want out of marriage. I know 3 other couples with this age gap and none of them have this dynamic either.

But OP *IS* looking for a father figure.
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2018 10:08     Subject: Marriages in which the husband is 10-15 years older
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Anonymous wrote:Here's how it ends... you'll be a caregiver to your elderly husband and then a widow for 30 years.


And if you marry a guy your age, you'll be a caregiver to your elderly husband and then a widow for 15 years. Which is so much better, for some unknown reason.


A family friend is 84. His wife who was 15 years younger just died of cancer. He took care of her the last year before she died.

anecdotal. Women out live men even when the same age. Tack on 15 years, and chances are she'll be young widow.
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2018 10:07     Subject: Marriages in which the husband is 10-15 years older
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Anonymous wrote:What about 6 to 9 years, OP? Is that considered "daddy" issues or not?


I prefer he’s a decade older. I just want someone to replace and give me that care that I never had whilst growing up. I view older men as emotionally stable.

How old are you OP? Do you want children?


I’m in my 20s. Yes I want kids and don’t mind if he has kids.

A 40 year old man might be ok with having a newborn, but I cannot imagine most 50+ yr old men will want a newborn.


I'd enjoy having a baby in the house. I'm 55.

You'd enjoy the fun part, but not the hard work, which you would leave up to your younger wife to do. Trump also enjoys having children; he just doesn't enjoy taking care of them.
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2018 10:07     Subject: Marriages in which the husband is 10-15 years older
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Here's how it ends... you'll be a caregiver to your elderly husband and then a widow for 30 years.


And if you marry a guy your age, you'll be a caregiver to your elderly husband and then a widow for 15 years. Which is so much better, for some unknown reason.


A family friend is 84. His wife who was 15 years younger just died of cancer. He took care of her the last year before she died.
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2018 10:05     Subject: Marriages in which the husband is 10-15 years older
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:What about 6 to 9 years, OP? Is that considered "daddy" issues or not?


I prefer he’s a decade older. I just want someone to replace and give me that care that I never had whilst growing up. I view older men as emotionally stable.

How old are you OP? Do you want children?


I’m in my 20s. Yes I want kids and don’t mind if he has kids.

A 40 year old man might be ok with having a newborn, but I cannot imagine most 50+ yr old men will want a newborn.


I'd enjoy having a baby in the house. I'm 55.
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2018 08:12     Subject: Re:Marriages in which the husband is 10-15 years older
A family friend is 60 years old. Her husband passed at age 74. The last two years of his life she was his caregiver and a nurse. She also took care of all of his affairs. She is now a widow without children. She also had strong daddy issues. It’s not worth it. Seek therapy.
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2018 07:35     Subject: Marriages in which the husband is 10-15 years older
How about therapy first?
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2018 07:31     Subject: Marriages in which the husband is 10-15 years older
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’ve got daddy issues. Growing up I had a rocky and distant relationship with my dad. I’ve never been close to him. This resulted in me feeling attracted to older men when it comes to relationships. I want a man who is kind of like a father figure, very caring and dotes on me. I don’t seem to find that in men who are slightly older than me. I just wanted to know if anyone is in a relationship where their man is 10-15 years older and whether you feel he’s a father figure and treats you like a princess? How would you compare it with your previous relationships with men who are say for example, 1-5 years older?

You don't need an older man for what you are looking for. Well, that is if you really want a man and not a father. I am over 10 years older than my wife and I don't treat her like a daughter and would never want to be a father figure to her.

And as for those who talk about nursing them in later years...it can go both ways regardless of age.


+1 my husband is 15 years older than me and he is nothing like my dad (who I’m very close to!) and a father figure is the absolute last thing I want out of marriage. I know 3 other couples with this age gap and none of them have this dynamic either.
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2018 07:26     Subject: Marriages in which the husband is 10-15 years older
Anonymous wrote:If you’re in your 20s, then you’re considering guys 30s-mid 40s? Is that even old enough to be father like? My husband and I are both in that age bracket, as are all of our friends. Everyone seems young... a bit more responsible and settled than in our 20s, but not yet to a place where any of us is feeling “parental” toward people in their 20s. I would also note that, anecdotally, the 30s guys I know who date 10 years younger tend to be the LEAST mature of the bunch.


+1. There's a reason no one else wanted them.
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2018 03:27     Subject: Marriages in which the husband is 10-15 years older
If you’re in your 20s, then you’re considering guys 30s-mid 40s? Is that even old enough to be father like? My husband and I are both in that age bracket, as are all of our friends. Everyone seems young... a bit more responsible and settled than in our 20s, but not yet to a place where any of us is feeling “parental” toward people in their 20s. I would also note that, anecdotally, the 30s guys I know who date 10 years younger tend to be the LEAST mature of the bunch.
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2018 00:03     Subject: Marriages in which the husband is 10-15 years older
Anonymous wrote:I’ve got daddy issues. Growing up I had a rocky and distant relationship with my dad. I’ve never been close to him. This resulted in me feeling attracted to older men when it comes to relationships. I want a man who is kind of like a father figure, very caring and dotes on me. I don’t seem to find that in men who are slightly older than me. I just wanted to know if anyone is in a relationship where their man is 10-15 years older and whether you feel he’s a father figure and treats you like a princess? How would you compare it with your previous relationships with men who are say for example, 1-5 years older?

You don't need an older man for what you are looking for. Well, that is if you really want a man and not a father. I am over 10 years older than my wife and I don't treat her like a daughter and would never want to be a father figure to her.

And as for those who talk about nursing them in later years...it can go both ways regardless of age.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2018 23:59     Subject: Marriages in which the husband is 10-15 years older
Anonymous wrote:It gets old (no pun intended!) fast. They tend to slow down long before you do, which is very frustrating. I still want to go out, have new experiences, socialize, etc and he just wants to watch tv and complain about work/politics/his 401k.

What I wouldn't do for a guy 10 years my junior.....

Sorry that's it as it is in your situation but that doesn't mean it's the same in all cases.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2018 22:00     Subject: Marriages in which the husband is 10-15 years older
OP, just follow the Formula:

(younger person's age) >= (older person's age)/2 + 7

If you are 25, you should probably stick with men between 20 and 36 years of age.